Hello, my love.
If you’ve been following my blog lately, you’ve probably felt the seismic shifts that are rumbling around in my life in the aftermath of coming home from my book tour, closing my medical practice, and figuring out what I want to be when I grow up. Understandably, some of my personal rumblings have reverberated through the Owning Pink community, and those of you who are really sensitive to energy shifts have even written to me to comment on the bumpy feeling you might have noticed at Owning Pink.
I know I’m not alone in my transition. I’m just one teensy little microcosm in a big, big world. Tsunamis are uprooting whole countries. Civil unrest in the Middle East is quaking throughout the world. The economic crisis in the US continues to pummel us as unemployment skyrockets, 13% of the houses in the US are empty, and we start to wonder when we’ll see the light.
The transitions aren’t just negative. I’m also noticing a great uprising in the power of women in the world. The tides are shifting. Empowered women are uniting and collaborating and making big waves. The Dalai Lama says, “The world will be saved by the Western woman” -- and it’s starting to happen. No biggie. All the puddles of the rising of women are growing bigger and bigger, and all it’s going to take is one big rain to make all the puddles coalesce.
It’s enough to make your head spin.
Periods of transition can be disorienting. They can rock your world and lead to painful discomfort. They can feel tempestuous and unsettling and scary, and if you don’t manage your energy appropriately, these transitional feelings can spread to infect everyone around you.
Remember, transitions are always opportunities for rebirth. When we are squeezing through that narrow place from one life phase to another, we may wind up feeling constricted, fearful, and hopeless, because we don’t have crystal balls to show us how open, jubilant, and expansive our lives will be when we are reborn into the next life phase.
But trust me, my darling. If you navigate these transitions in a healthy way, embracing the transition, surrendering to the flow, breathing through the discomfort, having patience with the process of what I call “waiting and becoming,” dissociating from the fear, listening to the Signs from the Universe, and letting your Inner Pilot Light guide you, I promise that you will ease through this transition into a better life, where you will dance, cartwheel, and feel your heart bubbling over with joy.
If, on the other hand, you let fear rule your show, you close off your heart, and you run screaming back towards the womb, you may spend the rest of your life stuck in this transition, constricted into that narrow place, unable to see how close you are to the bright light on the other side.
Please, honey -- go towards the light. Resist the tendency to get stuck. Keep flowing (not pushing) forward. Be less sperm, more egg. Breathe. Pray. Meditate. Practice radical self-care. Ask for hugs. Affirm yourself often.
And most importantly, have faith. This will all be over soon, whenever your necessary gestation is complete. Until then, be present in the moment. Enjoy today. Live in gratitude. Let go. Live in love. And trust that this tight spot is just a part of your spiritual journey, moving you forward into what you’re meant to be.
As Yusuf Islam says, “To be what you must, you must give up what you are.”
Stop holding on so tight. Get out of your own way. Release what no longer serves you. Get ready for what’s next.
I speak from experience on all this. I’ve been through a series of mini-deaths and rebirths since I first gave birth to a daughter and left my medical practice five years ago. My first period of gestation was the longest -- a full two years, and then Owning Pink (which is the best thing I’ve ever created in my life) was born from that gestation. During the next few gestations, I birthed three books, an integrative medicine practice I’ve since closed, and a series of other manifestations.
The gestation I’m going through right now feels even more profound in its richness and also in its pain. I know something big is coming, and it’s coming very soon. I can tell. The dark patch of my newborn hair is crowning through the legs of the Divine Mother right now. I’m in the tightest spot, and yet, I can just begin to feel a little more wiggle room around my legs as they tap dance around the womb.
I do feel a bit disoriented, as if I’m tumbling around in a tempest, but I’ve been clinging to an image that came to me in meditation -- a redwood standing tall in the midst of a tsunami. It’s not about being stuck. It’s about being grounded and rooted, even in the midst of chaos. I visualize this redwood and lift my arms to the sky, eyes closed, in full surrender.
Last week, I started writing a manifesto. Like I’ve been burning the midnight oil all week passionately tapping away at my Mac until 1:00am because my passion for healing health care is on fire right now. Think Jerry Maguire.
I have no clue what will become of this manifesto that is rapidly turning book-sized. It’s all about mending the broken heart of medicine, healing ourselves as healers, expanding what it means to be healthy and whole, and integrating this new model into the current system.
I have no idea what it will become. But I think it has something to do with my rebirth. So I’m following the flow, releasing any concern about the how or what, and taking uber-good care of myself.
I see the light, not just for me, but for you.
Take my hand, sweetheart. Join hands with the others in the Owning Pink community. Take a deep breath.
You can do this. I believe in you. You’re almost there. Don’t give up hope. And remember, you are never, ever alone, no matter how dark things become in your personal transition.
Let us be here with you. Tell us what’s up for you. What transition are you navigating? What is being reborn in you? Let us help you heal.
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