So many people wonder about a life's purpose. How do I look for it, find it, and actually know that I've discovered it?
We wonder because we no longer know ourselves, who we are now in this moment in time and space within our lives.
A life's purpose is not graduating from the right university and finding the right career, or finding the right person and the right relationship, or saving up enough money for the right dream or retirement home, or even writing that right book. These are life goals and achievements.
If you find yourself wondering about, asking questions about whether you're in the right career, relationship, city or town, or yoga pose, you've already answered the question just in the asking of it.
If you wonder about life's purpose, you're not living life on purpose.
Our versions of the stories from the past and about the future, written while wearing the lenses of a long-ago and even retold by a moment-ago being, have nearly nothing to do with life's purpose. They're just stories about events and people who no longer exist.
They're perceptions and perspectives based on past circumstances and choices. They're history [and her-story]. You learn well from them, and reminisce about them and even regret them, but they're not about you or your life now. You've changed. And so too has your life.
Look at yourself within your life as you are now, not as a critical, harsh, unforgiving judge, but as an open-eyed, minded, hearted, and spirited observer. Are you able to see life as it is and yourself as you are? Can you simply welcome them as they are now?
When someone greets you with a simple "How are you doing?" do you respond in truth? Or do you automatically say what the person or even society at large expects you to say? You can feel, actually know whether it's true or not, and whether you're truly being you or not.
Not living truthfully sets you up for a life in which you must constantly work to defend your separated, outward self because your connected, inward self doesn't agree with what is not true. Living life on the defense drains your life's energy, and its purpose. It's exhausting, living a life of little lies. Just tap into the energy of the wild one within.
Say what you mean and mean what you say. Speak the truth, and act with honesty. Live your life on purpose. The more we tell the truth, the easier it is to live by it, to live life out loud honestly and openly, to be who we really are. Dare to be the wild one within.
From the earliest ages we're told to and expected to achieve, and then we will have found our life's purpose. This is the craziest, cruelest kind of carrot on a stick living. How did we get here? And how do we get there? We just end up chasing the dream, the constantly moving target of a so-called life's purpose.
Meanwhile, we're just trying to survive the [cuss] that comes our way [we think it's cuss because it isn't the cussing carrot]. We muddle through the muck [everything but the cussing carrot] without even noticing it [because our focus is on the cussing carrot] let alone appreciating it. And we've no map, not even any breadcrumbs because it's not even there [here]. It doesn't exist.
Life happens. It unfolds and reveals itself and its purpose as we live it. And our responses to whatever happens in life happen too. We take the circumstances that arise, and make the choices that create our life. Our choices constantly create a life's purpose that either agrees with our true selves or doesn't. And we're never stuck—we're always moving, choosing again and again. And then again.
Being our right-now selves, seeing circumstances as they really are, knowing that change is constant, and freely choosing again and again brings us a real and present purpose. What agrees with you? What brings you joy? What do you enjoy doing? With whom do you enjoy being? In what ways are you willing to feel and be who you really are right now? Living on purpose naturally brings us joy.
When you do this, when you welcome and accept you and your life right now, the jobs, the people, and especially the thoughts and habits that are sucking the life energy out of you will literally leave your life because they no longer serve a purpose in your life. You're living life [quite out loud] on the offense [in a good way] now. You're on the move and with the flow.
And a real life begins to agree with you more and more. It feels weird at first, but it works, even though it seems [outside opinions, influences, and expectations are smaller than they appear] risky. We fear risking loss. But as I've practiced, the only things I've lost were stressful situations, joyless jobs, unpleasant [even mean] people, and past pains and future frets. Welcoming and accepting a real and present purpose frees us to live each moment fully.
Since life really is simply whatever we're intending, thinking, saying, doing, believing, what we are experiencing right now, then this living of life is our life's purpose. How will we live each of life's moments, on purpose, right now? This question answers with our life's purpose.
Regardless of what others may think, say, do, expect, and even believe, what do you want to think, say, do, expect, and believe your life to be? You are only responsible for you, your responses and your choices regarding your life's circumstances. How do you want to live your life?
Will I wonder at the awesome beauty of nature? Will I hug and kiss someone I love? Will I help someone who wants it? Will I appreciate my real life, the day-in, day-out choices I make and experiences I take in? Will I know that this everyday, little moment in my life is filled with purpose, that it is the purpose?
Right now, a little life purpose of mine is to write. And there have been and will be and are so many purposes in my life...
Mmmm...these stir-fried vegetables are delicious! Thank you for making them.
Ohhh...you're so brilliant and beautiful! I'm so lucky to be your mum.
Hahaha...this film is [cuss]ing hilarious! I appreciate Netflix.
...the present purpose being the most purposeful, right-now, real-life purpose of them all.
Each and every day, I set an intention to love. I practice being loving in simple, little ways. I practice being compassionate, kind, helpful, and fun-loving, by freely being me, whatever me I am at the moment.
And when you're telling the truth, seeing circumstances clearly, accepting constant change, and making your own choices, you're living your life on purpose. Your life's purpose is in every moment you exist, in every little ripple of compassion, and kindness, and humor, and love that you live. It's a way of living—your life. And it's your way of being—you.
What's your life's purpose in this right-now moment?
And how are you living it out loud and on purpose?
Practicing purpose-fully living right along with you,
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