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How To Be In Your Body - Part Two

Lissa Rankin's picture

For years, I was a walking cerebrum.  Most doctors are. It’s what we’re trained to do. As a physician, you can’t sleep when you’re tired, eat when you’re hungry, pee when your bladder is full, rest when you’re sick, get it on when you’re horny, or stop operating when your arms are killing you from manipulating heavy instruments in a small dark hole. So you learn to dissociate from your body. It’s a healthy adaptation that gets you through medical school and residency and helps you keep on keepin’ on when you feel like quitting.

But we take it too far. We don’t know how to reinhabit the body when we’re no longer at work. I think I spent years not having any clue how my left elbow felt.

A couple of years ago, a dear friend lovingly suggested that my life might be better if I spent less time in my mind and more time in my body. At the time, I honestly had no clue what she meant. Be in my body? Of course I’m in my body! Where else would I be?

But after taking Debbie Rosas’ Nia White Belt training, I now know she was right.  Since then, I’ve done one-on-one work with body-centered therapist Steve Sisgold (as I wrote about here). Dancing with Debbie and working with Steve have taught me a ton about what it means to be in my body and how to foster a better relationship with the skin I’m in.

I wrote about the benefits of being in your body here, but today I want to share with you a little of what I’ve learned about how to actually inhabit the skin you’re in, with the disclaimer that I still have a LOT to learn about this and am certainly no master!

11 Tips For How To Be In Your Body
  1. Focus on a body part. Notice your right fingertip or your left knee. How does it feel? Does it hurt? Is it cool or warm? Do you feel a breeze? When I first tried this exercise, I found it almost impossible to feel anything if it didn’t hurt. If my left elbow was just floating in space, I couldn’t feel it, but I could feel it if I touched it or rubbed it against something else. If you’re having the same problem, notice how your body part feels when you stroke it with a feather or brush it against the carpet.
  2. Name your sensation.  Although words come from the mind, they can help connect the mind and the body by giving name to what you feel. For example, I’ve been skiing in Lake Tahoe for two weeks, so right now, my right cheek feels warm from a little bit of sun and windburn. My left thigh feels energized, achy, and cool under my thin pants in the snow. Be specific with the words you choose - does your body part feel stiff, loose, light, heavy, tingly, warm, cold, sensitive, numb, strong, weak, painful? Try to avoid describing your sensation in general terms that don’t employ at least one of the five senses. Be specific.
  3. Practice movement. Dancing, practicing yoga, hiking, cycling, skiing, and other such physical activity can make you more aware of your body - what feels yummy and what hurts! Even pain can be a teacher about body awareness, so don’t be afraid to lean into what you feel.
  4. Use the floor. When I was taking Nia dance classes, I had the hardest time feeling my body when my body parts were floating in space. Then I discovered dancing on the floor. By rolling around on the floor, my body had something to be in relationship with. I could feel how my knee felt on the floor instead of just how it felt in the air.
  5. Optimize clothing. Wearing loose fitting clothes that brush against your skin when you move can help too. I tend to wear tight-fitting clothes like leggings and leotards when I dance, hike, or take yoga. But when I tried the same activities while wearing free-flowing skirts and shirts with loose sleeves, I felt my body in a whole new way.
  6. Get sexual.  Nothing like a good orgasm to help you notice your body!
  7. When trying to make a decision, notice how your body is responding. That guy who asked you out? How does your body feel - light or heavy? New job offer? Does your body feel open or closed? Your body is your compass. Pay attention.
  8. Listen to your body’s messages.  When I had less experience being in my body, massage therapists would ask me before a massage whether I had any problem areas. I always said no - and then they found every tight spot on me! Ignoring the warning signals from the body predisposes you to injury and fails to catch illness before it becomes severe. Now, after learning from the whispers of my body (as I described here in my TEDx talk), I pay more attention to the whispers of my body as both preventative medicine and treatment.
  9. Ask your body “What do you need in order to heal?” Trust the answers.
  10. Breathe. When you pay attention to your breathing, it helps center you into your body.
  11. Read Steve Sigold’s book What’s Your Body Telling You? 
You Can’t Heal A Body You’re Not In

The reality is that you can’t heal your body if you’re not living in it. Most of us run like the wind the minute the body begins to bother us. We’d rather turn our backs on our bodies than notice the aches, pains, tightness, constriction, and other unpleasant whispers our body sends out way before it thwacks us with two-by-fours of serious illness or injury.

