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15 Crazy Things About Vaginas

Lissa Rankin's picture

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A few weeks ago, I finally finished my 20 city book tour to promote What's Up Down There? Questions You'd Only Ask Your Gynecologist If She Was Your Best Friend (Woo-hoo! Trumpets blare! Cymbals crash! Phew). But i realized that I never posted a juicy blog that I wrote in the fall at the beginning of the tour... and gals, is it a good one. Did you hear the story of how CBSNews.com asked me to write this post -- "15 Crazy Things About Vaginas" -- for their website on the launch day of my book? They had posted "15 Crazy Things About Sperm" and it was wildly popular. So they figured they’d play nice in the sandbox and give us girls our time in the limelight.

And then, after it had been up on their website for about an hour, some suit in corporate made them pull it.

“Too saucy.”

You can read the whole crazy-making story here.

Anyway, I never did get around to posting what I wrote for them. So here you go.

15 things I bet you never knew about vajayjays.

It’s amazing how much misinformation is out there about the vagina. Given how fascinated our society is with the female body, you’d think we’d be a little more informed. But from what I discovered while soliciting questions for my book What’s Up Down There? Questions You’d Only Ask Your Gynecologist If She Was Your Best Friend, many of us still have a lot to learn.

To help out, I’ve compiled a few things you may not know about the female genitalia.

  1. Pubic hair is not just a biological accident that forces us to the waxing salon. It serves three critical functions. First, it protects the delicate vagina. Second, it serves as a reproductive billboard to alert potential mates that you are biologically (if not emotionally) prepared to procreate. And last, it’s a pheromone carpet and traps the scents that lead potential mates to the promised land. So you might think twice before you shave it all off. It’s there for a reason. Embrace it.
  2. There are 8000 nerve endings in the clitoris, dedicated exclusively to female pleasure. The penis only has 4000. Who says God didn’t take care of us girls?
  3. The average vagina is 3-4 inches long, but fear not if your guy is hung like a horse. The vagina can expand by 200% when sexually aroused, kind of like a balloon. Remember, the vagina was made to birth babies, so it’s exceedingly elastic. If you have pain when getting it on with someone large, you can use dilators to help stretch the vagina so you can accommodate the whole package.
  4. The vagina doesn’t connect to the lung. While the vagina can expand, it’s not an open conduit to the abdominal cavity. While microscopic sperm can swim through a tiny hole in the cervix, a tampon simply won’t fit. So if you lose something in there, don’t worry. Reach in all the way and pull it out. Do not -- I repeat, do not -- go hunting for whatever you’ve lost with a pair of pliers. Think of your vagina as being like a sock. If you lose a banana in a sock…it stays in the sock.
  5. Yes, it’s true -- your vagina can fall out. Not to belabor the sock metaphor, but it can turn inside out just like a worn out sweat sock and hang between your legs as you get older. But don’t fret; this condition -- called pelvic prolapse -- can be fixed.
  6. Vaginas have something in common with sharks. Both contain squalene, a substance that exists in both shark livers and natural vaginal lubricant. (Cue music: “She’s a maneater…”)
  7. You can catch sexually transmitted diseases even if you use a condom. Sorry to break it to you, but the skin of the vulva can still touch infectious skin of the scrotum -- and BAM! Warts. Herpes. Molluscum contagiosum. Pubic lice. So pick your partners carefully.
  8. The average length of the labia minora is less than ¾ inch long (yes, someone got out a ruler and measured 2981 women). Only 1.8% of women have labia longer than 1 ½ inches. But remember, every vulva is different and special. Some lips hang down. Some are tucked up neatly inside. Some are long. Some are short. Some are even. Some aren’t. All are beautiful. You’re perfect just the way you are.
  9. While hair on your head can live up to seven years, pubic hair has a life expectancy of about three weeks, which is why it only grows so long. So don’t worry if you opt not to groom your pubes -- you won’t need to braid them any time soon.
  10. The word “vagina” comes from the Latin root meaning “sheath for a sword,” which may explain why some women simply hate the word. So if you don’t like the word “vagina,” pick your own name for your girly parts. Just call it something and don’t be afraid to talk about it.
  11. Only about 30% of women have orgasms from intercourse alone. The clitoris is where the action is. Most women who do orgasm during sex have figured out how to hit their sweet spot, either from positioning or from direct stimulation of the clitoris with fingers.
  12. 20 million American women suffer from painful sex, and those who do will see an average of 7 doctors before finding a solution- or giving up. But pleasurable sex is your birthright. (If this sounds like you, get help here.)
  13. Increasing evidence suggests that the G spot feels good because it lies right over a deep part of the clitoris. Although experts describe the G spot as being inside the vagina on the anterior wall, just under the urethra, the crura of the clitoris actually runs right there. And a recent study demonstrated that vaginal orgasms may actually be deep clitoral orgasms. But who cares? An orgasm is an orgasm. Appreciate it, regardless of where it comes from.
  14. Vaginal farts (some call them “queefs” or “varts”) happen to almost all women at one time or another, especially during sex or other forms of exercise. So don’t be embarrassed if your hooha lets out a toot. You’re perfectly normal.
  15. Some women do ejaculate during orgasm, but you’re normal if you don’t. The controversial “female ejaculation” most likely represents two different phenomena. If it’s a small amount of milky fluid, it likely comes from the paraurethral glands inside the urethra. If it’s a cup, it’s probably pee. Many times, it may be a little bit of both. But don't stress out about peeing on yourself. Put a towel under you and surrender to the experience.                                                 

