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Are You A Doer Or A Dawdler? (Overcoming Underearning - Part 2!)

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Overcoming Underearning

Welcome back to Part 2 in the Overcoming Underearning series inspired by my friend Barbara Stanny, author of Overcoming Underearning and a leading authority in women and money. I didn’t tell you last time in Part 1, which was about determining whether you’re an underearner, but Barbara’s story is killer. Her dad was the R of H&R Block. So she inherited a boatload of money. You know -- trust fund baby and all that goes with it.

But then she married the wrong guy, trusted him with her money, and POOF. It was gone quicker than the pumpkin carriage in Cinderella.

After a lifetime of having guys take care of her finances, Barbara had to figure it all out herself -- lickety split. What she learned launched her into her current career, in which she is committed to helping women avoid the mistakes she made and claim their place as high earners getting paid what they’re worth.

Amen, sister!

So…today’s post is about what to do once you’ve determined that you’re an underearner. Are you a Doer -- someone who overcomes underearning and starts raking in the big bucks? Or are you a Dawdler -- an underearner who stays an underearner? Here are some of Barbara’s tips for being a Doer, not a Dawdler.

8 Rules for Achieving Remarkable Results

(from Barbara’s Overcoming Underearning program and book, that is)

  1. Make a vow to yourself: underearning is no longer an option.
  2. Keep your commitments. Do what you say you’re going to do.
  3. Instead of letting disruptions derail you, use disruptions (like moving or getting married) to practice the 5 steps (which we’ll cover here in Part 3 of this blog series).
  4. Enroll your spouse or significant other in this process.
  5. Put yourself first. Remember the oxygen mask! Dawdlers take care of everybody else first. Doers know better.
  6. Keep passages from Barbara’s book, snippets from this blog post, or other inspiring quotes where you can easily see them.
  7. Rigorously observe your actions and thoughts. Don’t engage in limiting beliefs or self-sabotaging behaviors!
  8. Do what you dread. Face it. Suck it up. Do it.

Are you on board? Have you gotten off the fence and out of your own way enough to do this? If not, sign up for the free Get Out of Your Own Way mini e-course here and then check back!



Lissa Rankin, MD: Founder of OwningPink.com, Change Catalyst coach, motivational speaker, and author of What’s Up Down There? Questions You’d Only Ask Your Gynecologist If She Was Your Best Friend and Encaustic Art: The Complete Guide To Creating Fine Art With Wax.



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Going to buy Barbara's book today...

Your blog is always spot on, and this series on underearning is no different. My husband and I have always had money issues, which inevitably lead to relationship troubles, and I am OVER IT. We have recently hit rock bottom; his company with his dad is failing after more than a decade of him trying to save it, and I have stood up and said "no more!" So, he is on his way to a mid-life career change, and I will keep working hard to make ends meet (even if sometimes they don't). But I want more!! I am no longer afraid to say I want it. And I think part of that is because of you and your lovely, loving voice. So, here I go. And hopefully, I can soon say here WE go, as I want nothing more than for him to be on this road with me to earning what we are worth.

Thanks so much!

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