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Danielle LaPorte's picture

Unconscious Acceptance, Which Is To Say, What Shit Are You Putting Up With?


We do it for “love,” we do it for spirituality, we do it to polish our halos. We do it because some relationship books tell us to. We do it to look good.

We become more … accepting.

Amy Ahlers's picture

What I Know For Sure After 10 Years Of Marriage

Ahlers wedding
This past, July 17th, was my 10 year wedding anniversary.

I cannot believe that Rob and I tied the knot a decade ago. We wed in beautiful Ojai, California, known as Southern California’s Valley of the Moon, in blistering heat surrounded by our very closest family and friends. It was one of the best days of my life and one of the best decisions I’ve ever made to marry this man of mine.

Over these past 10 years that have had great ups and downs, losses and disappointments, bliss and unbelievable joy, I’ve discovered a few things.

Mike Robbins's picture

Culture And Chemistry Matter

Culture and Chemistry

Wow… that was an unbelievable World Series!  If you watched it passionately as I did, you know what I’m talking about.  Even if you didn’t and you don’t know or care that much about baseball or sports, there are a number of things that made this World Series remarkable and also some important things we can learn from it that go way beyond baseball and sports in general.

Lissa Rankin's picture

Can You Let Go Of Your Victim Story?

Writing in a journal

Back in my twenties, I spent a lot of time writing in my journal, usually about boys. Then I had an epiphany. I realized that the quality of my relationships with men were inversely related to the amount of time I spent writing in my journal. If the relationship was healthy, I was off happily living my life, not sitting on my window seat, writing about how happy I was. But if the relationship was dysfunctional, I wrote . . . and wrote . . . and wrote. And when I look back now at those journals, I have to laugh at myself because every whining, complaining story I told had me as the heroine of my “Poor me” story. The guy was always a liar/cheater/loser/wimp/alcoholic/abuser/narcissist/jerk. They were all WRONG WRONG WRONG. But me, I was always right.

Mike Robbins's picture

Are You Avoiding A Difficult Conversation?

Are You Avoiding A Difficult Conversation?

A number of years ago a mentor of mine said something really important to me.  “Mike,” he said, “do you know what stands between you and the kind of relationships you really want to have?”

“What’s that?” I asked.

Lissa Rankin's picture

Can You Keep Your Spiritual Integrity During Divorce?


A year ago, my husband and I decided to break up but try living in the same house for the love of our eight year old daughter. It worked for a while—until it didn’t work anymore. Yesterday, we filed for divorce with our mediation lawyer, and as so often happens during the divorce process, I watched two people who care about each other start volleying for position as we talked about who would get what and how we would divide up the business of me. My Small Self had an inner tantrum. The running dialogue in my head during divorce mediation went something like this (with some of the four letter words removed for the love of my ex):

MaryEllen Goggin's picture

Inside Couples Counseling Tips: 10 Ways To Stay Connected

 In couples counseling with us, couples complain that they’ve grown distant. They find themselves living parallel lives under the same roof. Lives are ruled by roles, routines, and deadlines, and they feel no real connection with one another. Lost is the simple joy of being together and even the idea that spending time together might be "fun”. The person who was once their best friend is a stranger or worse an enemy. Sex has been put on the shelf gathering dust like an old trophy. Many numb themselves with alcohol or other substances to avoid dealing with the painful reality of their relationship. 
Emma French's picture

Love Machine – The Secret To Being At One With Technology…

Smashed computer monitor

When I studied alchemy a couple of decades ago, we were taught that everything with a physical form has a body, a soul and a spirit. It may be hard to wrap your head around, but I like the idea that inanimate, man-made objects have some kind of consciousness…except one time when, under the influence of marijuana, my psyche for a few seconds became intimate with the consciousness of a door handle. As you might expect, it felt terrifyingly dense, and I was very relieved when my brain morphed back into its infinitely preferable, drug-addled human state. Needless to say, I have steered clear of the more hallucinogenic substances…

Lissa Rankin's picture

Are You Involved With A Narcissist?

Narcissus or Echo?

I was deep in the heat of a conversation with a guy friend of mine, as we sat across from each other at the dinner table. I felt fire burning inside of me. He said, “Tell me what your Small Self is saying right now?”

I glared at him and said, “My Small Self is saying there are two kinds of men.” I paused for dramatic effect. There was venom in my voice.

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