And a 16th reason (just as a bonus), safe sex (or even just orgasm alone) is good for you. Benefits include lowering your risk of heart disease and stroke, reducing your risk of breast cancer, bolstering your immune system, helping you sleep, making you appear more youthful, improving your fitness, regulating menstrual cycles, relieving menstrual cramps, helping with chronic pain, reducing the risk of depression, lowering stress levels, and improving self esteem.

So go at it, girlfriends!There you go. There you have it. It’s important to know this kind of stuff, because you can’t truly love all of yourself until you love and understand your girly parts. We talk about the eyeball or the elbow or the big toe. Why not talk about the vagina? Plus, the vagina is way more interesting than the pinky finger or the belly button. The vagina is the creator of life and the portal of pleasure. But it’s also where we carry many traumas -- menstrual cramps, childbirth trauma, molestation, rape, abortion, and painful gynecological exams. If we don’t release these traumas, they back up and manifest in a whole host of health conditions like depression and chronic pelvic pain. We must talk about our girly parts to liberate them.

The more we know, the more we’re empowered to live life out loud, love fully, and really rock this life.

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So there you have it.

Can you believe that these 15 facts caused such a hullaballoo? What do you think? Did you learn anything new? Have any more fun vajayjay facts to share? What do you think about how "sperm trumps vagina" and that this article was pulled? (It still rattles me...)

I had such a great time on tour talking with women about their yonis, these sacred sources of vitality and power. Big hugs to everyone whom I met on tour, who has read What's Up Down There, and who continues to bring vaginas out of the closet!

Loving you and your yonis -- just the way you are,




Rick's picture


Thank goodness I'm a gay man.

Anonymous's picture

Thank godess I'm not, A

Thank godess I'm not,
A straight man.

Anonymous's picture

"Who says God didn’t take

"Who says God didn’t take care of us girls?" Hahaha, I assume you're referring to the barbaric Abrahamic god, out of the thousands to choose from? Then I say god doesn't take care of you girls. Have you read the great misogynistic work of fiction, the bible? God hates women... along with almost everyone else.

Anonymous's picture

ha ha... so many people use

ha ha... so many people use the bible as an excuse to demean women, glad to be out of that fanatical circle!
isn't it awful how religions in general can be used to manipulate people... "believers" become robots

Dorrie Lane's picture

Shaving alternative

Love the post Lissa, thanks for putting a great spin and attitude on loving vulvas!

As an alternative to shaving, which can bring on all of the above, I saw no mention of the 5 o'clock shadow that will no doubt appear at some point in time. How's 'bout the lovely ritual of clipping the hairs with your lover? A small pair of scissors, a towel underneath and a lover with a steady hand is all you need to create
a) a weekly or monthly intimacy interlude...
b) a learning experience
c) a perfect environment for exploration
and finally
d) SOFT, short trimmed hairs that look exquisite!

Just my .02 on the matter. No more itching, no more rough spots!

e.b. sarver's picture

Female ejaculation....