It’s time to trust that you’re safe in your body and your body will guide you to optimal health, happiness, and vitality.

Are Your In Your Body?

Share your thoughts or any tips you’ve learned about how to embody your physical being.

Trying to feel,


Lissa Rankin, MD: Founder of OwningPink.comPink Medicine Revolutionarymotivational speaker, and author of What’s Up Down There? Questions You’d Only Ask Your Gynecologist If She Was Your Best Friend and Encaustic Art: The Complete Guide To Creating Fine Art With Wax.



Michelle Medina's picture

Thank you Lissa!! I've copied

Thank you Lissa!! I've copied these 11 tips and will take them to heart!!!

Rena Graham's picture

There are times that you

There are times that you aren't confident of your body. As one approaches midlife, the body is tossed into an array of changes which makes this point in life a very challenging one. Sagging skin, wrinkles and the formation of unflattering middle age spread. Quite depressing, but I guess with this changes, it depends how you handle things. Thanks for the great info,

Rena Graham's picture

There are times that you

There are times that you aren't confident of your body. As one approaches midlife, the body is tossed into an array of changes which makes this point in life a very challenging one. Sagging skin, wrinkles and the formation of unflattering middle age spread. Quite depressing, but I guess with this changes, it depends how you handle things. Thanks for the great info,

Lissa Rankin's picture

Thank you!

Aviva, I know you can totally relate to this (all doctors can)- and you already had so much more awareness about this than most of us did when we start med school at 22!

And Linda, thank you for your thoughtful comment! Feel to add anything I've missed for the rest of us "neck-ups" trying to learn to live an embodied life.

Much love

Linda Mickle, NP's picture

Neck Up Living

Great article, Lissa!

My very favorite piece, and I had to stop reading and quickly cut and paste the quote from your blogpost into my quotations file, is "You can't heal a body you're not in." Bingo!

I have a story similar to yours. A few years ago I became a HeartMath provider. I heard a term in the program referring to people who live in their heads all the time as "neck ups". That really got my attention. Their premise, with the research to back it up, is that when we live from our heart we are better connected with others,we are more discerning, and we're healthier.

It was a real challenge for me to shift from my head to my heart. I'm such a geek when it comes to healing, I devour everything I can get my hands on. Yet translating that information into my cells is another issue altogether. I "got" the concept intellectually (ha) but it took a long time to make it land in my heart and body.

Your suggestions about getting in touch with and having a relationship with your body are fabulous. And they can save people valuable time in their own healing proess. Thank You for bringing your wisdom out into the world :-)

Anonymous's picture

Thank you!

I have been watching for Part 2 and was so glad to see it posted today! This really speaks to me - everything, including telling massage therapists I feel fine and nothing needs extra attention only to have them tell me my neck and shoulders are incredibly tight. I don't feel it. These ideas are great and I will try them. Thank you for these posts, it feels good to know I'm not alone, to understand what I am missing and have ideas to change it.

Aviva Romm's picture

Body Language

Hi Lissa, Your blog is the piece I've been writing in my mind's eye for the past 3 years of residency. I remember a friend in his pediatric cardiology residency fellowship telling his wife he "pee'd solid" (joking of course) 'cause there was no time to go to the bathroom and I got pyelo last fall and have never even had a UTI before--just from not drinking water or peeing from sunup to sundown in my busy residency schedule. The painful thing is that as a midwife I am aware of when I am not listening. Most docs don't even know their is a body language! And docs have got to learn the understand language of their own body before we can help others heed theirs and heal. Peace! Your friend, Aviva Romm MD

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