When I say Posse, you say Party.... are you feelin' it? A while back our community member Pattie encouraged other ladies to write a letter to their younger selves. This suggestion caught on rather quickly and became a great source of creative inspiration for many Pinkies in our community. A newer community member, Bridget Clark decided to join in on the fun!

Dear Bridget,

I'm not going to be all high and mighty with you because I know how you immediately shut down to egotism. However, I know you crave sincerity. Here I am in August of 2010 and looking forward to my sophomore year of college with a new major, new problems, and better friends. As such, I find that I need to work on finding myself more than I have ever had to before. So I'm sitting in my lonely apartment and I stumble over these letters from people to their younger selves and begin to think of what I'd say to the person I was -- not five or ten years ago, but just a little over one year ago. A lot has changed! Here goes...

1) Be afraid of the big decisions but embrace them as well!
Probably one of the most defining factors about this year for you is the number of changes that will effect your life. You are going to end that four-year relationship from high school and fall madly in love with an amazing guy. Then he'll dump you and you'll have to realize you need to put yourself first. You are going to shock everyone and decide not to be an English teacher. You are going to lose your best friend. But most of all, you're going to learn how to deal with it all.

2) Don't be afraid of having your heart on your sleeve.
I've already told you you're going to have your heart broken (and then stomped on!) this year, but trust me -- you will heal. It's going to feel really rough, and you're going to make some silly decisions in the process -- but it all goes towards shaping a stronger you. Through immense pain, we learn how important it is to love ourselves. One of the best things about you is your ability to give to other people and someday you will find that partner who will treasure that more than anything else in his world. (I don't think it'll be at 19 but let's try and grow while we search!)

3) Finding who you are is essential before giving yourself to someone else.
I know you can't admit it quite yet so I will for you -- we're sometimes a cocky bitch, aren't we? But guess what, we haven't figured it all out yet even if we want to think we have. I'm still discovering who I am and this last year has not only let me do that, it has forced me to. I can't say that I regret any decision that you're going to make this year because you'd always be that naive little girl without these experiences. Just remember that a partner is supposed to make you stronger in yourself -- not a person you should depend on for acceptance.

4) Have Fun!!!
We know you're good when it comes to classes. You'll make it to them and do well and work your ass off to pay the bills while you're at it. But what's the point of all the work if you can't take a chill pill once in awhile?! Drink, kiss, masturbate, dance, eat at restaurants you can't afford, and buy that amazing Coach purse -- because you deserve the best you can give yourself, Bridget!

Anyway, I'm going to try and love you a little more every day. I'm going to remember that it's not "mistakes" that we're making -- it's experiences that we are gaining, shaping us every day along the way...

With love -- always,

Bridget

What about you, Pinkies? Sometimes it's "easier" to give advice to our much younger selves, but what would you say to your self from only one year ago? Would you warn her about the obstacles ahead? Would you tell him to make different choices? What have you learned about your present self by communicating with your past self? Tell us below!