If you don’t already know Michelle Medina from the Pink Posse community, you should. Michelle (who we lovingly call “Chelle” in our community) is our most active member, our most loving supporter of every single person in this community, and one kick ass woman with a whole lot of spirit, love, and potential.
Unfortunately, she’s having a tough time realizing that potential. But today is her 25th birthday, and I’d like to invite all of you to help me help Chelle realize her big, beautiful dreams. Let this be our birthday gift to Chelle. Let’s help her so she can help many. If you’re ready to help, click this paypal button, but if you want to know more, here’s some back story.
It’s not fair, but some of us just have a harder go at this whole life thing, and my heart goes out to Chelle what she has had to endure. She was born with a Tessier cleft, a type of facial cleft that goes all the way through her lip to her palate, through her nose, and between what would have been her eyes (which she was born without). In order to repair these defects, Michelle has endured 66 surgeries in her young 25 years.
To make matters worse, her home life has been tough. I won’t say more about it than that. But you can let your imagination fill in the rest. Thank goodness for her father and Holly, her best friend, who pretty much make up Chelle’s entire support network outside of the internet.
Because of the bum deal life has thrown her way, Chelle’s opportunities have been limited. It’s hard for her to get a job where she lives, because she’s blind and can’t drive, and there’s no public transportation where she lives at her parent’s house (which is less than ideal for her). She depends on her parents to drive her any place she needs to go -- like the hospital where she volunteered to help cuddle babies, which she had to stop visiting because she couldn’t get a ride.
As Chelle’s 25th birthday present to herself, she made the radical choice to spend half of her monthly paycheck on a coaching session with me, to honor the first ¼ century of her life and get clear on how she wants to live the rest of it.
My 1 ½ hour session with her blew me away. This girl has big dreams, beautiful dreams, humanitarian dreams. She dreams of going to Africa to hold orphaned babies and help disabled children, so they can know they are loved, that they are precious, that their lives matter.
As part of our coaching session, I invited Chelle to share with me her big dreams, to picture her dream life like a movie in her head the way I did here. Here’s how Chelle described the movie of her life:
I’m blessed to have a loving partner and a child, and I’m not living at home anymore. I have a menagerie of cats and dogs and horses and hamsters and guinea pigs. I’m surrounded by animals everywhere. I have the energy to get up at 5am and just GO -- to the beach or on vacation (instead of looking to my surgeries as vacation). I’ll go diving and swim with the sharks. Another day, I’ll spend the day grooming and taking care of my horses and riding and feeling completely free and happy.
The whole real world thing of people arguing wouldn’t enter my life, even for a day. On another day, I’ll go and hold and rock and feed and take care of abandoned babies all day long and hug them and love them up and let them know how beautiful and important they are. On another day, I’ll laze in bed with my partner, talking about our hopes and dreams and desires. There will be another day surrounded by friends, immersed in love and music and dancing and feeling the beat and letting it all hang out. I’ll play a guitar even though I don’t know how to play it. I don’t care what color the curtains are because I can’t see. I don’t care what the house looks like as long as it’s clean. I don’t have some grand dream house. I care about experiences, not things. My dream is focused on the feelings -- what it would feel like to be my authentic self all the time, without bumping up against people who tell me I can’t have what I desire.
Chelle says, “If I had that, it would feel like a life. I realize that things aren’t gonna be perfect. I’m not requesting perfection. I just want a life.”
I write often on Owning Pink about asking the Universe for what you need. So as part of our coaching session, I asked Chelle to flesh out exactly what she needs in order to start living this dream life NOW.
When I ask the Universe for what I need, I also ask the Twitterverse, my Facebook friends, and my peeps in the Owning Pink posse. I figure God uses angels on earth to make things happen, lickety split.
So -- although everything anyone tells me in a coaching session is completely confidential -- I asked Chelle’s permission to tell her story here and to come to you, the Owning Pink community, to ask whether we can help meet Chelle’s needs.
Can you please help? Does anyone have a job they can offer her? A place to stay? A new friend they can introduce her to? Do you know resources that might be able to help a bright, motivated, loving blind woman get a fresh start in life? Are you a social worker with connections? A school for the blind looking for teachers? The head of an animal shelter who needs someone to love the animals?
If you can’t hook her up that way, can you help Chelle fund her big dreams by donating some money to her cause? Can you give $5 to help her pay for bus fare? Can you give $20 to help buy her a plane ticket? Can you give $50 that will help her move her things? Can you give $100 to help her clothes for her new job? Can you give $1000 that could go towards a downpayment on her own apartment? Every little dollar counts towards helping Chelle realize her dream.
My gift to Chelle is that I’m not going to charge her for the session we did yesterday. I didn’t tell her beforehand that I wanted to give her this one-on-one session as my gift because I wanted her to give herself the gift of deciding that her happiness is THAT important -- because it is. She won’t find out until she reads this that the session was my birthday gift to her.
What about you? Can you help, even if it’s just by donating $1?
Let’s help Chelle relocate, find her real live tribe, discover her purpose in life, and begin to live the life of her dreams.
Chelle knows I’m telling her story in today’s post, but she doesn’t know I’m asking you all for financial support, and I hope she knows that learning to receive is as vital as being generous in how you give. Money is, after all, just a form of energy. You give what you can. You take what you need. I believe in Chelle so much that I know the day will come when she will pay it forward -- with love and abundance.
Let’s show Chelle on her birthday the power of loving community. Let’s make all her birthday wishes come true.
I believe in miracles. Do you? Let's help Chelle celebrate her REbirth.
Wishing Chelle the happiest REbirthday ever,
Lissa Rankin, MD: Founder of OwningPink.com, Change Catalyst coach, motivational speaker, and author of What’s Up Down There? Questions You’d Only Ask Your Gynecologist If She Was Your Best Friend and Encaustic Art: The Complete Guide To Creating Fine Art With Wax.
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