I wouldn't have said that if it is a cup, it is pee. That's just not true. I've been hit with that much, and it was definitely NOT pee. I know pee when I smell it. And it usually isn't that "milky" at all. In my experience, it is better described as clear than milky.

I would have put it more like this:

Regarding the controversial "female ejaculation," you're normal if you do it, and normal if you don't. Some women find it easy to experience, and others difficult. Anywhere from a spoonful to a cupful (or more, in rare circumstances) might come out, and it is generally clear, but sometimes milky (as opposed to the yellow color of urine). To many women, the first time it feels like you need to pee, while later the experience feels distinctly different, but don't stress out about peeing on yourself or your partner. It is nearly impossible for either men or women to urinate while aroused. Ejaculate does not smell anything like urine, so you'll know which it is when it comes out, and with an open-minded partner, it shouldn't matter which one happens. Put a towel or three under you and surrender to the experience. Sometimes it happens several times in a row. I've seen women soak through 6 towels in one sexual encounter, so more than one towel is a good idea...just in case. Nobody wants to sleep in a wet spot.

Lissa Rankin's picture

Dear Profuse Ejaculator

A case report was written up about one woman who got even more creative! She took methylene blue, a substance that, when consumed, turns your pee bright blue. She peed before sex- BLUE. She then ejaculated. Light blue.

So with her n of 1 study, she concluded that it was part pee, part something else.
I thought it was a very creative study!

Pee or no pee- WHO CARES? Pee is sterile and totally natural.


Anonymous's picture

I am a profuse ejaculator,

I am a profuse ejaculator, and because of all of the pee talk, Dear Lover and I have done some research. At least in my case, I can verify it is not pee.

Here was the method:

Before sex, I emptied bladder, and captured the urine. It was yellow and, well, obviously urine.

During my ejaculation, Dear Lover caught what he could, about a half cup, which is a fraction of what was produced. It was cloudy, not yellow, and obviously not urine.

Immediately after ejaculation, when everything is still all swollen, I attempted to pee. COULD NOT DO IT! I chilled for a few, like a man awiting for an erection to recede, then went to the restroom again. I was then able to pee, captured it, and it was plain yellow urine, just like before sex.

I should note one thing. As a profuse ejaculator, I can get really, really dehydrated. It has sometimes felt like it was dangerously so (ie seeing spots, etc.) My favorite rehydrator, chilled coconut water, and it is the most beutiful grace when Dear Lover brings it to me... :)

Anonymous's picture


I too am a profuse ejaculator... it's so not pee. It's very slick, much thicker and sweet tasting. It's mostly slighty milky in color.
I belong to a female online group of "squirters". Most girls have the same discriptions. Many say the color changes with where on is in the monthly cycle.
One other thing... many women learn this later in life (40's).

Rock on!

Lissa Rankin's picture

JNew21 Penis Love

So I posted your comment on Facebook, and here's what came in:

Nikki Michaels very interesting...I totally love the way a penis looks...just because I've come to a place in life where I can receive "euphoric bliss" without feeling I have to reciprocate every time does not mean I don't love how it looks.
9 hours ago · Like · 2 people

Chrystal Bougon Oh I LOVE penises. I think they are beautiful and fascinating. DO not even get me going on testicles!
8 hours ago · Like · 1 person

Kittie Johnson Penises are great...he's obviously not found the right woman to appreciate things properly:-D I mean aren't we all wanting to get to a place of euphoric bliss & being the one to take someone there is a turn on itself!!!
about an hour ago · Like · 1 person

Mary-Allison Mays WRONG! They are an amazing life force...LOL....seriously...you couldnt be more off base. Please dont be insulted by this but...these thoughts you are projecting are coming from inside of you. Maybe you arent completely comfortable with it all. Try and think about what it is exactly that makes you think/feel this way. When you discover this, you will be more comfortable with a woman enjoying you too! Perhaps a really close girlfriend can help you in this discovery. Enjoy!

Lissa Rankin's picture

Dear Gozer45

You're my hero. Thank you for your sweet and supportive comment.

Chrystal's picture

Love you, love the blog, love vaginas, love penises!

Love you so much, Dr. Lissa. Thank you so much for the wonderful gift. So much great information.

