Hiya Pinkies. I wanted to bring up a topic we seem to have completely avoided on Owning Pink- money.
Why have we avoided this like the plague? I’m not sure. It’s as if talking about money is akin to ignoring the big red birthmark on your Aunt Lydia’s face that you can’t help staring at because it’s right in the middle of her cheek. Money is an issue. Let’s face it. Especially in these trying economic times, many of us are struggling- myself included. Do we think that talking about money will lead others to believe we’re not as important/skilled/valuable? Are we afraid we’ll start comparing ourselves to each other? Do we feel like it diminishes our worth? Do we prefer to pretend that we’re all rolling in the dough because we’re all superstars who wear Jimmy Choos and drive Beemers? Are we afraid to admit our vulnerabilities, scared to give voice to our fears and limitations? Are we just avoiding the subject because it’s so scary and painful? Does it seem too unspiritual to discuss in this community of love and understanding? Is it simply too gauche to trouble ourselves with something so material?
Pleaping=Risk
I say let’s lay it on the table, Pinkies. Many of us - especially those of us taking Pleaps (pink leaps of faith), who are risking everything to pursue a dream - struggle financially. We’ve quit our day jobs, dug into our retirement accounts (if we ever had them in the first place), invested money in our dreams, and we’re sitting there… waiting and becoming… preparing for our dream to grow wings and take off. But in the interim… we’re pinching pennies and feeling the squeeze.
The Risk I’m Taking Personally
I speak from experience here. Three years ago, I quit my fancy six-figure full-partner doctor job to Pleap for the first time. I gave up my health insurance, the hefty contribution my company made towards my retirement account, and a guaranteed salary. I sold my San Diego bay-view house, rented, and lived off the income for two years while I wrote a book, did some painting, and brought in almost no money. (My MBA husband - who is the peachiest peach of a guy - has the full-time job of supporting me: a very busy, unpaying job in and of itself.) Then, inspired to launch Owning Pink, I borrowed money from my mother to pay the salaries of five people on the Owning Pink team (“Mom, where’s the checkbook?”)
At the same time, I started practicing medicine again - which required buying tens of thousands of dollars of medical equipment. But I could only work one day per week, because I was so busy building Owning Pink and writing my next book that I didn’t have time to see more patients. I’m here to tell you that not every doctor out there rakes in the cash. And now I’m leaving my current medical practice to launch the Owning Pink Wellness Center, which requires - yet again - investment in the dream. And so we are liquidating our retirement account to pay for my new practice and to invest in allowing Owning Pink to grow in a big way. Owning Pink is expanding to hold the space for all of you, to meet the needs you’ve asked us to meet, to accommodate the growing number of Pinkies, and to encourage each of you to take the next steps in your lives as we walk the Pink path together. We’ll be launching workshops nationally, upping the ante for how you can transform your life, giving voice to even more coaches and healers within our community, improving the opportunities for you Pinkies to be heard and connected, and making the site more user-friendly so you can find just the inspiration you need right when you want it. To make this happen, of course, requires MONEY. Yup, there’s that nasty word again. Ah yes, it’s true. It’s money I don’t have. But I’m not letting this stop me. Because I believe in Owning Pink. I believe in what we’ve co-created. I believe in us.
Let’s Talk about Money, Pinkies!
Why am I telling you all this? Didn’t my mother teach me it’s not polite to talk about money? Yes, she did (sorry, Mom!) Don’t I want to portray an image of financial success so all of you think I’m rolling in moo-lah, so I delude you into believing I’ve got it all? Uh, no. That’s not what Owning Pink is about at all. It’s about owning the truth, right? The truth is that this is where I am right now. And chances are, many of you are right there with me.
