
Imagine my surprise when this showed up in my inbox in a newsletter from Jessica Steward, a coach I admire. Not only was it specifically referencing a business challenge I’ve faced, but it’s actually written about me. I thought it was such a powerful article, I wanted to share it with you all here, in case any of you suffer from unfocused energy spray in your business the way I do!
Something clicked when I read this, and I suddenly realized that focusing my business energy isn’t the same as putting myself in a box or limiting who I am or what I do. It’s also okay to leave my business energy nebulous, if that’s what I choose to do. I found this article very insightful and professionally spot on, so I though you might too. Take it away, Jessica! -- Lissa Rankin
During the drag of the long winter break, I read a blog post from an amazing spirit, Dr. Lissa Rankin. Dr. Lissa is a Renaissance woman. She is a medical doctor, an artist, a mom, a coach, a motivational speaker, and an author. In other words, she is a marketing manager’s worst nightmare.
Lissa is angry because she feels that devilish marketing experts are trying to put her in a box, make her a neat and tidy soundbyte in order to make their jobs easier. Her spirited resistance got me (as one of those marketing devils) thinking about the challenge that many entrepreneurs face when asked to focus. In my role as business coach, I always encourage my clients to get very clear about what problems they solve and for whom. And like Dr. Lissa when faced with this exercise, many of my clients get very angry and accusingly shout, “No one puts Baby in a corner!” before bursting into tears and hanging up on me.
All dramatic hyperbole aside, why do so many entrepreneurs share a perception that narrowing their focus equates to being “put into a box" or reduced to a "soundbyte"? On the face of it, the very idea of being reduced to anything (other than a delicious balsamic glaze) seems to demean the gifts we bring to this world. We have BIG work to do and don't want to miss a single opportunity to affect change on any one life that needs us. It’s only natural that being asked to limit the focus of their attention would feel restrictive to such abundant minds.
However, is it really possible for one person to be all things to all people? Are we really so mighty that as individuals -- or even a small group of individuals – we can conquer the vast sea of issues that exist in this world?
The reality is that as solopreneurs or small business owners we have limited resources to execute on our limitless visions: we all share the same 24 hours in the day, our pocketbooks are never so full as to be overflowing, and our human capital is often capped at less than what we wish. When you narrow your focus, you don't have to give up the breadth of your dreams, but rather reduce the scope of what you are trying to accomplish at this one particular moment. In time, you can acquire additional resources to take on even more.
We can find the truth of this in the power of water. If you want to make water more powerful you must narrow the focus of its path in order to harness its energy. If you don't, your source of power meanders and your unfocused energy forms new paths and creates numerous diversions. It trickles out and your ability to help people is dramatically reduced. As a coach, I ask you to narrow your focus -- not to make my job easier, but to make yours less hard. When you harness the power of your focused attention, you create exponentially more energy because your attention is riveted on solving a very specific problem or set of problems for a very specific group of people.
Imagine water through a hose. When you tighten the nozzle, the jet is more powerful and the breadth of coverage is narrower. Your energy, similarly focused, ultimately produces or attracts resources – like money or people to your cause – because your passion and purpose means you are solving an urgent and pervasive problem and solving it well. Your abundance of resources can then be reinvested or redirected into new streams of opportunity, allowing you to create greater change in the world.
The truth is that the real power of water is its limitless persistence. If you narrow your focus on something that ultimately doesn't resonate for you or your tribe, you will find your energy almost immediately leaking out and forming winding streams, swirling eddies, and cobbled creeks. Notice where your energy is being diverted and rather than stopping up the hole, take some time to explore these unchartered waters. Spend some time in this new flow to figure out if it is worthwhile. And if it is, then start the process of narrowing and focusing all over again, but this time you know how to do it and it goes far more quickly.
When I ask you to narrow your focus, I'm not asking you to back yourself into a corner or fold yourself into a box. I'm not trying to cut you off from possibilities. Instead I am asking you to pick a point to focus your energies in order to allow you to create more resources and expand your possibilities. By taking the time to learn which way the water flows and giving yourself permission to feel its harnessed power, you will become mightier than the Mississippi and the current will take you exactly in the direction you want to be moving.
If you need any help figuring out how to get started on the path to harnessing your power, I’m here wading.
Sorry. I couldn’t resist.
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Jessica Steward is a Certified Martha Beck Life Coach who loves helping her fellow solopreneurs and small business owners get out of their heads and into their gigs. With fifteen years of corporate marketing experience, Jessica combines her coaching with her practical, business side by helping her clients blast through blocking thoughts and beliefs, sift through and prioritize dreams and desires, and turn a seed of an idea into an actionable plan for your life or business. She also loves helping entrepreneurs use video to help them connect more authentically with their tribes. She lives in Boston with her husband, her dog, two cats, and two ukuleles. The cats cannot play the ukuleles. Yet.
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Love that, Dana
By Lissa Rankin on Saturday, 05/21/2011 at 7:00 AMIs that me? Am I pooling right now? I just don't feel quite ready to focus, so maybe that's it!
