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Lissa Rankin's picture

How To Experience Extraordinary Love

Extraordinary Love

I haven’t written much about it publicly because it’s been so intense and confusing and extraordinary, but for almost a year, I have been involved in what others describe to me as a “twin flame” or “soul twin” relationship. Dennis and I are not a “couple” in any traditional sense of the word. He’s a gay man. I’m a straight woman. Both of us have recently experienced divorces from our partners, so we are technically “single,” but a number of factors keep us from getting involved in a typical romantic relationship.

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Lissa Rankin's picture

Can You Navigate Love With Healthy Boundaries?

Love with Healthy Boundaries

Every relationship in my life lately has been an experiment of the idea of unconditional love and freedom. Byron Katie says egos can’t love; they always want something. Whereas the soul can love unconditionally and expect nothing in return. Wide open heart. Zero conditions.

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How To Stop Trying To Change The People You Date. (+ Learn To Love Yourself More Instead)

Time for Change

“Why doesn’t he ever follow through with his plans? He’s SO FLAKY. He has so much potential that he’s not using. I could help him if he’d let me.”

“I wish she was ready to settle down. She knows I want a family but she’s so sure about backpacking through Europe. Maybe if I helped her get a better job she’d want to stick around … and get married.”

“Why is he always flirting with the wait staff? And why is he still listed as ‘single’ on Facebook? I don’t care if it’s just ‘innocent attention’ – if he loved me, he’d change.”

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The Character Ethic Or The Personality Ethic – Which One Is The Right Road To Success?

Most of the success literature published in the United States for the first 150 years focused on The Character Ethic as being the foundation of success. Things like integrity, humility, simplicity, fairness, modesty, love, courage, justice, and the Golden Rule.

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Kim Anami's picture

The Price Of Love

Price of Love

One of the stories people get told about relationships is that the “honeymoon” period doesn’t last. It’s a temporary high, fueled by hormones and neurotransmitters.

It’s just a story though.

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Lissa Rankin's picture

What Would Love Do?

What Would Love Do?

He broke your heart, violated your trust, betrayed your confidence, ignored your needs, and disrespected you. When you tell your friends, they shake their heads, clucking, shaming. You’re better off without him. He doesn’t deserve you. You can do better than him. You make up a story, one that casts him as the villain and you as the victim of his dastardly deeds. It’s a good story, the kind they make movies about. You feel righteous when you kick him to the curb. You did the right thing, they all say. There’s lots more fish in the sea.

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The Power Of Appreciation

Appreciation

Too often, we focus all our attention on acquiring what we want, achieving goals, avoiding what we don’t want, and getting our way. Amidst the hubbub, we forget to include the Power of Appreciation in soothing conflict. As huge, powerful beings, we forget that we created this love relationship to begin with and that we create, or uncreate, it by perpetuating fear, resentment and anger—or choosing appreciation. As a couple’s therapist, I always teach the Power of Appreciation in our first session.

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The Most Important Book I Read In 2014

Book cover

I alluded to the most important book I read in 2014 in my last blog about ending the Story of Separation, the cultural story that has us believing that we are discrete blobs of carbon matter that need to fight for our own self interest in order to survive and thrive, even if it means harming other people or destroying Mother Gaia herself. But I want to be more explicit in sharing with you The More Beautiful World Our Hearts Know Is Possible, a book I just finished reading after meeting author/speaker/counterculture revolutionary Charles Eisenstein, who shared a stage with me at the Uplift Festival in Byron Bay, Australia.

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Kim Anami's picture

What Kills Relationships Fast

Healing Relationships

Love rarely dies in one fell swoop.

It is usually the accumulation of many slights, unconscious gestures and acts of non-love. 

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