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The Power of the Sacred Yes

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Pinkies, please welcome back the magnetic and magical Danielle LaPorte, author of the blog White Hot Truth and creator of the Fire Starter Sessions.

I used to think I was weak n' needy for wanting my "big break." I dreamed of being discovered. I toyed with the willingness to enter some Svengali deal where an agent dude or silver foxy dada would see my raw talent and shape me into a formidable star--a fresh new voice on the scene. I longed for Someone Really Important to give me a Yes that would change my life.


One day, that Yes came.

My first literary agent is one of the most powerful people in the business. With an agency roster like Malcolm Gladwell, Al Gore, Camille Paglia, Michael Moore, Jane Fonda, Anderson Cooper, even Danielle Steel...publishers and producers trip over themselves to take her her call. The day she signed me, my life changed. I was in bed for the teleconference. 10am EST, 7am PST. It was snowing out. She was extolling the merits of the book proposal, and in my state of stunned glee, I had to interrupt. "May I ask a question?" I said. "Does all this meaning that you're taking on the project?"

She laughed. "Yes!"

I had it. It felt like someone had lifted the red velvet curtains to my heart. I hung up the phone and cried. And I thought to myself, "God really wants me to do my work, 'cause this is it."

It's natural to crave the sacred Yes. Ideally, you give yourself the Yes first. That self-love methodology is all neat and tidy and evolved. But I think you still get evolution bonus points even if it takes a dozen power people to convince you that you are fabulous. Neil Young said that he didn't know for sure if he was talented until his albums sold. Fair enough.

It's the kernel of our humanity to want to be seen, recognized, understood--celebrated, even. And when that kernel is watered, magic tends to proliferate.

The sacred yeses you get don't have to be exceptional or prestigious or catapulting. The yeses can be votes of confidence, offerings of counsel, connections, a bitta cash when you need it most.

And you don't need to be a big league power broker to give someone a sacred affirmative. What about right now - can you bless someone this way today?

We are all power brokers. Yes?

Powerfully,
Danielle

Comments

Patricia Bonelli's picture

There is a reason we live our

There is a reason we live our stories… to get to our real truth. Not the story that our family or society has imposed on us. Somehow I knew that underneath every single life event that challenged and even wounded, Inspiration knew my Name. What if facing obstacles improved the parameters of our capacity. I decided write a book from this position- I had lived it so I knew intimately how to push forward and not become a victim of circumstance. I wanted to share the notion that if we used Alchemy as a way of living, our transitions would become part of our destiny. I wanted to introduce the ideology that if we become comfortable with the idea that everything we encounter in life—the love and the rejection—are divine appointments made specifically for us to help define the person we are destined to be, then our lives can look rich at any given moment—in any—and all—circumstance. What if we each believed that unrestricted acceptance of our condition was vital to empowerment. The truth of my story, today, entering my fifties, is to unconditionally love myself. From owning my raw and sometimes terrifying journey as a teenage prostitute on the streets of San Francisco, to achieving a successful 20-year career as a law enforcement officer, working with people whose choices, like mine, had led them into desperate places. Giving back in authentic form established its own influential reward! And from here I have to share my story, to retrace the dark steps in the alley…I invite you to come along with me down into the depths, as I find my voice and own my power, step-by-step bringing myself up into the light while encouraging you to do the same.

Joy Mazzola's picture

Christiana ... YES! Totally.

Christiana ... YES! Totally. There's such a subtle difference between the need to be regarded and the desire to be shown the way (which, of course, we can only do for ourselves). And to be that YES for another is so easy and such a blessing in and of itself - right on Tess. Yessing on down the road, Joy xoxo

Tess The Bold Life's picture

Yes, Yes I can bless someone

Yes, Yes I can bless someone with yes and I will before I crawl into bed tonight. It's another blessing I can add to my gratitude list. The ability to be yes in somebody's life.

Christiana Kan's picture

Oh, YES! I totally resonate

Oh, YES! I totally resonate with this! I've been begging for this Sacred, Divine YES for a long time, just to be certain I was on the right path. Until I realized it was a "there" I was asking and not a Yes! I mean actually I had done nothing that was waiting for a yes. I was waiting for Someone to show me What to do! That was completely different! Last night I felt a Yes when my mother called to say she had read my new blog (a surprise for everyone) and felt really proud and uplift, like when she reads a good book or sees a nice movie... Thank you MOM for the yes!

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