I Believe It’s Worth It
The reason I’m telling you all this is because, in spite of the financial challenges in my family’s life right now, I believe in me. I believe that following your dreams pays off in the long run and that you can’t let fear run your life. I believe that abundance follows those courageous enough to risk everything for the life they long to live. I trust that the Universe doesn’t challenge us with situations we can’t handle. I have faith in the process, and if my process means I need to cut back on luxuries, borrow money, and live smaller for a while, so be it. I’m game. And I’m not scared. I believe abundance will follow.
Am I delusional? Maybe. I try not to think too much about it, because when I think, the gremlins of fear, self-doubt, and insecurity weasel their way into my consciousness. But when I feel - well, I feel two things at once. Part of me feels afraid, but the other part - the deep voice that has led me through my fantastic life to date - is just so excited, and completely certain that all of my trust, financial investment, hard work, dedication, and courage will pay off … not just in monetary gain, but in inner peace (which is the ultimate definition of success, isn’t it?)
Let’s Own Abundance Together
So I’d like to invite you to rally with me. Times are tough - yes. But we need not be limited by beliefs that tell us we can’t take risk, that we can’t afford our dreams, that it’s not worth investing in ourselves. If thoughts become things, then why would we want to muddy our minds with such negative thinking? Personally, I believe that sometimes the Universe pushes us all the way to the edge of our comfort zone - and then a little beyond - just to make sure we’re seriously committed to our dreams and really ready deep down to live them. If we’re not ready, we’re not ready and that’s okay. (Don’t Pleap if you’re not really ready!) Confused about how to know it’s Pleaping time? Listen deep inside and if the answer is, “go for it,” then don’t look back. If it didn’t require this level of introspection and facing our fears, we wouldn’t be called to declare our level of commitment. But when everything is on the line, then you’re either in or you’re out. It’s not a Pleap if you don’t jump.
Are You In?
Me - I’m in. All the way. Balls (or ovaries) out. Risking everything. Trusting the process. Believing in myself. Pleaping like mad. I’m free falling (or to steal Joy’s oh-so-apt term “Face planting”- the line between the two is fine indeed). It’s not that I don’t feel fear. It’s that I’ve decided not to let fear rule my decisions. Call me crazy…or call me a visionary. I don’t care. Either way, I’m in. Wheeeeeeeeeeeeeee!!!!!!!!!!
What about you, Pinkies? Are you in?
A few affirmations you might repeat to yourself often:
What affirmations do you use, Pinkies? Are you ready to let go of your financial fears and invest in YOU?
Inviting you to hold my hand while we Pleap together,
Lissa
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Dearest Pinkies- I HEAR YOU!
By Lissa Rankin on Tuesday, 02/09/2010 at 9:06 PMDearest Pinkies- I HEAR YOU! I FEEL YOU! I SEE YOU! These feelings are real and we can be with them- live with them- overcome them- LIVE them. Loving you Lissa
Lissa, Thank you for
By Alisa DiLorenzo (not verified) on Tuesday, 02/09/2010 at 7:25 PMLissa,
Thank you for bringing such a difficult subject out into the open. My husband and I were deep in debt until we made a conscious decision to change our life and be free of the strangle hold that our finances had over us. It's been 7 years and the only debt that we have is our mortgage. We are open and honest about our finances-the good and the bad- and encourage others to take control of their money instead of having it control them.
Alisa
Oooooo, Stacey! Love that
By Dana Theus on Tuesday, 02/09/2010 at 4:50 PMOooooo, Stacey! Love that intention: "I have plenty and plenty to share." Love love love it. Thank you so much and good luck in your pleaping!
Love, Light and Plenty ~Dana
Thanks so much Lissa for your
By Stacey (not verified) on Tuesday, 02/09/2010 at 4:36 PMThanks so much Lissa for your thoughtful, heart-ful article! (And, of course, as I tweeted earlier from clinic: SO awesome that you received that acknowledgment from the Forbes folks and SO well-deserved!)
I feel fortunate that I love my "work-a-day" (and night!) job as a midwife that supports my family's modest needs. I have always "supported" my husband financially so he can do the writing that he loves (but *so far* is not lucrative).
