
My brilliant friend Dr. Judith Orloff, who is both an psychiatrist and a gifted intuitive, combines traditional Western medical knowledge with energy medicine and intuitive healing. Her latest book, Emotional Freedom: Liberate Yourself From Negative Emotions And Transform Your Life, offers the best of both to help you free yourself from the emotional prisons we have a tendency to inhabit. The post is the first in a series based on Dr. Orloff’s book that aim to help you harness your feminine power by unshackling you from the emotional chains that drag you down. So get ready to rock, girlfriends!
Have you ever been around an emotional vampire? You know what I’m talking about -- they suck the energy right out of you and leave you feeling like Dracula just drank a gallon of your life force. While being in the presence of some people leaves you feeling optimistic, energetic, inspired, and connected, being around emotional vampires leaves you depressed, anxious, depleted, and drained.
You know what I’m talking about. You can probably list the people you know who make you feel this way. I know I can. It tires me out just thinking about the kinds of interactions that sap me when I’m with people like this.
How Energy Vampires OperateDr. Orloff says, “A vampire goes in for the kill by stirring up your emotions. Pushing your buttons throws you off center, which renders you easier to drain.” You’ll be more susceptible to the influence of vampires if you are:
Want to learn how to protect yourself from getting sucked dry? Here are some tips from Dr. Orloff’s book.
A quick and dirty way to tell if you’re around an emotional vampire is to assess how you both feel when the interaction between you is complete. You’ll know if someone is an emotional vampire because, when all is said and done, you’ll feel worse; they’ll feel better.
Some common side effects:
When you find yourself in the presence of a vampire, you’ll need some garlic to ward off the heeby-jeebies that can accompany such an interaction.
Do you have emotional vampires in your life? Or are you one? How do you respond to people who suck you dry? Tell us your stories!
If you’d like to read more about identifying and dealing with emotional vampires, read Judith’s fabulous book. And stay tuned for more posts about Emotional Freedom! Part 2 of the series will discuss the different types of emotional vampires and how you can identify them -- and protect yourself!
Warding off vampires,
Lissa
Lissa Rankin, MD: Founder of OwningPink.com, Pink Medicine Woman coach, motivational speaker, and author of What’s Up Down There? Questions You’d Only Ask Your Gynecologist If She Was Your Best Friend and Encaustic Art: The Complete Guide To Creating Fine Art With Wax.
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Yep, sounds like my mother,
By Michelle Medina (not verified) on Monday, 05/23/2011 at 12:00 PMYep, sounds like my mother, like her family and like the stepmom's family as well! Lol. At least as of late, i've noticed a change and I didn't even have the book! I'm not sure what I've done differently, as i don't really feel different, but we're interacting differently, and now when I leave I actually sometimes feel better! At the very least, I feel as good as I came in feeling.
My GF is an emotional Vamp...
By Patrick Morrison (not verified) on Wednesday, 04/20/2011 at 7:33 PMVery much like the Do's and Don'ts... really helpful, thank you! :-D
My girlfriend sucks the life out of me. Just when I have the reason to smile, she finds the reason to make me feel depressed. That's just her, but I try to stay calm because she just goes all crazy whenever she doesn't get attention from me.
I treat her well and try to talk in a calm manner. She responds to it but rarely. She's not like this before we became boyfriend and girlfriend but I just wanna take things slow and try to come up of a way so that I can also pull her out from being an emotional vampire.
Maybe the EFT training I had helped me how to be calm, though. :-)
Great tips 'do's and dont's'! Thanks!!
By Me! (not verified) on Sunday, 04/17/2011 at 5:43 AMI live with the worst emotional vampire I have ever come across... We have a child together and I'm slowly but surely 'getting out of my own way' to get out of this emotional mess. He absolutely LOVES to push my buttons, contradict everything I say, even if its a joke!
I am DONE with trying to reason with him about having a healthier relationship, he always brings me down, but I need to be financially stable so I can provide for my 13 month old... I already announced I was looking for a job outside the home and three friends answered immediately, so I'm very exited and hopeful for this change to happen. This article (I'll buy the book eventually) has helped me stay centered when he comes across with his dark cape and sharp teeth... I just smile and ask, Do you feel better now?
Can't wait for part 2 of this series!!
Thanks again!! Big hugs to all!!
Great thoughts, thank you!
By Barbara (not verified) on Tuesday, 03/01/2011 at 10:17 AMGreat thoughts, thank you!
great information thank
By jane (not verified) on Tuesday, 03/01/2011 at 9:38 AMgreat information thank you!
i make a big fat wall to protect myself from an emotional vampire i have to continue dealing with .... it means she doesn't know me and is constantly hurt by not gaining access to my juice but i need my juice to make my own life worth living...