Why would anyone follow a leader with no self-confidence? They wouldn’t. Do women struggle with self-confidence more than men? Yes. Then why are we surprised when there aren’t as many female leaders as male leaders in our businesses and society? We shouldn’t be.

Now, I know very well that moving women in to more leadership positions is a bit more complicated than this and I’m not trying to suggest an easy fix to women’s inequality… but I am saying that for too long women have “bought” the stories society has told us about how we “can’t lead like a man” (which, by the way, research says is true) and that “leading like a woman won’t work” (which, by the way, research says is not true.) The truth is we can do a lot more ourselves to build our confidence levels that will give us credibility on the leadership track.

There we were, 14 of us in a sacred circle sharing our hearts.  We’d been there for a bit, and would be there for a bit more.  One by one, each sweet soul shared their story, opened their soul -- when we were interrupted by the whirl of a chainsaw. 

BRUZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZ.

Loud.  Obnoxious. Interrupting.

I rolled my eyes and grimaced as the sound of the annoying yard maintenance equipment began taking away the goodness of our sacred circle.  And then, in an instant....

I was recently floating in the outdoor pool at a local hot springs resort when I heard a loud voice shouting,

“Honey, you will love this, it’s just like lemonade.”  I got curious who this voice belonged to and where this person found this delicious lemonade, so I opened my eyes and what I saw was an excited mom handing her young toddler, who was happy playing on the pool’s steps, a plastic cup of cucumber water.

Going with the flow isn’t about being passive or lazy. It’s not about just letting things happen “to you”. It’s not aimless wandering. It’s a co-creative act.

“The flow” is the ocean of cosmic intelligence. It’s the substance that carries the whole shebang. The flow is life energy itself.