But in the last year my husband and I also liquidated our savings ($18K) to support my business and it is a huge PLEAP that leaves me feeling more anxious than I like to admit! So thank you SO much for barring yourself so honestly - it is SO heartening!
Oh, and I just found this quote on my Twitter stream from @ZnaTrainer and think it is the perfect compliment to this article:
"Cherish your visions & your dreams, as they are the children of your soul, the blueprints of your ultimate achievements."~Napoleon Hill
I love the affirmations you and others shared! One of my favorites is "I have plenty and plenty to share."
Thanks so much Lissa and Pinkies! I love you all!
I am SO glad that you wrote
By Heather Rae (not verified) on Tuesday, 02/09/2010 at 1:35 PMI am SO glad that you wrote this post! Thank you, thank you for your honesty and being so bold. I just took my first REAL pleap, and some days, it totally freaks me out. Most of the time, though, I just know that it's right - I made the absolute best decision for me, and I believe that abundance will follow (well, someday anyhow). :)
Angela- AMEN, sister! Here's
By Lissa Rankin on Tuesday, 02/09/2010 at 12:35 PMAngela- AMEN, sister! Here's to Pleaping, indeed. Know what? I wouldn't undo a single Pleap I've taken. Every one has brought untold blessings and joy- and i just have to believe that the money will follow. How can it not? It seems the natural next step when you're doing what you love and putting forth the best of yourself into the world...
Lissa ~ Congrats on being
By Angela (not verified) on Tuesday, 02/09/2010 at 12:29 PMLissa ~ Congrats on being listed in Forbes!! What an awesome achievement. This article is right on time for me as well. I was laid off about 14 months ago and since then have been building my coaching business. It has it challenges but I love what I do and want to empower every woman to go after her dreams and have a career she loves. Let's do It!! I am all in and I love the affirmations. They are going on my mirror today.
Leap and the Net will Appear. here's to Pleaping!
xo
Angela
Ah......Amy....sending you a
By Lissa Rankin on Tuesday, 02/09/2010 at 12:20 PMAh......Amy....sending you a big WOO HOO! Fly, baby, fly. We know you can do it!
And Joy and Marilyn, I believe in you both. WE CAN DO IT, PInkies!!!! xoxo
Lissa, Wow, you continue to
By amy (not verified) on Tuesday, 02/09/2010 at 12:18 PMLissa, Wow, you continue to amaze me. You are an inspiration, a catalyst, and such an incredible ally.
I'm on the precipice and am about to take a Pleap ... yup, I just did it. You're my witness!
The air sure feels nice out here.
So much gratitude to you, brave and wise one.
Love, Amy
Lissa, I lovelovelove this
By Marilyn LoRusso (not verified) on Tuesday, 02/09/2010 at 9:33 AMLissa, I lovelovelove this post! I too have left my "work" and am clearly focusing on my "play" in life! What brilliance, love, joy and FUN can I bring to the world... I love your vision for your Center, your honesty and your pleaps! You are an amazing woman who shines your light on everything you do... You inspire me to continue pleaping... just in the last few days I have had some clear visions on what makes my heart sing...I am dreaming, imagining and seeing it manifested - knowing that taking the joyful path each day is the way to FEEL ourselves to our greatness...
"Money comes easily and frequently"
with alot of love and in joy, Marilyn
Damn, sister. I sooo needed
By Joy Mazzola on Tuesday, 02/09/2010 at 8:58 AMDamn, sister. I sooo needed this. Even though I've been riding on your raft and am more or less aware of what's going on for you, to see it all laid out like this was at once so freeing, empowering, and relieving to me.
The rest of the comment I began to write was getting blog post in length, so I'm going to spill it all over on the posse blog. Thank you for inspiring me to have this conversation for myself. Maybe I am, once and for all, on the path to owning abundance.
And CONGRATS to you Ms. Forbes. Holy shnikies. Abundance indeed. It's all happening. I love you.
