Love your post. Perhaps, you are to be a lesson to the Negative Nellies out there. It seemed for a while, every time something good happened to me, crap happened to my friend. I was feeling guilty, as if my good had to balance with her bad. Then I realized, when good happened to me, she was jealous or upset that it wasn't happening to her, that brought about more negative into her life. I started to say an affirmation just to keep me positive. "I gratefully accept my abundance knowing it positively affects others". Plus I remind myself...only my world revolves around me, no one else's does. So, it keeps me from taking rejection personally.

At various times in my life, I've definitely had some folks in my circle who seemed to love to pee in my wheaties. Breaking away from people that have been important in your life is hard, but sometimes it has to be done. There are times I look back on those relationships and I regret that they could not be saved, but I don't ever regret walking away.

Hi Jennifer,

It's not about blaming at all. Not at all. This message/information is actually profoundly empowering for women and all people. And I'm especially passionate about empowering women. Let me try to explain it better.

First, on some level, Charles Manson does reflect our energy. That is, most of us, especially men, carry around anger--a lot of anger, explosive anger. And that's very dangerous to ourselves and others. This person who did those unspeakable, horrific things may very well have been a lesson for us. Of how we create such "monsters" when we dishonor our potent so-called "negative" emotions. They are tangible (most people don't realize this) and one way or the other, they will come out. They will create "hell" in our lives if we don't regularly release them, just like we release food waste. If we didn't do that release of food waste, we'd die. Not releasing that spiritual energy is no different. Most of us have no problem releasing the joy :-) Imagine if we couldn't laugh. Think of people trying to hold back laughter when they feel explosive with it. Notice how it slips out anyway, you can't hold it back. It hurts to hold it back...

The real empowerment comes with knowing that the people who come to us, that we live and work with, neighbors even--like it or not, these people do reflect our energy. And I feel this will be common knowledge at some point. Please, it's not about blame. This knowledge is empowering because we can change our energy. But if we don't know the why, then we feel helpless to change it. And we can change it. We can even counter the negative subconscious energy, which is usually the culprit--it usually brings about the bad stuff. Because it's buried way down in there, and we seem to think if we bury it, then it's not harmful. Wrong.

But think small scale, not Charles Manson. You can only control your immediate world. If you hear someone outside your door that is raging angry, I guarantee you that's about your energy--at least in that moment. What comes to you, you are either consciously or subconsciously "calling." It's simply the Law of Attraction. You could have a big ole smile on your face in that moment, but I assure you, that rage energy is coming to you because it's within you. A message for you, to flesh it out, to clear it out, so that it doesn't adversely affect your life, your health, others.

Again, more often than not, it won't be readily apparent, you might not feel angry at all--we tend to bury this old stuff deep. Hence, the "gift" in others around us, showing us. It's not fun feeling anger or especially the pain from being harmed as a child. And it has been so vilified--no one wants to be called "negative" or "angry." But pasted-on smiles sicken and ultimately kill people. How is that empowering? Not knowing of what I speak keeps us weak. The anger that we carry is powerfully destructive, deadly. It will ultimately draw to us more than a snide remark in a restaurant.

We create everything that happens to us. We're that powerful. It comes from the energy that we carry, on some level. It explains why bad things happen to very good people--it's about what they have buried. It may even be some sort of "spiritual programming" for lessons that need to be learned. Regardless, ultimately, we are still the "Magician" as the Tarot calls us. The "blame" thing is not relevant. What matters is us taking back our power, being healthy and happy, and creating peace in our little world, which is really the only way to create peace in our larger world.

This is a powerful and needed message, and I know part of my purpose is to share it. Again, we can change this energy. It's not easy (I know we're a push-button world), it takes time and determination. But what truly good thing doesn't? Love is powerful, so very powerful. And even "pretending" we feel joy and love can help. But if we're pasting on a smile and speaking flowery words of love and still drawing some wicked experiences. Then that's telling. It likely speaks of unhealed trauma (usually from childhood), often holding onto hatred of an abusive parent or some other unaddressed/unhealed spiritual energy.

Just remember when we love OR hate something (strong emotions), conscious or subconscious, we will draw it to us. An ongoing, continual, unaddressed focus. That energy, our energy, creates. We are creators just like whatever created us. Our emotional/spiritual energy is that potent. With this knowledge, we can choose to continue to carry it or to begin to regularly express it, regularly counter it with powerful, heart-felt affirmations. "Heart-felt" is key. Our manifestations are fueled by the heart--any strong or "passionate" emotion. That knowledge doesn't weaken us, it empowers us.

Dove