This summer my husband Roger and I attended the wedding of Kira and Greg -- another of my daughter Liz's closest high school girlfriends. This was our fifth wedding this summer for Liz's high school girlfriends. We are so thankful that everyone is doing so well, getting on with life in joy I really don't think these girls know or understand how much it means to Roger and me that we are included in their celebrations. It is so special. What was even more touching for us at this wedding was the extra way that Kira and Greg remembered Liz.
The church was beautiful and was filled full of family and friends. We entered the santuary after receiving the wedding program from another newly married high school friend of Liz's -- Holly. We sat down and began to look through the program. It was filled with names of Liz's friends who were a part of the wedding party. On the back of the program was the following:
"On this day we remember our loved ones, Elizabeth Wencl and Molly Schiller. The flowers placed at the altar symbolize all the wonderful times they brought into our lives. They will always be in our hearts, thoughts and prayers."
In addition, prayers were spoken for Liz and Molly during the service.
It was beautfiul and touching and so loving. It brought tears to my eyes, but I wouldn't have it any other way, and I will be enternally grateful for all the rembrances made, the stories told, and the memories shared once again.
99.9% of the time, I am filled with joy as I watch LIz's friends lives unfold. But I wouldn't be human if I didn't ponder about what could have been and what will never be for Liz. Although I am eternally grateful for my Liz and the strong connection that we will always share, I am sad that she will never experience what it is like to fall in love, get married, and perhaps have a family. I'm sad for her and I'm sad for Roger and me, and all of our families.
I allow myself this time of sadness because it is there and it is real and it deserves to be recognized. Once I acknowedge it, it is easier to let it go and once again focus on the happiness of the occasion and the love I have for each of Liz's friends. They have become more than friends -- they are family.
My cup runneith over, and the sadness has lifted once agai ... it has been replaced once again with JOY and EVERLASTING LOVE!
How about you, Pinkies? Have you ever had a time in your life when you had conflicted feelings? Perhaps you chose not to acknowledge the feelings of sadness because for everyone else the occasion was happy? How did you deal with it?
Tell us your story ... we would love to hear it..
Blessings - love -- and happy celebrations (and a tear or two)!
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