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I was walking around Golden Gate Park recently, chatting with my spiritual running buddy Tricia Barrett, when Tricia piped up, “So how many apples have you eaten today.”
I had only eaten a bowl of brussels sprouts for breakfast, so I answered, “None.”
“Do you know what I mean by that question?” she asked.
I assumed it was some apple-a-day-keeps-the-doctor-away reference, but wasn’t sure, so I asked her to clarify.
She said, “You know - Eve. The apple. How many times have you chosen to separate yourself from God today?”
I hadn’t really thought about it.
Tricia said, “I ate four apples today, and I can tell you exactly what they were.”
I thought about it and realized I wasn’t really keeping count. I had badmouthed someone who irritated me. When my daughter wanted me to play with the nutcracker Santa, I made some excuse about why I couldn’t. When my mother called me upset about something that happened over Thanksgiving, I launched straight into “fix Mom” mode without really listening.
If acting in love is what connects us to the Divine spark within, I had eaten three apples that day - at least, three I could recall off the top of my head.
I started thinking about apples, and ever since then, I’ve been much more aware of the ways in which we separate ourselves from Divine love. I’m not just talking about the 10 Commandments here, though certainly those may apply. I’m talking about the subtle things, the choices we make every day that draw us away from our highest self.
1. Speaking badly about someone else (regardless of whether or not we’re “right”)
2. Lashing out in anger
3. Holding a grudge and choosing not to forgive
4. Judging others
5. Excessive busyness that keeps us from feeling a sense of spiritual connection
6. Cheating
7. Betraying a confidence
8. Failing to nurture your body as the temple that it is (smoking, overeating, not exercising, etc)
9. Overindulging on mind-altering substances that distance you from the Divine (drugs, alcohol, etc.)
10. Telling a little white lie to avoid conflict or get us out of trouble
I’m sure there are many more.
We all eat apples every day, usually making excuses and rationalizations about why such behavior is okay. But what if we told ourselves the truth, not in a beat-yourself-up sort of way, but the way Tricia does?
Tricia knows how many apples she ate today, even though she’s still eating them.
Do you?
How ‘bout them apples,
Lissa
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APPLES
By Tricia Barrett (not verified) on Friday, 01/06/2012 at 1:07 PMI also I have eaten 2 apples so far today, and did 2 good deed! Does that cancel them apples?----Seems to me I created a see-saw effect! Good to know--
love you all--Happy Friday -
Lashon Hara - Gossip - Evil Talk - Apples
By Tidbitsof Torah (not verified) on Friday, 01/06/2012 at 11:06 AMLissa - you wrote well! Great article.
"I'm not speaking Lashon Hara--its true!!"
Actually, only one type of Lashon Hara (lit. "evil speech") reflects lies. Speaking lies (slander) is called "motzi shem ra" - literally spreading a bad name. It's pretty easy to imagine how lies, and even exaggeration, can unfairly damage someone's reputation. There are two commandments that explicitly prohibit lying:
Lo tisa shema shav - you shall not utter a false report. Ex. 23:1)
Midavar sheker tirchak - from a false matter you shall distance yourself. (Ex. 23:7)
Note the wording of the mitzvot--neither of them tell us to say the truth, but rather to refrain from telling lies. However, two cases in the Talmud actually advocate lying under certain circumstances.
http://www.torah.org/learning/halashon/ccbio.html
Love that blog post
By Lissa Rankin on Monday, 01/02/2012 at 7:18 PMJudy, I read that blog post a while back and just LOVE it. Spot on.
And The Dame, you're so welcome.
Thanks for reading!
Much love
Lissa
Apples - Judgments
By Judy Lee (not verified) on Monday, 01/02/2012 at 5:58 PMI can relate to this completely. This has long been my definition of sin - those things I use to distance myself from my Source. I do recall picking up an apple today, but I put it back down and did the right thing... gratefully.
I have no involvement with this other blog, but if you haven't read it yet, i think you might enjoy it ... a lot!
http://www.danoah.com/2011/11/im-christian-unless-youre-gay.html
Thank you for all you do <3
Fix Mom Mode
By The Dame (not verified) on Monday, 01/02/2012 at 2:06 PMWow, the "fix mom mode" thing really jumped out at me. Im always launching into Miss Coach when things go wrong with my mom instead of just listening. Something to be more aware of from now on, thank you for this post :)