When it comes to relationships, intimacy, and communication, sometimes I am more invested in "being right" than I am in "being close". What is happening in these moments? How do I reconnect with my partner... and with myself? I am reminded of the Song of Solomon...

"I am my beloved's and my beloved is mine." 

I can’t help thinking about that classic children’s album, Free to Be You and Me, while I read all of the stories on the movement to repeal Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell. We’ve taught our kids for years that “one of these things is different and special,” but we don’t actually seem to appreciate different and special. Are we, as a society, stuck in some pre-pubescent haze that only allows us to feel good about ourselves if all the other cool kids are like us? Or maybe, we’re worried that all the cool kids are gay, like Cary Grant and Rock Hudson, and we’re left out because we’re old skool heterosexual.

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Q: My husband and I were making love the other night, and I was on top, trying to achieve a G-spot orgasm. (I saw a daytime talk show where a sex expert mentioned that some women find it incredible, so we thought we’d give it a go). Well, when I climaxed, my husband said he felt a rush of wetness. He said it actually added to his pleasure, but it worries me. Is this normal?