Allow me to set the scene:
I’m talking to a client who has recently broken up with an amazing guy who worshiped the ground she floated over.
“Why did you walk away from him?”
“I don’t know, ” she said mystified and withdrawn.
“Could it be because you were afraid of having what you wanted?” I offered.
Lightbulb. Yes, that’s it.
We reach for self sabotage when we fear our own empowerment.
Change can = pain.
So why push forward any.way. you can?
Because it’s worth it.
Know with every fiber of your being that what you want the most: the relationship, the career, the body, the chance – all lie on the other side of your willingness to change.
Analyze your motivations; get curious.
Why are you afraid to have what you want most?
Why are you NOT leaning in?
Curiosity packs the power to move you forward.
Refuse and the long term pain of sabotage has the potential to dismantle you. To rob you of who you seek to be; of where you aspire to ascend to.
Shelve your fear, loosen your shackles and desire a life of satisfaction more than you begrudge change; more than the pain of discovery and the responsibility of awareness.
And then act.
Every guy you know thinks she’s cool/smart/funny. Men get giddy around her. Conversations stall when she walks into a room.
“I shouldn’t be into him, but I totally am. Shouldn’t I be looking for someone who makes more money?”
“That corner office. I want it. I feel bad for letting my ambition consume me, but I want my name on that door more than I want anything else.”
“Everyone I know is settling down. I guess I should start looking for someone stable to build a life with but I’m enjoying just dating and pursuing my career.”
“My gut instinct is telling me I can work less at my day job + transition to my passion project. But my family keeps telling me not to quit yet.”Read More...