While researching my book Mind Over Medicine: Scientific Proof You Can Heal Yourself, I noticed how much push-back you get when you start talking about the self-healing superpowers we all possess. After all, if, at least a percentage of the time, we can heal ourselves, what does it mean if we’re sick - that it’s our “fault,” that we’re not doing something “right,” that we’re slacking off on the self-healing process, that we’re being punished for bad deeds in a past life, that we’re somehow less than because our bodies are acting up?
In Part 1 of this blog series, I shared the reaction I got from people like you in my social media community. I also shared how authors and healers like Dr. Bernie Siegel answered when I asked them that question.
But I never got around to telling you what I think. So here goes.
There’s zero place for the idea of “fault” when you’re talking about the healing process. Whether you did anything to bring about your illness or not, blame, shame, guilt, and other damaging emotions like that are poison to the body, mind, and soul.
Yes, sometimes we make choices that result in largely preventable illnesses. If you’re a three-pack a day smoker and you get lung cancer, well… you knew that was a possibility, right? If you’re boozing it up from dawn to bedtime every day and wind up with cirrhosis of the liver, well… um… you knew that too. If you’re choosing to ride a motorcycle without a helmet, eating nothing but Big Macs 24/7, and packing on the pounds while never leaving the couch potato heaven of your living room, well… you’re probably hanging your head a little when you wind up in the hospital. If you never wear a seatbelt, carbo-load when you’re diabetic, and snort cocaine, well… I won’t saddle you with a lecture because my guess is you’re already feeling pretty shitty about yourself if you wind up sick.
Please, love. Skip the guilt trip and the blame game. Just don’t. What’s done is done. Forgive yourself. Let your body’s wake up call spur you into action, but don’t beat yourself up for what’s in the past. All you can do is change what happens from here forth.
Some helpless babies are born without a gene. Some are born blind. Some pedestrians minding their own business are struck by drunk drivers. Some people working out at the gym while drinking their green juice are the victims of gym equipment malfunctions that leave them paralyzed. Some innocent bystanders are injured in random drive-by shootings.
Sure, some people inherit a predisposition for multi-factorial illnesses, like high cholesterol, high blood pressure, diabetes, or breast cancer. But as Dr. Bruce Lipton writes about in The Biology Of Belief, we are not victims of our genes. Although we can’t change our DNA, every gene has the possibility to express itself as up to 30,000 different proteins depending not only on the environment to which the gene is exposed (things like good nutrition, avoidance of toxins, and other healthy habits) but also depending on what we believe about our health. In other words, if you believe you’ll get breast cancer because your mother did, your mind’s beliefs can affect how that piece of DNA expresses itself. So believing you’re doomed to get cancer could actually tilt the scales in favor of getting cancer, whereas believing you’ll stay healthy may make it true.
Blaming your family for the “piss poor protoplasm” (doctor speak for “bad genes”) you inherit is a disempowering way to view your health. Taking responsibility for the fact that you can influence the outcome of how your DNA expresses itself through healthy habits and positive thinking puts the power back where it belongs - with you.
The way I see it, in all but a few instances, our health is mirror of how we live our lives. If you’re eating poorly, ingesting toxins, and choosing to never exercise, you won’t be optimally healthy. But as I described in my TEDx talk, healthy habits aren’t enough to be completely vital.
You’ll also predispose yourself to illness if you close your heart when someone breaks it, you stay stuck in a soul-sucking job you hate, you cheat on your partner because you’re too scared to leave when you’re unhappy or unfulfilled, you’re engulfed in loneliness, your creative song goes unsung, you’re sexually frustrated, or you feel spiritually disconnected, there’s a good chance your body is gonna rebel at some point, especially if you ignore the body’s warning whispers.
So is it your “fault” if you get sick or injured? No. We’ve already established that we’re not gonna go there. But do you have the power to turn things around starting now? You betcha, precious!
While you can’t always control the outcome of your health journey, you can take your life and your body back into your own hands, choose empowering choices, and make your body ripe for miracles. (Learn more about how to do so here). When you make empowering choices, muster up the courage to implement the changes that will improve your health, and then release attachment to specific outcomes, understanding that illness can be a spiritual path we’re meant to traverse, you not only improve your chances of cure; you also experience deep peace with the process.
I’d love to hear your thoughts about this issue. Please tell us your story and share your wisdom.
Empowering you to own your body,
Lissa Rankin, MD: Founder of OwningPink.com, Pink Medicine Revolutionary, motivational speaker, and author of What’s Up Down There? Questions You’d Only Ask Your Gynecologist If She Was Your Best Friend and Encaustic Art: The Complete Guide To Creating Fine Art With Wax.
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