Don’t cover them up.
Don’t pretend they don’t exist.
Really, really don’t blame someone else.
Look, you’re going to ‘eff up.
You have before.
And you will again.
You’ll wish you did.
You’ll wish you didn’t.
You’ll wish you said this or didn’t say that.
It’s too late.
The point is: you did or didn’t or couldn’t or wouldn’t.
Stretch your perspective.
Stop in your tracks.
Open up to witnessing behavior patterns that simply don’t serve you or the world.
Observe without judgment and without emotional self-mutilation
because that is pointless as well.
Emotional self-mutilation sounds like this: “Why am I so stupid?” “Why do I always make the same mistakes, something must be wrong with me.” Why can’t I just get this right, I’m never going to be good at this.” A sharp tongue lashing is never a good idea and never ever productive.
The choice is always yours.
Mess up. Learn. Move on.
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