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How To Create A Miracle (Or How NOT To Make Decisions)

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How to Create a Miracle (or How NOT to Make Decisions)

I’ve been working on a hypothesis of what goes into creating a miracle because I experienced something pretty miraculous back in February.

I was caught in the “Super Storm” that hit the east coast and caused my flight from New York to North Carolina to be cancelled.

I’ve dissected the “miracle” that got me home the next day while thousands of other travellers were stranded for several more days, and I reveal my findings below.

Here’s where it begins: I left on Monday, February the 10th as a snowstorm was just approaching the southeast, and my connecting flight to New York City just barely got out of Charlotte. Fortunately New York was clear, but the forecast was that the storm was going to move up and be a major blizzard in the northeast by Wednesday night.

Knowing this, I tried to rebook my flight from Thursday to Wednesday, but Charlotte – the major flight hub for part of the country – was shut down under 6 inches of snow.

So there was no getting out of New York City to Charlotte on Wednesday or Thursday, but I was hopeful that La Guardia could handle the blizzard and that Charlotte had time to dig itself out on Friday.

I had booked a room in an airport hotel for myself on Thursday night, but I really didn’t want to stay any longer than that.

And yet, once my flight had been cancelled on Thursday, my airline wanted to rebook me for a flight on Sunday the 16th.

I considered calling friends in Manhattan and asking if I could stay with them, hang out, and perhaps even catch a Broadway show. I mean, New York is one of my favorite cities in the world, and I could make the best of it, right?

But I felt an immediate resistance to this plan: Yes, I LOVE New York, and I would love to see Kinky Boots, but all I knew was that I had what I call a “heart sink” feeling about it.

I had been away from my family since Monday, and this was Thursday evening, I knew in my heart that I didn’t want to spend 3 more days away from them.

I told the airline reps not to book me on a flight on Sunday, because otherwise I was out of the running for a standby seat leaving earlier.

But on Friday, all the reps were telling me I wouldn’t receive any preferential treatment for having been bumped the day before, and that in fact only the people who got bumped the day of their flight are given preferential treatment.

And that’s when I decided to make a Plan B. My Plan B wasn’t to stay in New York City until a flight opened up.  My Plan B was to rent a car and drive from Brooklyn to the mountains of North Carolina—a twelve-hour trip in good weather, and probably longer in the weather that we actually had.

Still, I thought of all the reasons a long car trip would be really lovely—because I was reading The Fault in Our Stars by John Greene, and it is a phenomenal book. Because I would treat myself to the audiobook version and listen to it as I drove through five states and a major snowstorm. And I convinced myself. Plan B is great! I thought. I really like this plan.

So I went to the airport on Friday with Plan A and Plan B. And I liked them both.

What I want to highlight is that there was no plan that I wasn’t happy about. Sure, I might be more happy if I got on a flight, but I knew that I could also be happy in renting a car.

Now let me cut to the chase: I got on a flight to NC at 10 am on Friday morning. I was back home in Asheville by 3 pm.

(You can listen to the FULL story of this miracle on an audio – with great input and insight from my friend, Ruthie – by clicking here.)

So what makes up a miracle? When you’re confronted with a problem, you must create a clear vision of an outcome that leaves you feeling good (and you might even want to have a “feel good” backup), but no matter what, your focus is on feeling good.

And that’s really the crux of it: Focus all of your energy on feeling good and only make decisions and take action from that place.

Sound too simple? Yeah, I get that a lot.

I once counseled one of my clients to do this and she said, “Focus only on feeling good? That sounds like the Lazy Man’s Path.”

What I want you to know is that this is not the Lazy Man’s Path.

Let me be clear: It is freaking challenging to choose better-feeling thoughts when you are faced with an undesirable circumstance. It is freaking challenging to get into that place of feeling good, and it's even more challenging to stay in that place of feeling good.

In fact, I’ve begun to think it’s the Lazy Man’s Path to make decisions and take actions when you’re feeling bad.

And I know for sure that you’re not going to find any miracles along that path.

Again, I go into A LOT more detail of the anatomy of a miracle in the conversation I had with my dear friend, Ruthie, so I hope you will listen to it. Get immediate access by clicking here: http://InstantTeleseminar.com/?eventid=52033746.

Stacey is a purpose and success coach who helps you give birth to your BIG dreams. To find your purpose and passion, check out her FREE eBook, The Purpose and Passion Guidebook.

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Anonymous's picture

history of panties (there isn't any)

from "oukidd" "offtheygo" •It amazes us (or at least me) to learn that women for the first five thousand years of Western civilization wore nothing between their legs beyond their natural chinchilla. "Until the late 18th century, [women's] underwear consisted only of smocks or shifts, stays [i.e., corsets] and the highly important petticoats of all kinds," harrumphs The History of Underclothes by Willet and Cunnington. But nothing between the legs.

It seems fairly mind-boggling to consider millions of women for thousands of years with no garment snugly covering their Delta. Sure, they generally wore very long dresses, but why not any close-fitting underwear?

Yeast infections and crab lice, among other reasons, argue authors Janet and Peter Phillips in their masterful article, History From Below: Women's Underwear and the Rise of Women's Sports. "Pre-20th century women had to do without knickers and the like because of the perpetual threat of thrush [i.e., yeast infection]," state the British authors. "Since the vagina is naturally warm and moist, any covering increasing the temperature will put out a welcome mat to thrush," they contend, pointing out that yesteryear's lower standards of personal hygiene, due to lack of indoor running water, would have greatly promoted thrush and lice.

Near Eastern women who did bathe more frequently than their European sisters did wear trousers or "harem pants," sometimes under skirts. And it's speculated that during the Renaissance, these garments were imported into Europe and gradually adapted into drawers, i.e., loose-fitting under-trousers, with ribbons to "draw" them tight at the waist and the legs. But these imported strange items (considered masculine and somehow perverse) never caught on with working-class women, who could still squat and pee in an alleyway.

In fact, almost the only French women in the 1700s who wore drawers did so by law. A ballerina in 1727 got her skirt caught on a piece of stage scenery. Her exposure led to the passage of a police regulation in Paris that "no actress or dancer should appear on stage without drawers."

Finally, mid-1800s fashion began to change.

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