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The Pretty Pink Pussy Preoccupation

Lissa Rankin's picture

pink pussyOkay, Pinkies. This may seem a bit off topic, but something bizarre came to my attention today, and I feel called to comment on it. Curious about how much traffic we are getting on Owning Pink (lots! thank you!), my husband decided to investigate where our traffic was coming from. What did he discover? Bunches of you are typing in www.owningpink.com and showing up to the Pink Party (woo hoo!). Others are clicking over from Twitter. But the majority of you are popping up via Google, which shouldn’t surprise me, I guess, big behemoth that Google is. But what DOES surprise me is what search term most commonly lands people at Owning Pink.

Matt asked me to guess. I was thinking authenticity. Or maybe empowerment. Health, creativity, spirituality, real you- that kind of thing. BUT NO. The most commonly searched term that lands people at Owning Pink is “pretty pussy.” Oh come on! Really? All this work we’ve done to build something beautiful- to create authentic community, empower your sense of self, and encourage you to let your freak flag fly, and you’re showing up for The Pretty Pink Pussy Tour? (Which is a sex ed kind of post and is so benign and UN-sexy it probably completely disappoints the people hunting on Google for pretty pussies.)

Does Porn Really Rule the World?
Got me thinking about what our society prioritizes. Sure, Owning Sexuality is part of the Owning Pink lifestyle, and I’m all for it- don’t get me wrong. But seriously, people. Why are you all out there searching for Pretty Pussy when you could be interacting, loving, creating, even finding yourself some real, live pretty pussy to nurture and adore? I’m not judging. If porn is what you need to get off, or if it spices up your deep connection to your lover, go for it. I just hope you don’t completely objectify those pretty pussies for the sake of your orgasm. I hope you respect the fact that these women are human beings- real live people with families and bills to pay, who eat sandwiches for lunch and dream about what they want to be when they grow up, just like the rest of us. They wonder what to wear in the morning, pick up groceries at the store, and worry about their thighs. They might have pretty pussies, but many of them also have pretty hearts, brilliant brains, and beautiful souls. Just because they choose to (or are forced to) take their clothes off for a camera doesn’t mean they don’t feel everything the rest of us feel.

Pretty Pussies Are People Too
Not to be a buzz kill, but some of these women have been sexually objectified from the time they were little children. They don’t know how to value themselves other than through their bodies. Many live in impoverished countries or societies where women don’t have the power to earn a decent living. Some women figure society objectifies beautiful women anyway, so they might as well get paid for it. I guess I knew that the internet is filled with porn and people looking for it- and again, fine by me. What you do in the privacy of your own home is your business. But do me- and all the pretty pink pussies on the internet- a favor.
Humanize the pussy, please. Respect the person attached to that yoni, and let that respect overflow into the world at large. Those of us with pretty pink pussies (and beautiful hearts, souls, and spirits to boot) are grateful.


The one consolation from our Google discovery today is that all you people searching for Pretty Pussy who wind up on Owning Pink stick around for an extraordinary length of time. Seems that those of you who end up here by accident find it a happy accident, and for this we feel honored. The lesson I take away from this is that we all want permission to be loved, accepted, and whole, even those of us searching for porn on the internet. We welcome you too, whoever you are.

Much more than a pretty pussy,

Lissa

PS. Of course, this post will, yet again, attract all you Pretty Pussy lovers. Psych! Gotcha again. Didn’t mean to trick you, but glad you stopped by. Welcome.

Comments

Lissa Rankin's picture

You all keep cracking me up!

You all keep cracking me up! I guess- whatever it takes to empower people! I dare you all- write a pretty pussy piece for your blog and see what happens! Then report back to me. Can't wait to hear if the same holds true for the rest of you!

RockstarCarlene's picture

This entry had me rolling. I

This entry had me rolling. I agree with Leslee Horner about needing a "pretty pussy" entry for my blog, http://rockstarcarlene.com.

My opinion on it is, if that's the phrase getting people to your site, and they're helping you pay the bills, excellent. Then, maybe when they're here for a bit they will walk away a little more informed!

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Lissa Rankin's picture

So funny, Lorraine! It's

So funny, Lorraine! It's crazy, isn't it? We put all this valuable information out there on the internet but score readership from horndogs? Oh well. As long as they wind up there and learn something!

Rookiemommy's picture

That's hilarious! On our site

That's hilarious! On our site we tend to mention boobs a lot in relation to breastfeeding and every day, without fail, the list of search engine terms for traffic to our site will include something like "Moms big breastfeeding boobs". Now, call me suspicious, but I very much doubt these are moms looking for breastfeeding advice.

Billy Shears's picture

I'll giggle too. Off the

I'll giggle too. Off the record, of course.

Lissa Rankin's picture

You all crack me up! Sure,

You all crack me up! Sure, Leslee- I dare you- write a Pretty Pussy entry- watch your hits skyrocket!

And Billy, thanks for the honesty (and the grin). And yes, I do prefer Yoni myself (that's what I call MY girl parts and so does my 3 yr old). But I've discovered that it's different if you're a woman (especially an OB/GYN) calling it a pussy vs a man calling it a pussy. Just think of Eve Ensler and Reclaiming Cunt http://www.vday.org/anniversary-events/video/cunt

(I saw Vagina Monologues with my parents and my mom crossed her legs so tight she made a pretzel out of her calves and knees).

A lesbian I once met said, "You gotta love a gynecologist who can say the word Pussy without flinching." I took that as a compliment- she meant it as one...

So I honor what you say, Billy. And yes, please- for the sake of women and your respect for them- please keep calling it Yoni. But for me, sometimes you just gotta say Pussy (and giggle a little afterwards!)

And Christa, hysterical about the boxer in a thong! Please, post it for us!

Christa's picture

Being found via Google for

Being found via Google for the term Pretty Pussy is HYSTERICAL! Hey, who cares how they find you - just as long as they do!

I recall having a surge of hits at my site when I blogged about a young female wearing thongs. It was really a teaser for my readers - when they got to the post they found a photo of my female boxer dog wearing a pair of Giggle On thongs. She wasn't really wearing them, I just placed them on her hind quarters. I had a lot of hits from Europe as I recall, Amsterdam specifically....hummmmmmm

Billy Shears's picture

I have to admit it was your

I have to admit it was your earlier blogs about Yoni that got me here in the first place. If it makes you feel any better, I think Yoni is fascinating but pussy is offensive. I think you'll agree there is a difference.

Leslee Horner's picture

Maybe I need to write a

Maybe I need to write a pretty pussy entry for my blog...

Lissa Rankin's picture

Glad you stumbled across us,

Glad you stumbled across us, Janis (we won't tell if you were google searching Pretty Pussy- Just kidding!) So happy to have you here.

Janis Foley's picture

That post is just hilarious

That post is just hilarious to me - but hey, they stumble in by accident and stay for a while! That's cool!

I don't even remember how I found you Lissa... I know I wasn't searching for porn - but I'm glad I found your website! ♥

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