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How Stress Makes You Lose Your Mojo (and How to Get it Back!)

Lissa Rankin's picture

Hiya Pinkies, April is National Stress Awareness Month. A few points from a 2004 American Psychological Association Survey tells us why this we need a whole month to remind us why we need to chill out:

  • 2/3 of Americans say they are likely to seek help for stress.
  • 54% of Americans are concerned about the level of stress in their everyday lives.

In light of the current unemployment rates, mortgage foreclosures, bankruptcy filings, other financial uncertainties, and a lingering war, these percentages are likely much higher.

You’re Not the Only One Feeling Stressed

But you are not alone. Just this week, I’ve been under tremendous stress, between opening the new Owning Pink Center, re-launching the new OwningPink.com website in May, and getting through my TV debut and other publicity that’s tearing at my mojo. In the midst of all of this stress, my precious husband and I have been bickering and my oh-so-sensitive daughter peed her pants for the first time ever, most likely in response to the stress she’s experiencing vicariously through me. I haven’t exercised in nine days, and I never skip my daily hikes. I haven’t been drinking the green juice I regularly drink five times/day. I haven’t been meditating. I haven’t painted. I haven’t slept more than six hours per night. And sex? Forget it. It’s just not happening. (Sorry, honey!) Living like this is not sustainable. Sure, we all do it during crunch time, but we can’t let it stay that way. Yet, too often, we do. We burn the candle at both ends and burn out our adrenal glands in the process. Then we get more tired, more depressed, and our libido suffers even more. It’s enough to make even the most confident, powerful, radiant being lose their mojo.

10 Tips For Relieving Stress and Getting Your Mojo Back

  1. Engage in relaxing activities. Take a walk in nature. Get a massage. Take a scented hot bath. Curl up with a great book.
  2. Listen to guided imagery. I love Belleruth Naparstek.
  3. Meditate, even if only for five minutes. If you can’t make time for this, break up the day by taking three deep belly breaths several times/day.
  4. Try to change the stressors in your life that you have the power to change.
  5. Quit trying to control the uncontrollable. For those stressors you can’t change, learn to let it go.
  6. Be brutal with your to-do list, and be compassionate with yourself for what doesn’t get done.
  7. Avoid watching and reading the news when you’re stressed. Chances are it will only stress you more.
  8. Express your feelings. Talk to a trusted friend or write in your journal. Bottling up your feelings will only add to your stress.
  9. Keep a running list of gratitudes. It will help keep you focused on what’s great in your life.
  10. Laugh. Watch a funny movie. Tell jokes with friends. If you can’t think of a reason to laugh, check out laughter yoga and do it anyway!

Reducing My Stress

I always have to remember to practice what I preach. So today, on this rainy day, instead of jumping back into my never-ending to-do list and allowing myself to become even more stressed, I’m slowing down. I’m writing, baking lemon squares with my daughter, and going to a slumber party with my girlfriends. I’m going to watch a silly romantic comedy, play with my dog, and do an art project. Because that’s what really matters in life. It’s not only good for your health to reduce your stress, it’s part of living a joyful, calm, peaceful life filled to the brim with mojo.

Reducing YOUR Stress

But don’t listen to me. What works for you? Listen to your own body’s intuition and go with your gut. Share your secrets with us. How you do you manage stressful times in your life? How do you keep your mojo even when things get busy or tough? Do tell…

Taking a deep breath,

Dr. Lissa

This blog, and the book on which it is based, is a complement to - not a substitute for - professional advice and intervention, and is not intended to replace the advice of a gynecologist or medical professional, who should be consulted about any health care issues that may affect the individual reader. The information contained in this book is the product of observations made by the author in her practice, as well as her review of relevant literature in her field of expertise. The literature at times reflects conflicting opinions and conclusions. The views expressed herein are the personal views of the author and are not intended to reflect the views of any group or organization with whom the author is affiliated.


Maria Santoferraro's picture

Great article! Who knew there

Great article! Who knew there was a whole month dedicated to the awareness of stress reduction. I used to be the poster child, but am working hard every day to live a more balanced stress free life.

My #1 go to remedy for stress reduction is any form of exercise, but yoga and zumba really do the trick. I've also started meditating and love the way it can clear my mind of all the clutter and help me to focus on the present.

Life is short, so surround yourself with fun people and family and a little glass of wine never hurts!

Donna's picture

lately, I've found that a

lately, I've found that a relaxing hot bath and a good book are great stress relievers. I try to work with my father in law when I can, I always have left working with him and feeling like I can breathe again.

But now I've started to work on a couple new projects and find that when I do all of this, I'm super relaxed and the stress ball floats away to worry someone else. Even if for just a little while.

Tuhina's picture

oh, i sit myself down with a

oh, i sit myself down with a really tall glass of cool, clear water.... divide myself into two people (being a gemini helps... laugh ) and talk to myself as to what is bothering me.... how to prioritize, decide what has to be dealt with first and what can be shelved, why is it all happening, why it is or it is not my fault, i pep myself up and give myself a push to get up and go !!... works most times......when it doesnt... well, there is always chocolates and long long walks... LAUGH !!

power of two to all

cheers !

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