I am one of those people who LOVE penises and vaginas. I think they are all a beautiful work of art and I think it's so cool how no two are a like. Our vaginas are like snowflakes!

And, as far as female ejacualtion - I always wish I could join a study. I have been a female ejaculator since I was about 16 when I first discovered the Hitachi Magic Wand "back massage" and used it on my clitoris.
(Yes, I said clitoris. I have found that many women ejaculate from clitoral AND g-spot orgasms)

I can't wait to share your article on my fan page and on twitter! Thank you Lissa for all of the great information. I think it's so interesting that our clitoris get 8K and the penis - even the super big ones only get 4k! And the cool thing about our clits - it has no other purpose then to give us an orgasm. No other functionality at all! We rock.

Blissfully, Chrystal

Lissa Rankin's picture

Dear JNew21

I can only speak for myself here, but I LOVE the way a penis looks. As a gynecologist, I'm partial to vaginas too- but in a reverent way, not so much a sexy way.

As for penises, I think they're hot, beautiful, powerful, solid, and something to be reckoned with. I know some guys don't quite know what to do with the power of their sword, just like women don't know how to brandish their feminine power. But if we're willing to unapologetically put ourselves out there to those we love, magic can happen- penis, vagina, and all.

May you and your partner have mutual adoration and respect for all your body parts, and may you appreciate your sexuality in sweet, hot ways that turn you both on.

That's my wish for you...
Thanks for your vulnerability

j new21's picture

There is a difference here....

I've read all of these responses and it's different with everyone. Some like it shaved, some like it natural, some like it trimmed. Its all in personal preference and mutual agreement. I personally think the vagina is a beautiful thing. And "most" men know how to turn it on but don't know what buttons need to be pushed. I can hang with the best of em in that department only because I'd rather give a woman euphoric bliss than take mine. But most women do not like the way a penis looks. Don't lie. You don't. So why would a woman be somewhere that's a turn off to them. Some women may like it but I guarantee you that most don't like the way it looks. Am I wrong?

Shawna R. B. Atteberry 's picture

Have to say your wrong too

I love the way both penis and balls look and so do my friends. What's not to love about the look of a penis?

Nikki's picture

response to j new21: yes my

response to j new21: yes my dear, you are wrong...I and all of my girlfriends LOVE the way a penis looks.

Anonymous's picture

I'm a guy, I came across this

I'm a guy, I came across this on reddit and I just wanted to say this was nice to read with my girlfriend. It got us talking in a big way. Very informative, straightforward. Not prudish or insensitive. Really funny too. Will be ordering the book for my girl when I get paid. :)

Androngymous's picture


Thank you for posting this article despite the initial rejection! You rock, girl!

I'm gonna send this article to my boyfriend. He loves learning about stuff like this, especially if he can apply it to me! [wink wink nudge nudge say no more!]

Elizabeth (Aust)'s picture

Melanie, I have a friend who

Melanie, I have a friend who shaves it all off for her husband, yet he looks like a yeti down there...she has a lot of trouble with ingrown hairs and cysts which are very painful. I find it a huge double standard - I don't think you have the right to dictate shaving unless you're also prepared to do the same. Another friend put that to her BF and he backed out at the waxing salon door - so they both decided not to bother...
I don't understand why some women just "do as they're told"...and often suffer in silence - eventually they end up resenting the situation.
Great tips about shaving...even for a tidy-up.

My grandmother had a prolapse at 75 and lived with it for 7 years until something HAD to be done....she must have been very uncomfortable. She didn't want to go "through" all that "at this age"...we found a wonderful female gynaecologist who arranged a closed theatre - she was treated respectfully and privately. All sorted out and she enjoyed another 4 years of life - I was sorry she didn't mention it earlier. It's great we have options these days.

Melanie Bates's picture

Dear Elizabeth (Aust)

hahahaha "yet he looks like a yeti down there." ROFL Yes, I don't appreciate "double standards." That being said, I just strongly feel you should adore your body in ways that are 100% authentic to you.

On a very personal note, I do indeed do some womanscaping because I don't personally enjoy looking like the world's largest ball of twine down there, but I'm happy to leave a bit so my pheromones have a place to romp and play. Bottom line though is that you just have to do what feels right for you.