Thanks for the analogy. And Jessica, I'm so honored to have you here with us, love!
xoxo
Lissa
If we use the analogy of
By Jessica Steward (not verified) on Saturday, 05/21/2011 at 4:21 PMIf we use the analogy of pooling as a "rest" cycle in our energy, then it may not fit. However, in my humble opinion, I think you are exploring your tributaries, eddies, and streams and enjoying all the amazing landscape that life has to offer for your many talents. When something really captures your heart and attention and you feel a calling to respond, you'll find ways to focus deeply - either by acquiring new resources or by cutting off the streams of energy to those other endeavors as necessary. I imagine you'll know when you get there.
In the mean time, you bring so much joy and beauty to so many, I'm just going to enjoy it!
I am deeply honored to be here.
XOXOXO
Pooling
By Dana Theus on Saturday, 05/21/2011 at 7:10 AMI feel like the end of the pooling phase comes when that first pebble is pushed aside and you can SEE where that tributary wants to flow.... and make the choice to enable it - or not. Personally I have a few pebbles wiggling and I'm watching them closely.....
Yes - Love this! The real
By Jessica Steward (not verified) on Saturday, 05/21/2011 at 4:22 PMYes - Love this! The real power is in the noticing and the allowance of things to flow as needed. XOXO
Nice
By Dana Theus on Saturday, 05/21/2011 at 6:31 AMJessica
As one who has been an evil marketing type in the past I really appreciate this. I love the water analogy. As with all marketers (and people, really) I sometimes have difficulty applying this concept to myself (tho I do try!) I've come to the conclusion that sometimes water has to pool, to become a "thing", whole and powerful and still before it has the energy to spill over into its most immediate natural paths of power. At least that's how it feels for me. I suspect Lissa has been going through something similar.
But you're right at the heart of it, once the power is generated, it has more impact through it's focus. I imagine a quiet, still pool, growing and building until a little pebble gives way - that first ah-ha! I have something specific and powerful to offer there! - and then the flowing starts until another pebble gives way and another stream emerges, until the pool is gone and there is nothing but a deep, winding river flowing through the countryside. Attention must be paid to the source, of course, but I believe this is how mighty rivers are made - and joined. Lovely imagery. Thank you.
Pooling as "Rest"
By Jessica Steward (not verified) on Saturday, 05/21/2011 at 4:15 PMHi Dana -
You are absolutely right. If we imagine the cycle of our lives as a cycle of rest & play (versus "work"), then "play" = flow and "rest" = pool. Sometimes our energy needs a chance to settle and we must gather our reserves in order to flow again - in an even more powerful way. (I feel like there is a menstrual cycle analogy coming in another article!)
Throughout our lives, we are in flow or in pool in different facets of our life at different times. For many entrepreneurs our "life" versus our "work" are virtually indistinguishable. There are times when we want to be in flow in our work, but are in a pool cycle in our personal life or vice versa. It creates a conflict internally and sometimes externally. However, by honoring that "pool" cycle - by intentionally resting our minds and bodies alike - we restore our reserves for all those different facets.
When we find ourselves pooling, then I encourage everyone to honor it. The power you produce on the other side will be astonishing!
Thank you so much for your wonderful addition to the analogy. Humans are more than 60% water, so it is only fitting that we'd relate to it. :-)
Big hugs to you,
Jessica
Hmmm. Rest or Deepening?
By Dana Theus on Saturday, 05/21/2011 at 6:33 PMJessica
That's interesting to see pooling as "rest". I totally get the analogy, but I was actually referring to a different phenomenon, which is the collection and gathering of power. There are times in my life when I'm conscious that I'm "building up" - wisdom, insight, perspective etc.... so that when I make a shift in life - turn in a new direction or take on a new and different challenge - I'm really ready. I'm in the midst of ending a pooling phase right now and I realize looking backwards that the last few years I've been working and building all the skills and insights I need to succeed in this next phase. Of course I was barely aware of it at the time, and often frustrated that I wasn't flowing, but I just wasn't' ready. My pool wasn't deep and strong enough yet.
I get the "Rest" analogy for sure but for me now, I'm aware that I had to collect my energy and knowledge and self into a single place, an unbroken, still place to really appreciate it all and understand the true power of me. As we run sluicing down the tributary, it's easy to get so caught up in the motion that we forget the quiet power of the source. So the analogy takes on yet deeper dimension....
Thanks for the great dialog.
The Gathering of Energy
By Jessica Steward (not verified) on Sunday, 05/29/2011 at 7:33 PMHi Dana -
It makes total sense. I love the furthering of the analogy and can completely relate. I've actually used another water analogy to describe this gathering or pooling of energy, but in this one I equate the sometimes-slow nature of our careers taking off to boiling water.
Excerpt below:
Here’s a basic Physics lesson we seem to forget: liquid water evaporates to form a gas at any old temperature, not just at its boiling temperature of 212 degrees Fahrenheit. The glass of water on your nightstand is slowly changing to water vapor, a process you may notice if you leave the glass there for a couple days. Applying heat and bringing water to a boil is a more obvious way to speed the physical transformation process from liquid to gas. But staring at it the pot, willing it to get on with it, certainly doesn’t make it boil any faster.
