When I was on tour with Lissa Rankin, a question came up at our first college chat event -- a question about pubic hair. Lissa had just explained that not all STDs are prevented with condom use. Pubic lice is one of those. A young woman then asked if she should just shave all of her pubic hair in order to avoid exposure.
I am sure there had to have been a time when shaving (or waxing) your pubic hair was akin to shaving you head. When I was a little girl in the early '80s "the bush" was symbolic of this incredible, mysterious world of womanhood that I'd one day enter. Getting to sneak a peak at this part of a woman's body -- whether in an R-rated movie or the Playboy magazines under my friend's brother's bed -- absolutely fascinated me. I thought "the bush" was beautiful and I couldn't wait to have one.
But as I grew into womanhood myself, trends changed. Bikinis got smaller and the need to groom pubic hair became necessary among the female population. It seems since that time we've taken this grooming to a level that makes "the bush" an endangered species on the brink of extinction. I, personally, find this trend saddening -- if not also disturbing!
In What's Up Down There?, Lissa gives some of the reasons we have pubic hair. Two reasons are that it serves as another barrier between our sacred vagina and the outside world and it holds our pharemones which are so important in attracting our perfect sexual mates. When you think of it, shaving or waxing is a present day version of douching and using feminine sprays. Maybe some of us think we're cleaning things up down there but really we're decreasing or eliminating the smell that may bring us the love of our lives.
Recently in the news and here on Owning Pink, we learned about the horrible book being sold on Amazon, which was basically a how-to guide for pedophiles. This is what sparked my interest in writing about pubic hair. In essence (and this is also in Lissa's book) "the bush" serves as a signal or billboard that announces a woman is of age to engage in sexual activity. You know the old (and crude) saying "If there's grass on the field...." When we as a society decide that it is sexy and desirable for a woman's girly parts to be bald, what message are we sending? When young boys and girls today stumble upon porn or Playboy's they don't see "the bush." They often see grown women with vaginas similar to an 8-year-old's. To me, this is just disturbing.
It's in the media too -- a few weeks ago, I was watching the TV show Mike and Molly. In the episode, Molly was getting ready for a "special" date with Mike. Her sister insisted that no one has hair down there anyore and talked her into an at-home waxing job. When I watched the scene all I could think was, BRING BACK THE BUSH! Let's love and embrace our vaginas -- pubic hair and all -- and stop listening to these media messages that betray our true womanhood.
What about you? How do you feel about pubic hair? Do you shave or wax because it's the "in" thing to do or do you do it because it empowers you and makes you feel sexy? I would love to hear all of your opinions and experiences -- whether you agree with me or not!
Love and Light,
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