Oh, thank you dear Pinkies.
By Lissa Rankin on Tuesday, 02/09/2010 at 8:47 AMOh, thank you dear Pinkies. Your warm word of encouragement continue to serve as beacons upon my path. With love and SO much gratitude, Lissa
Thank you Lissa for your
By Caroline D Bobart (not verified) on Tuesday, 02/09/2010 at 8:44 AMThank you Lissa for your wonderful post! Your reminder for us to ask for and allow that which expands us, rather than accept a woeful, poverty mindset is so apt, I know for myself and for many others.
I really look forward to seeing how everyone's collective consciousness, intent, involvement and support helps the new Owning Pink Wellness Center evolve and further nourish and support this beautiful community. It does feel like such a welcome, natural step up and one which I know, took a lot of courage to birth.
Warmest Congraulations on being one of the Forbes' 20 Most Inspiring Women to Follow! What a wonderful validation from the universe that you've continually been stepping into your truth and allowing your big heart and grand, capable and creative spirit to shine into the world!
xx Caroline
Lissa, I know exactly how
By Fred (not verified) on Tuesday, 02/09/2010 at 8:41 AMLissa,
I know exactly how you feel. I too walked away from a very lucrative 6-figure income and career with a global Fortune 50 company. I had just been promoted to vice president and mananged over 100 people and a multi-million dollar marketing budget. I was actually on track to become president one day when I walked away from it. I decided that I wanted to make a difference and help people in different ways. So, I went off to pursue my career as a bodyworker and coach. It was the best decision I ever made. I began to lead from the heart, not from my head and my heart has taken me to a place of true happiness. It hasn't been a perfect journey; there have been many bumps along the way. But, I can tell you that as long as I keep my heart out there, the universe has always come through for me. It will do the same for you. Although we are many thousands of miles apart, I can feel your heart beating every day.
Love and happiness, Fred
Lissa I'm overjoyed for you.
By Dana Theus on Tuesday, 02/09/2010 at 7:10 AMLissa I'm overjoyed for you. Not just because I can feel the delight and strength and courage you exude but because I know my my bones that you are on a path to success (not just cuz Forbes said so, but that's nice confirmation).
I am also aware from watching you - and looking a little more closely at my own life - that the Pleaping path is not just a pleap or two, it is a constant, daily practice to release our limitations and pursue the dreams living inside us. Living this way, there is nowhere to go but up, but it IS a practice and a commitment, not a one time thing.
I have just been given a new abundance intention which I adore. I share it with you all in the hopes that together we will become a thriving community in every sense of the word:
"I AM abundance. I draw to me all the wealth and resources I need to support the world that I touch, my family, my friends and myself."
Spread the wealth. Spread the joy. It all comes back to us.
Love, Light and Blessings ~Dana
OMG! It's a Sign From the
By Lissa Rankin on Tuesday, 02/09/2010 at 7:05 AMOMG! It's a Sign From the Universe Pinkies! I wrote this post this am- and then- literally 15 minutes later, I found out I was included in the Forbes List of 20 Inspiring Women to Follow on Twitter
http://www.forbes.com/2010/02/08/inspirational-women-twitter-forbes-woman-leadership-social-media.html?boxes=Homepagechannels
FORBES! And I just wrote about money for the first time EVER. Coincidence? I think not...
Namaste, dear ones Lissa
Your post could not be more
By Donna (not verified) on Tuesday, 02/09/2010 at 6:59 AMYour post could not be more timely for me. In October I walked away from a lucrative career I had been building for 25 years at a time when none of it made sense on paper...at all. That said...I have no regrets and know I have done the right thing...I am in such a better place and I still trust in that leap of faith I took...and believe if I follow my heart...abundance and all that I will need will be there! THANK YOU!
Let's Do It!
By Sarah K (not verified) on Tuesday, 02/09/2010 at 6:33 AMLet's Do It!