Anonymous's picture

JUST FYI the glans of the

JUST FYI the glans of the penis contains 4000 nerve endings. The foreskin is the central pleasure zone of the penis with the tissues totaling close to 20,000 nerve endings and pleasure receptors.

Think twice before circumcising your sons.

Anonymous's picture

That was a great article to

That was a great article to read. I learned some new things and the whole approach to the topic was wonderful. I can't believe the article was pulled, there is no reason this should be "held" from the public. Every young woman should be able to read facts like this where they can easily understand the content rather than searching through clinical papers and scientific studies where the conclusions are not always straight forward. Thank you!

Lissa Rankin's picture

Dear Anonymous ejaculator

Please send me the links to these studies. I did a LOT of research on this topic and interviewed some really empowered, awesome researchers, including the woman who named the G Spot (who ROCKS) and I'm just reporting what I learned. Trust me! They don't teach you this stuff in medical school!

So Please, educate me. Really. I'd love to see the data.
And please- squirt away! I'm jealous!

Lissa Rankin's picture

Dear Anonymous ejaculator

Please send me the links to these studies. I did a LOT of research on this topic and interviewed some really empowered, awesome researchers, including the woman who named the G Spot (who ROCKS) and I'm just reporting what I learned. Trust me! They don't teach you this stuff in medical school!

So Please, educate me. Really. I'd love to see the data.
And please- squirt away! I'm jealous!

Anonymous's picture

I'm also an anonymous ejaculator!

... and I also was somewhat peed off (pun intended) by the statement that if there's a cupful of ejaculate it must be pee.

My own experience is that there are at least 2 distinct varieties of ejaculate, which fit with the 2 contributors' descriptions above. One is plentiful (can easily be a cupful, sometimes less – like an eggcupful, sometimes more over a long session with more than one ejaculation) and it is clear and colourless and does not smell of pee. It's like water, though it obviously has a few other ingredients, but its smell is very subtle. Occasionally some pee might get released at the same time, especially if I "push" and force it out, but most times it definitely has no urine smell.

The second variety is thick and milky, like egg white, leaving a white stain on the sheet.

It's infuriatingly difficult to find good information about female ejaculation online. As someone who's been ejaculating since the age of 17 I have been flabbergasted to find that there is still mainstream debate about whether women actually ejaculate or not - never mind whether there is more than one kind! But then I suppose the fact I am remaining anonymous here explains part of the problem!

The best / most detailed description I have found online is here: http://curezone.com/forums/am.asp?i=535455

(mostly based on Taoist tradition of the "3 gates" and "3 sacred waters" – yes, 3! my descriptions above fit the second and third of them... the article includes links to scientific research about types 1 and 2)

Lissa Rankin's picture

Sounds beautiful Salem!

Yeah, I know many women who swear by their pube-free cooch, which is fine by me. Again, it's all about choice, I think. As long as you're happy and feel sexy and comfortable, ROCK IT, baby!

Salem's picture

As a former exotic dancer

As a former exotic dancer (hopefully retired for good too cause my joints can't take much more!) I have the habit of "waxing the linoleum floor" as I call it. Although really I shave. I started early in adolescence and it became a habit to at least trim it, then I had requests from significant others and it became a preference of mine. The most "pressing" reason I suppose now is that I decided to decorate my nether regions...yes a tattoo and no not some flower and it's rather "large" covering the mons pubis, inner thighs, part of the outer labia, around a butt cheek, and hip. So seeing my tattoo have a moustache looks silly to me and that alone keeps me grooming the area.

Lissa Rankin's picture

Oh thank you M

I appreciate the sweet and respectful expression of compassion for those of us who are pubically challenged.

That's the beauty of this community here at Owning Pink. We can respectfully agree to disagree and still see the bright lights that shine from within us all. Thank you for being here with us.

Boatloads of respect back atcha

Melanie Bates's picture

Dear M

Lass? I'll hop right over that one and move on to the "meat" of the subject. I prefer to ROCK - no, to BOULDER really, my bush. My body, my choice. My gorgeous self. If my nether region was meant to be bald, I suppose it would be bald eh?

