I was recently telling the story of my crappy-book-deal-turned-six-figure-success story to the students in my Get Out Of Your Own Way e-course. Since the forum is private, only for students of the course, I thought I’d share a few tips that I’ve been sharing with them over the course of the year as we all lift each other up in the process of getting over limiting beliefs, stopping the self-sabotage, and finally achieving our New Years Resolutions and other goals.
As I detailed here, I was in a dark place in January of 2011. Having just closed my medical practice and turned down a crappy book deal, I felt lost, directionless, and stuck in “the narrow place.” But I used this time in the narrow place to question my purpose, find clarity, follow Signs from the Universe, and redirect.
Since then, I got a big phat book deal for my next book Mind Over Medicine: Scientific Proof You Can Heal Yourself (Hay House 2013), I delivered a popular TEDx talk, I’ve been invited to share the stage with Louise Hay and Wayne Dyer twice in 2012, and most importantly, I finally know what I’m here on this earth to do.
When my students asked me questions about how I got from the dark, soul-grasping recesses of the narrow place to where I am right now, I found myself reflecting on my own process. In case you’re in the narrow place, I thought I’d share some tips that might help you.
1. When you’re sure you’re doing the right thing, don’t give up. After turning down my crappy book deal (and losing my agent as a result), I could have given up. But I knew I was meant to share my message with the world as a writer. I also knew I was worth more of a commitment than my publisher was offering me. Instead of getting discouraged, I hunkered down and used the time in the narrow place to ask questions.
2. Be flexible and willing to redirect. Although I didn’t give up, I didn’t dig my heels in and insist on getting my way. My Inner Pilot Light told me maybe it was the wrong time to sell that book, so I went back to the drawing board and wrote a new book. I could have gone postal and insisted that it was the right book at the right time, even when the signs from the Universe were pointing elsewhere. I didn’t. I was willing to question the path.
3. Keep your confidence. Even in the narrow place, when I was feeling really crappy, I had this unexplainable faith that I would always land butter side up. I was kind to myself. I didn’t beat myself up for “failing.” I grieved, felt my emotions, then picked myself up, dusted myself off, and started over again with conviction.
4. Don’t try to get through the narrow place alone. When I was there, I called upon my healing hang-gliders. I must have done a dozen coaching sessions with various people I trusted to help me through the process. I reached out to the students of the Get Out Of Your Own Way e-course. I wrote blog posts and you all lifted me up. I sought the help of my friends and family. I could never have survived it so peacefully on my own.
5. Ask for help from the Divine. When I was in the narrow place, my daily prayer was “Make me a vessel. Abide in me.” If I could achieve that, I knew the details would sort themselves out. If I got confused, I’d ask for a sign - and almost instantly, one would appear.
6. Set goals but release attachment to outcomes. When it came time to sell Mind Over Medicine, I told my new agent I would reject any offer that was below the limit I had set for what I thought I was worth. She was on board. I was willing to stick to my guns, but I was also willing to be offered less and redirect once again, should that happen.
7. Refuse to see any outcome as failure. When things didn’t work out the way I planned, I didn’t beat myself up or quit. I simply saw the “failure” as a crossroads. Maybe instead of going left, I was supposed to go right. I saw these setbacks as The Universe telling me which direction was right. It takes all the self-doubt out of the process and keeps you focused on your vision.
8. Make your joy unconditional. The day before Mind Over Medicine went to auction, I realized I was no longer anxious or fearful. I was joyful, content, at peace, and full of purpose. A day later, when I got the good news, I felt no different. I was happy - just because. This was a MAJOR shift for this achievement-junkie. If your joy is unconditional and you’ve tried your best, you can truly stay unattached to the outcome and trust that whatever happens, it was meant to be that way.
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I believe in you!
With 1000% faith,
Lissa Rankin, MD: Founder of OwningPink.com, Pink Medicine Revolutionary, motivational speaker, and author of What’s Up Down There? Questions You’d Only Ask Your Gynecologist If She Was Your Best Friend and Encaustic Art: The Complete Guide To Creating Fine Art With Wax.
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