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Feminism Is Irrelevant (To Me)

Dana Theus's picture

Women Waiting

I’ve really gotten into women’s issues lately but in the process I’ve realized I’m not a feminist. I’m not sure I ever was, but now I’m sure I’m not! I’m a Feminista! There have been various “waves” of feminism , which make distinctions in the category of “promote women over (blank)”. The blank could be men, the system, everything else… it doesn’t matter. To me it all says, give us rights and opportunities because we’re women, we have great things to offer and you need us.

I totally own my femininity and my gender. The older I get the more I come to understand what women are capable of – because of our gender. We are amazing, strong, fearless, tender, loving, sexy, vulnerable, intuitive, discerning, beautiful, hard-working, soft, nurturing, kick-ass creatures – in ways men can never be (though I love their manly stuff too:). To me, all this and more makes us awesomely powerful in the world.

Women are Powerful?

I recently had the chance to review some research conducted by Jane Purdue and Anne Perschel about women and Power. I’ll be writing more about that in the future, but here was the stat that struck me: in the 100’s of professional women they interviewed and surveyed, 89% indicated a passive stance regarding how they expected to gain power in their organization (read, in their world). The representative statement was, “I’ll have power when my boss gives it to me.”

89% of us are waiting around for someone to give us the opportunity to be powerful? Seriously?

I know this stat is true because for the early part of my career, it was true for me, until I packed up my bags in corporate America and became an Entrepreneur. As an entrepreneur – and a solopreneur in particular - it’s tough to survive, and impossible to thrive, without tapping into your own, personal power. What is this personal power? Read about it here. I’ll tell you one thing it’s not, your personal power isn’t something you take from other people. It’s something only you can bring through to the world.

Feminism Is Part of What We Allow To Sap Our Power

I’ve come to think that Feminism and the rant to be given power is actually perpetuating this passive stance. I don’t think it’s ill-spirited. In fact, I think the first few waves of Feminism have succeeded in creating opportunity that, according to the stat above, many of us are sitting around waiting to take advantage of. I’m not waiting; I’m certainly not wasting my power on ranting against the system (unless it’s pinpointed to create a specific change I can influence) and I have no energy for a woman who is bursting with potential but who insists on hiding it. By contrast, for those women who ARE ready to step into their personal power and stop hiding it, I have all the energy in the world

Potential is useless unless we realize it, ladies.

I don’t believe in promoting women because they have female potential, I believe in championing women because of what we do with it in the world. Even if you have potential, for you and others to understand it, you’ve got to get out and use it. Just start and see what happens.

Our world is broken and breaking. It needs us desperately.

What are YOU waiting for? Have you stepped into power only to realize you’re still hiding some of it? What will it take for you to stop waiting and start being in your power? Are you ready? How are you claiming your power TODAY?

Powerfully yours,

Dana Theus

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Comments

Lea's picture

As a single mom and an

As a single mom and an artist, I feel exactly what you are saying. My 30's so far have been all about stepping into my power. The funny thing is that I have been working for myself now for over 6 years--growing my art career as I create and run other small businesses to make ends meet--and it has only been very recently that I have started to fully realize what I have done. As in a capital "I," MYSELF. As I step further into this realization, I am finding more and more opportunities & success for myself.

In short, yes, although I was doing some powerful things, I was hiding so much of it by not giving myself credit. Thankfully I have an amazing community of friends who have been reflecting my successes back to me so I can finally see more clearly my own potential & get there!

Dana Theus's picture

The mirror is so important

Lea
I totally get what you're saying. My journey has been the same way and started in my 30's. I needed friends around me to help me see it too. YES. The more others hold up the mirror to help us see ourselves, the more we can integrate all we are and begin to be a mirror for ourselves too. THANK YOU for sharing your story here. Power to you!

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Lissa Rankin's picture

Stepping into your power

Dana, you have personally witnessed my own struggle with stepping into my power, especially when it comes to claiming my place as a leader in medicine. It's amazing how challenging the voices of fear can be and how crafty we can get at avoiding the process of stepping into our feminine power.

Thank you for shining a light on the fact that so many of us resist what makes us most powerful.

Here's to being in our power!
Lissa

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Dana Theus's picture

You are powerful

Lissa
When I met you you were powerful. I'm watching you claim more and more of it - as am I. It's a pretty amazing thing. Bottomless and limitless. Here's to us!

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