M's picture

Oh Mel

I believe you have missed the "meat" of the subject. I respect your choice, and most certainly your body. I only disrespect that you choose to wish, note actually wish, the pain and discomfort you know exists. As to the being bald, I suppose it would. I do not really mind either way, I keep myself groomed out of personal preference, not out of some want for my partner to do the same.

Lissa Rankin's picture

The right way to shave

Okay, M-
So I'm a gyno. And I know how to shave it all off the right way.
But I have to tell you that Melanie is spot on. Even when I do everything right. It hurts. And itches. Each. And. Every. Time.

Plus, who has the time to jump through all these hoops when you're a busy woman trying to change the world?

So please, cut us lasses some slack, honey. And appreciate the beauty that lies not just in our pussies, but in our hearts, minds, and spirits.

For those who don't know how to shave right, here's a snippet from my book What's Up Down There:

Tips for Shaving Your Pubes

1. Before you shave, soak in a warm bath, which softens the hairs and allows for a gentler shave. Then exfoliate your bikini region with a loofah or shower puff to remove old, dead skin cells that could clog your pores. Bath products containing salicylic acid or glycolic acid may help prevent ingrown hairs, but some people are very sensitive to chemicals in this delicate region.

2. Purchase high quality razors and discard them after a few uses. Staph infections resulting from nicks caused by old razors can be a doozy.

3. Choose a shaving cream with aloe or other soothing ingredients, and avoid shaving with bar soap, which further dries the skin, rather than hydrating it. An old fashioned shaving soap with a badger brush can work wonders. Try leaving the shaving cream on for a few minutes before you shave to further soften the hair.

4. Hold the area to be shaved taut, but not stretched. Shave in the direction the hair grows – with the grain, rather than against it. Clean your razor with water between each swipe. If you must double back over an already shaved area, lather on more shaving cream.

5. Apply ice to your freshly shaved bikini line to hasten the closing of your pores.

6. Try following shaving with a product like Tend Skin, which you can buy at the drug store. Aloe vera gel and tea tree oil sprays offer natural relief.

7. Wait at least 30 minutes after shaving to apply moisturizing lotion. This allows the pores to close after shaving, minimizing irritation.

8. Treat redness and irritation with over-the-counter hydrocortisone cream. This topical steroid cream acts as an anti-inflammatory and constricts raging blood vessels. But save it for serious irritation. Chronic use can thin the skin.

9. If you break out into pimples where you shave, zap zits with benzoyl peroxide cream.

10. Ingrown hairs can lead to pustules. If you are plagued by them, apply warm compresses to the pustules twice a day to encourage the hair to bust through. If this doesn’t work and the overlying skin is thin enough that you can see the hair, you can try unroofing the pustule yourself. Clean the area with hydrogen peroxide and use sterile tweezers or a needle to fish the wayward hair out of the pustule. Minimize squeezing and other trauma that can further damage the hair follicle and cause the ingrown hair to recur. When you locate the offending hair, don’t pluck it, which can further inflame the area. Just free it and encourage it to grow in the direction of the other hairs. If a pustule is especially large, surrounded by a lot of redness, accompanied by fever, or hurts like the dickens, call your gynecologist or dermatologist right away. We don’t want you neglecting those precious pubes.

Chuck's picture

Don't forget the laser

Don't forget the laser option! Sure it's pricey, but it's permanent. The lady and I both agree it's totally worth it.

Kristen Lazzara's picture

Yes - lasering the "bikini" zone

I found a Medi-Spa that charges half what other places do to laser hair and skin because the owner wanted to make it available to many women who couldn't afford this solution otherwise. No more nasty pimples caused by shaving in sensitive areas for me anymore!

M's picture

why of course

I mean no disrespect to any woman who says its a challenge or has pains, just the lass that wishes the pain knowing full well what its like. Seeing as I do not have the issues you or she describes, even without using the simple yet elegant methods you outlined, I come to think that each of us is different. For some I may be right on you just need to change the way you shave and (probably for most) I am dead wrong. But such is the way of sweeping generalizations.

with respect

Virgil's picture

Great article!

Mad that it got pulled though. Can't have us women feeling too confident now can we?

On the other hand, I think I'm going to be telling too many people that shark fact. :D

Melanie Bates's picture

With Love To the Men Who Prefer No Pubic Hair

Everyone has a right to prefer what they prefer. But, just remember, it's always the choice of each individual. Period. Don't go bald if that's not authentic to you.

