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Starla Fitch MD's picture

Who Is Your Mirror?

Who Is Your Mirror?

One of the ways we measure our progress is to look for feedback from others. This starts out when we are little.

I recently heard about a study of babies who were learning to crawl. Researchers created a raised surface that included a hole or drop-off section. They covered the cut-out section with Plexiglas to see whether the babies would perceive the danger of falling and stop crawling or if they would crawl over the drop-off section despite the illusion of danger.

Amy Scher's picture

Healing For Free: 5 DIY Tips For When You're Out Of Cash

Healing For Free:  5 DIY Tips For When You're Out On Cash

When I finally figured out that my energetic and emotional imbalances were a huge part of the chronic illness I’d been experiencing, I was already out of cash from the years of medical treatment I’d been through. But, I was determined to shift my negative thinking and dump my emotional baggage anyway, and I ended up succeeding without spending a dime (although I admit I paid in blood, sweat and tears). In the end it was all beyond worth it. Muddling my way through emotional healing has resulted in a way happier me – mind, body, and spirit. And, the added bonus of getting to help others too!

Morgan Sontag's picture

If You Drive Me Crazy And You Are A Mirror, Then I Drive Myself Crazy!!!

Savage Chicken

I have written before about projection and attempted to portray it in video . It is not a difficult concept to grasp.  However, when you are in it, that’s a different story! It’s nearly impossible to see beyond it. Projection is a defense mechanism that involves taking our own unacceptable qualities or feelings and ascribing them to other people. For example, a person who is rude may constantly accuse other people of being rude. And indeed, that other person may actually be rude or appear to be, but it is generally exaggerated greatly by the projector.  Projections come from and are based on our personas or early defensive coping strategies developed in childhood.  (Remember The People-Pleaser? She is a good example of a persona.)

Kate Northrup's picture

How I Managed To Enjoy My Audit

Enjoying an audit

The other day my girlfriend asked me how my audit had gone. Two of our other girlfriends are apparently slogging through audits, so she was curious. Without even thinking about it I said, “Awesome!”

Really? My audit went awesome?

Dana Theus's picture

Fearlessness: The Key To Effective Feedback

Fearlessness: The Key to Effective Feedback

When you think about it, giving and receiving feedback is pretty much all communication is. You talk. I listen. Then I respond to what you said, providing you feedback on how well I heard you. You listen and respond to me, etc. This continuous feedback loop usually just looks like two people having a conversation – until one of us calls it “feedback” and then we get all skittish and nervous and – afraid.

Lissa Rankin's picture

3 Secret Confessions About The Fear Cure

The Fear Cure

So . . . (cue the unofficial theme song of this book, Sara Bareilles “Brave”) my new book The Fear Cure: Cultivating Courage As Medicine For The Body, Mind, & Soul comes out today! You can find out more about the book at This website also includes a special gift I created for you—the “Prescription for Courage Kit,” which includes 5 guided meditations I recorded with my musician friend Karen Drucker—one meditation about getting in touch with the voice of your Inner Pilot Light, one about dealing with uncertainty, one about moving beyond fear of loss, one about how it’s a friendly universe, and one about Oneness.

Suzanne Gelb Ph.D. J.D.'s picture

Why “Harmless” White Lies… Aren’t. (And How To Start Telling The Truth.)

White lies or naked truth?

“The naked truth is always better than the best dressed lie” —Ann Landers.


Oh, those harmless little “white lies.”


So easy to say. So easy to excuse. What’s the big deal? No one will find out.

Eric Nelson's picture

The Promise And Potential Of Compassion


It would seem that over the years the widely accepted definition of compassion – that is, a feeling of deep sympathy coupled with the desire to alleviate the suffering of others – has been watered down somewhat.

Hiro Boga's picture

Romance Your Soul

Romance Your Soul
Recently, I spent a day in conversation with a client whose business has quadrupled in the six months since we began working regularly together. A tidal wave of change has swept away the life she had, and brought her one more closely aligned with her dreams.
There’s more money flowing through her business than she – or anyone in her family, going back several generations – has ever enjoyed before. And this flow of money is accompanied by a rising tide of time, energy and spaciousness. Time to enjoy her family, to play, to rest, to create.