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Gnarly Mistakes
There’s no avoiding them.
Don’t cover them up.
Don’t pretend they don’t exist.
Really, really don’t blame someone else.
Own it.
It’s probably your fault, anyway.
Look, you’re going to ‘eff up.
You have before.
And you will again.
You’ll wish you did.
You’ll wish you didn’t.
You’ll wish you said this or didn’t say that.
It’s too late.
The point is: you did or didn’t or couldn’t or wouldn’t.
And there is always something better to do with your time + energy than pointing the finger elsewhere or telling yourself stories about why your less than stellar reaction was the right one.
It wasn’t.
Invite introspection.
Stretch your perspective.
Stop in your tracks.
Open up to witnessing behavior patterns that simply don’t serve you or the world.
Observe without judgment and without emotional self-mutilation
because that is pointless as well.
Emotional self-mutilation sounds like this: “Why am I so stupid?” “Why do I always make the same mistakes, something must be wrong with me.” Why can’t I just get this right, I’m never going to be good at this.” A sharp tongue lashing is never a good idea and never ever productive.
Elect for accountability instead + get the lesson so you don’t have to repeat it.
Because the universe just loves to dish up, again and again, the
lessons we refuse to learn the first time.
The choice is always yours.
Mess up. Learn. Move on.
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Love it! Learn from your
By Amy (not verified) on Wednesday, 06/27/2012 at 9:46 AMLove it! Learn from your mistakes and CHANGE for the better. Don't just accept the way you are and think that you can't become the best version of your self! Grow!
Hey lady! Thx for dropping
By Danielle Dowling (not verified) on Wednesday, 06/27/2012 at 9:57 AMHey lady!
Thx for dropping in.
Yes! The whole point of life is raise over selves (+ the world) to higher consciousness.
Staying "stuck" in the mistake keeps us spiritually paralyzed thus unable to move further into
expansion and empowerment. Simply notice the mistake or "error" + choose to correct it.
The decision to correct it, while maintaining a mindset of non judgement, slides you nicely
along the path of that exact higher consciousness are hears long for.
XO
Great post Danielle!
By Jessica Williams (not verified) on Tuesday, 06/26/2012 at 4:10 PMDanielle, I love this post and it's so true!! Whenever I mess up, I get the negative feedback in my head...but hey, it's all part of life and when I stop to think about it, I realize that you need to take the bad with the good. Stellar writing my dear!!
Hi Jessica! Thank you so much
By Danielle Dowling (not verified) on Wednesday, 06/27/2012 at 8:30 AMHi Jessica!
Thank you so much for taking the time to stop by. It is much appreciated. I think the important point you make is the "when you stop to think about it." So many of us don't stop to consider an alternative response or behavior rather just ride the wave of ill will and self defeat. Having the awareness to pause and consider otherwise is the first step to expansion + energized calm. xo
LOVED THIS
By Nichole (not verified) on Tuesday, 06/26/2012 at 12:18 PMThis SOOO spoke to me:
Own it.
It’s probably your fault, anyway.
Look, you’re going to ‘eff up.
You have before.
And you will again.
Yessss thanks for this Danielle!
Hi Nichole! Yes....you
By Danielle Dowling (not verified) on Wednesday, 06/27/2012 at 8:35 AMHi Nichole!
Yes....you totally get it. You're going to eff up. Such is life. When you do, GET IT. Observer the lesson life is trying to teach you. Observe it as impersonally as possible because it's not meant to hurt you (despite what some might think) it's meant to GROW you. So...observe impersonally, get the lesson, grow forward.
All with out a mental tongue lashing please. ;-)
Xo
So true
By Bri Saussy (not verified) on Tuesday, 06/26/2012 at 11:44 AMHey Danielle,
So true lovely lady! Wallowing in our screw ups is a waste of time and vital life energy--there is always more awesome-ness to achieve so why waste time wasting time?
Beautifully put!
xo
Bri
Bri! Love hearing from you. I
By Danielle Dowling (not verified) on Tuesday, 06/26/2012 at 2:28 PMBri! Love hearing from you. I recently had a minor screw up with my boyfriend. I felt so bad about it + immediately started feeling shameful + judgmental of myself. I quickly snapped out of it + decided to own my mistake, learn from it + apologize. The next day I bought him flowers. He appreciated the apology + we moved on swiftly without any more emotional damage. Done + Done. :-)
Great Points Danielle!
By Emina (not verified) on Tuesday, 06/26/2012 at 9:48 AMI totally agree with you Danielle that you need to do things, make mistakes, but move on try different things until you're successful and find something that works for you, it's the only way to learn.