However I must say, to those men who enjoy a clean shaven puss, that I hope these men are "practicing what they preach" and shaving themselves bald each day too (even if this means nicking their balls Each. And. Every. Time. and itching like a crab victim Each. And. Every. Night.)

With love,

Chuck's picture


I enjoy a bare puss or at least well groomed (and my gf gladly obliges). Frankly I wouldn't be so keen on giving her oral otherwise. I've tried going bare myself, but she prefers me trimmed and not shaved. Things don't always have to be perfectly equal all the time, you know.

Devon Moore's picture

Virtual high five!

Virtual high five!

M's picture

practicing what you preach

For both of those, if its Each. And. Every. Time./Night. You need to learn how to shave lass, cause you certainly aren't doing it right ;)

with skill

Anonymous's picture

Hmm... you like to jump to

Hmm... you like to jump to conclusions, don't you? The vast majority of people who shave ANYTHING are going to itch, but that isn't the point of my post here. Just... stop acting so "perfect." You really don't know EVERYTHING, and acting like you do is only gonna bite you in the ass later. HARD.

Lissa Rankin's picture

Rock on, sisters

Way to go Shawna! ROFLMAO! You tell 'em!

Bushes unite

Heidi M.'s picture

Of Course.............

Of course mine has thinned considerably since menopause. Maybe he just likes post menopausal women.

Lissa Rankin's picture

Yeah, DUDE

If a girl has to wax it all off to please you, you don't deserve her. Sorry. I say that with love. But if there are any women listening in, ditch any guy who doesn't worship at the altar of your pussy with or without hair.

It's your choice- not his. He should consider himself lucky to even get to go there.
Just sayin'...

Anonymous's picture

Yes. This. No matter who/what

Yes. This. No matter who/what it is, if someone can't respect YOUR choices, they don't deserve you.

Heidi M.'s picture

The Goddess Speaks

You go girl!

Movado19's picture

Sorry Girls, But #1...

Is going to make you very lonely (and the butt of hurtful comments) if you employ it.

There are some things that the vast majority of us men just won't tolerate these days:

-Short hair (every woman in the world is prettier with long hair. There are no exceptions.

-Refusal to engage in oral sex (this is self explanatory)

-PUBIC HAIR OF ANY KIND. If you have pubic hair, especially if you have a lot of it, you are going to remind us more of mom or grandma than the hot sultry sex kitten you are trying to be.

So just stop that nonsense, and give the girls advice that is going to improve their sex life, not hamper it.

...pubic hair on females, indeed *rolls eyes*

Anonymous's picture

glad I don't know who you

glad I don't know who you are! you should just suck yourself.

my man loves me bald or bushy! we have fun either way!
There is definitely a blessing in being able to enjoy each other in everyday that we are.
He shaves his shaft for me when I wish a smooth lollipop and other times I like his bush for my clit...
The only time he reminds me about a trim is when I become less responsive as my pleasure spots become difficult to access, ha ha

Gozer45's picture

no no and no in all aspects

no no and no in all aspects no your post is just wrong on so many accounts
short hair i love it i preffer it and i will always be that way
oral sex nice but if she doesn't want to i wont make here and the thought that she has to is just chauvinistic
pubic hair is not a deal breaker and if you think it is then please keep telling girls that and they can continue to let you go.
i personal only have a few deal breakers smoking because i cant stand the tast and a inability to talk to me the nice thing is thats a lot of girls that fit that description. if she dosent have short hair so what shes still beautiful i just prefer short hair doesent like oral oh well then i guess you might have to pay some atantion to her. not shaven well then i guess your out of luck but she could always demand you do the same.
honestly if any of the things you mentioned are a deal breaker you have serious problems with your gender roles in your life. if a deal breaker is superficial as the things you mentioned i doubt you will ever have a long lasting health relationship.

Anonymous's picture

You do NOT speak for ALL men,

You do NOT speak for ALL men, so get your head outta your.... ah, whatever. It isn't worth it anymore. Men like you make those of us who decent, respectful people, just wish you'd disappear.

Don't listen to him, he's a misogynist idiot.

Anonymous's picture

*I Love You*

*I Love You*

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