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20 Tips For Being Beautiful From the Inside Out

Lissa Rankin's picture

"Rainbow Woman," artwork by Rita Lloyd, (c) 2004

As women, we are inundated with messages that we are not beautiful enough just the way we are. We must pluck, dye, lose weight, wax, exfoliate, tone, manicure, highlight, paint, flatten, inject, and dress in haute couture to be “beautiful.” Well, I’m here to say, on behalf of women everywhere- bullshit.

Recently, someone said to me, “Beauty is health,” and I found myself cringing. After all, I know some supermodels who smoke crack, binge and then purge, and suffer from a weak heart. But they make it into the Sports Illustrated swimsuit edition, and by most American standards, they are "beautiful". When I heard this comment, I found myself flipping it around in my head. I'd argue that “Health is beauty.” When I see someone taking steps towards whole health, when I see a body being nurtured, a loving mind, and a bright, sparkly spirit, I see true beauty.

It may sound cliché, but I genuinely believe beauty comes from within. So I’d like to write the kind of beauty article you’ll never see in Cosmo. Not that you shouldn’t put on eyeliner if it makes you feel pretty or get a pedicure when you feel like treating yourself, but I believe that if you follow these tips, you’ll positively radiate.

20 Inner Beauty Tips
  1. Keep your heart open. See others with Magical Eyes and let love glow through you. Look beyond the masks people wear and see the beauty within them.
  2. Begin each day with thoughts of gratitude. Appreciate every experience, even the challenges.
  3. End each day by relaxing every muscle in your body. Start at your scalp and allow each hair follicle to breathe. Move to your forehead, your cheeks, your temples, your smile lines (call it natural Botox!). Relax your shoulders and watch then un-hunch. Relax your chest, your belly, your hands, your perineum, your hips, your knees, your ankles, your toes. Allow every part of your body to soften.
  4. Eat a whole foods diet. For extra glow, include as many raw foods as possible.
  5. Allow 10 minutes per day for stillness. Meditate, pray, breathe- just be quiet with yourself.
  6. Affirm your inner beauty. Make positive statements of affirmation to yourself (i.e., “I approve of myself. I am valuable. I am loving and lovable. I am abundant.”) Say them. BELIEVE them.
  7. Donate your time or money to helping the world. Being in service to those in need helps illuminate the bright shiny light within you.
  8. Exercise at least 30 minutes each day. Even if it’s just a walk around the block, getting your juices pumping helps quiet the mind, tone the body, ground you, and nurture the spirit.
  9. Release judgments and criticisms. Accept that all of us are doing the best we can, imperfect though our actions may be. Give us the benefit of the doubt as we strive to be the best we can.
  10. Let your creativity flow. Find a way to express yourself and allow yourself time to tend the creative spark within you.
  11. Smile often. Not only will it benefit your health, but it will touch others. Even better, laugh out loud. Try laughter yoga. One elderly lady wakes up each morning in her nursing home, laughs like mad, wiggles her arms and legs in bed, and screams, “I’m alive! I’m alive!” The nursing home attendants swear it’s her fountain of youth.
  12. Have orgasms. Often. As regularly as possible. With or without a partner. Talk about inner beauty…
  13. Be authentic. Tell the truth to yourself and others. Let your freak flag fly. Living outside of your own authenticity is never pretty.
  14. Engage in work you love. Nothing like a job you despise to make you scowl.
  15. Tend your spirit. Find spiritual community in a church, temple, mosque, or yoga class. Commune with the Divine. Let your aura sparkle.
  16. Be free. Dance. Sing at the top of your lungs. Run. Scream. Paint outside the lines. Yodel during sex. Scatter daisies around the boardroom. Pass out balloons. Give free hugs. Get unstuck and set your inner freak free.
  17. Pamper your body. If it makes you feel beautiful to wear lip gloss, give yourself a facial, take a long hot bath with lavendar bath salts, get a massage, or deep condition your hair, go for it! But do it for you- not for anyone else.
  18. Avoid being mean. It’s a sure way to negate beauty.
  19. Practice preventative health. Why wait until something goes wrong?
  20. Look in the mirror every day and say, “I am beautiful, just the way I am.”

Try it and report back. What works for you? What other inner beauty tips do you have? Let’s shake up the beauty industry and show ‘em what true beauty is all about.

Beautifully yours,


Lissa Rankin's picture

Oh thank you sweetie!

Oh thank you sweetie! Welcome! Yeah..Cosmo. They say it's for us girls, but I just can't read it without jonesing for a Valium. I mean- seriously. It's the opposite of what I'm all about...

Thanks for your sweet words!

Kelly~'s picture

Phenomenal!!! Love it, Love

Phenomenal!!! Love it, Love it, Love it!!!! You rock! Cancelled my subscription to Cosmo years ago (too many to count....;-) But, I'm subscribing here!!

erin rogers pickering's picture

Lissa - I love this list!! I

Lissa - I love this list!! I will be printing it out to keep as my daily reminder. Thanks!!

Lissa Rankin's picture

Oooh- I LOVE it Danielle!

Oooh- I LOVE it Danielle! Thanks for sharing, sweetie. xoxo

Danielle Vieth's picture

Lissa- This is such a great

Lissa- This is such a great list- straight from your sparkly spirit.

Another favorite list is from Sam Levenson that was Audrey Hepburn's favorite.

For attractive lips, speak words of kindness.

For lovely eyes, seek out the good in people.

For a slim figure, share your food with the hungry.

For beautiful hair, let a child run his or her fingers through it once a day.

For poise, walk with the knowledge you'll never walk alone.

People, even more than things, have to be restored, renewed, revived, reclaimed, and redeemed; Never throw out anybody.

Remember, If you ever need a helping hand, you'll find one at the end of your arm.

As you grow older, you will discover that you have two hands, one for helping yourself, the other for helping others.

The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman must be seen from in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides.

The beauty of a woman is not in a facial mole, but true beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It is the caring that she lovingly gives, the passion that she shows, and the beauty of a woman with passing years only grows!

- Sam Levenson

The beauty in you honors the beauty in me.

Danielle xoxo

Lissa Rankin's picture

Victoria, share with us your

Victoria, share with us your Southern Charm blog! We'd love to read it.

And Stacey- YES. Loving touch is so valuable- and most of us don't get nearly enough of it. Brilliant addition. Thank you Pinkies!

Stacey's picture

I love this list, Lissa! I

I love this list, Lissa!

I think the thing that makes me feel most beautiful is giving and receiving loving touch: I always marvel at my body whenever I can, but I make it a ritual when I'm in the shower every day.

Simply touching someone you love often throughout the day – and the "someone" could be YOU or a pet – is proven to raise levels of oxytocin which reduces stress and increases feelings of happy connection - with yourself *and* others.

Thanks again, Lissa, for this lovely inspiration, support and encouragement! xxoo, s

Victoria Loveland-Coen's picture

Love your ideas here. I've

Love your ideas here. I've shared with all my sites as a "must read" for every woman. Interestingly I wrote this morning on the qualities of true "Southern Charm" on my blog at The Gratitude Experiment.

Thanks again!

Lissa Rankin's picture

You go girl!! I can see the

You go girl!! I can see the beautiful inner Goddess within you from all the way out here. Shine, baby, shine!

Kristen's picture

Ohhhhhh... how wonderful it

Ohhhhhh... how wonderful it is to read that! Been feelin' a bit blah lately. Now I have 20 fab pick-me-ups to spice up my inner Goddess. Thank you for the post, Lissa! XOXO ~Kristen

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