When you are sick and tired of being sick and tired you feel like shit. And when you feel like shit, you are not loving your life. You’re not laughing.
So how do you turn it around? How do you love your life?
I found that loving your life begins with fulfilling your primary needs in an authentic and empowering way. In other words, stop denying your need for love or growth or contribution or one of the other needs. Think about it. If you’re someone who really craves certainty but has a job where you are called to travel at a moments notice, you will be majorly unhappy.
What are the six needs? According to success coach Tony Robbins we all need certainty, variety, significance, being loved, growth and contribution. We need a bit of each of these, but we all have two primary needs that drive us.
The key to loving your life is to meet your two primary needs in an authentic and empowering way. When we meet our needs in a negative way or we deny a primary need, we feel like shit.
Let me give you an example. Growth has always been a primary need of mine. Maybe because my parents instilled the importance of education (hence three degrees). All I know is that after law school I’ve been a voracious reader of books on nutrition, self-improvement, law of attraction, psychology, etc. However, I wasn’t always great at implementing. In fact I resisted growth.
Since I was denying my need for growth, I grew in my girth. The farther I got away from fulfilling my core need, the larger I grew. That’s until multiple sclerosis arrived and presented me with a huge AFGO (Another F***ing Growth Opportunity). Or as Tony Robbins might say, it was a pattern interrupt; MS stopped me from denying my need for personal growth and prompted me to live in sync with my beliefs and needs.
The good news is you don’t have to wait until the 2×4 wake up call to start loving your life. Instead, tune into the lower frequency wake up whispers, as I call them.
These are wake up whispers. Wake up whispers come from within. Wake up whispers warn that life is off track, heeding you to start living authentically and in sync with your needs.
If you’re hearing the whispers then let’s doing something about it.
How do you answer that voice and begin to create a life you love? How do you create a life full of belly laughs and smiles?
Answering a wake up call or whisper is a process of creating a new normal. It’s a journey for sure. However, we must all start somewhere and in this case, you start by interrupting the shitty pattern. Here are three of my favorite tools to get you started.
Try one of these tips today and share with us how it works to change your mood.
With love, light and purpose,
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