Just as you are staring at your new or existing venture, waiting for it to go from one state to another, the transformation is already happening. Days are passing, lessons (hopefully) are being learned, wisdom acquired. You’re learning how to become the Boss of Your Life in exactly the amount of time that is required for YOU to do so. The process is underway.
In many ways, that is what you are referring to before, the transformation of energy from investment to output. It also highlights my obsession with water. I must move to the beach. Imagine the inspiration I'd find there!
Anyway...
All good stuff! Thanks for coming out to "play" with me here! So glad to connect!
Love,
Jessica
". . .you will find your
By helen (not verified) on Friday, 05/20/2011 at 6:56 PM". . .you will find your energy almost immediately leaking out and forming winding streams, swirling eddies, and cobbled creeks. Notice where your energy is being diverted and rather than stopping up the hole, take some time to explore these unchartered waters."
What a perfect and beautifully expressed analogy! Just had to comment and say that *this* is the kind of writing that helps to change people, by giving the language of pictures to confused and unexpressed impressions.
This article really resonated with me.
--Helen (who has been feeling a bit fragmented of late)
Dearest Helen - Thank you so
By Jessica Steward (not verified) on Saturday, 05/21/2011 at 3:52 PMDearest Helen -
Thank you so much for your thoughtful comment. I really appreciate that this resonated with you. I'm always trying to find ways to help people understand themselves more deeply and analogies often bring that understanding into sharper focus.
Why are you feeling fragmented? Is the fragmentation itself causing your pain or is it the feelings about being fragmented? Narrowing a focus before you're ready can cause an even deeper sense of dissonance in our lives, which can in turn create more fragmentation. I'd love to hear more about your own journey and how we can bring you back into alignment. :-)
Big hugs to you!
Jessica
fragmentation
By helen (not verified) on Saturday, 05/21/2011 at 6:25 PMJamie, thanks very much for your kind reply and gentle questioning. About feeling fragmented. . . I think it's partly because I feel a profound sense of disconnect when I consider my upbringing. Paradoxically, that upbringing is what made me who I am today. So I feel I can't disown it without disowning myself, in a way. It's like being a captive to a past that I had little control over and do not fully like, still it is the only life story I have. I can only exist in the context of it.
I ask myself if any of this even matters and usually decide no. Perhaps trying to figure out the past is a mind trap with no ending or exit.
Meanwhile, I've started a family of my own and a fledgling business. I'm pursuing some academic interests that I'm finding very mentally enriching and rewarding, and I'm dabbling happily in a few creative outlets and projects, gaining skills as I go. I don't know yet where any of these things will take me, if anywhere, but I'm looking at the future with a sense of curiosity and anticipation, and trying to go with my flow (there's that water analogy again). I'm happy with most things in my life now, except that sometimes I feel so fake, hence the comment about feeling fragmented. Maybe I've just somehow managed to come to adulthood without having developed much of a real sense of self, and it's going to be slow going.
Thanks for reading this, and I hope it isn't too much of a wallow/rant. :)
Helen
Our Stories and Flow
By Jessica Steward (not verified) on Sunday, 05/29/2011 at 7:21 PMHi Helen -
Our stories can be very powerful. I don't know the story of your upbringing (so you'll have to tell me where I'm wrong), but I would guess that the conflict comes when you see yourself as the victim of your upbringing versus the victor. I invite you to look at the story of your upbringing and see how your story could be rewritten where you are the hero - literally rewritten. Write your story down as you would normally tell it and then go through and become the hero. Perhaps you already have done that work. Either way, it's something that I've found to work for me personally.
I would also guess that feeling "fake" is a protective device that your body (or maybe even your spirit) has put into place to keep you playing small - if you will - so that you won't put yourself out there and risk getting hurt. If that resonates at all (and always tell me where I'm wrong) I would encourage you to probe what the sensations of "feeling fake" feel like in your body. Describe it, notice where it is in your body, really settle into the emotions it brings and ask it how "feeling fake" is there to help you. You may be surprised at the insight it has to give you!
Much love and gratitude for you!
Jessica
Woot!
By asisterbear (not verified) on Thursday, 05/19/2011 at 9:37 AMJessica, You are a delicious balsamic glaze! Nice job!
Love this site Lissa.
Thank you so much! We're so
By Jessica Steward (not verified) on Thursday, 05/19/2011 at 2:01 PMThank you so much! We're so lucky to be able to Own Pink!
You go Jessica Steward!
By Lori Race (not verified) on Thursday, 05/19/2011 at 7:11 AMAs a solopreneur who has experienced the genius that is business coach, Jessica Steward, I can attest to the fact that I most certainly did not feel like "baby in the corner" in working with her to focus my business. Her business and marketing strategies allowed me to move forward with my coaching business and brand in a way that felt both intentional and true to me! Love this Jessica!
Thanks, Sister Goddess!
By Jessica Steward (not verified) on Saturday, 05/21/2011 at 3:57 PMThanks for the comment. You made my job easy by being so fantabulous. XOXOX