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Money Is Just Energy, Dummies

Melanie Bates's picture

money issues

You know those money issues you struggle with?  The ones that keep you cash poor, that have you maxing out your credit card each month, that keep you from asking for that raise every year? Yeah, those are the ones.  Well, here’s a little something I learned recently – those beliefs and issues surrounding money start WAY earlier than I ever would have imagined.

Case in Point:

A few weeks ago, as I was crawling towards the coffee pot early one morn, I happened upon my three nieces, along with one of their small neighbor friends, planning a summer job.  Pink, red, and yellow construction paper was strewn all over the front porch and markers were tossed aside – lids off – to dry in the sun that was already baking the concrete.

I stopped, wiped my bleary eyes, and asked what they were doing.

My niece Jocelyn gave me the hand-made poster which outlined their services:
 

Dog  Wash

 

If you got a dirty pup we’ll clean them up!

 

Open Hours 11:00 to 2:30

 

$2.00 per dog             Any size dog

 

Not open on holidays and Friday and Mondays and Birthdays

 

(You will see the dog when you come in the neighborhood)

 

Plus we dry, brush or put something in their fur, your choice.

It may have been my dull senses upon just waking but I was über proud of my ability to refrain from asking which Friday they are closed (as there seemed to be only one) and whose birthdays they were talking about (the customer’s or theirs) and what “something” they planned to put in the dog’s fur.  (A few hours later, their Dad was not so full of restraint and told Jocelyn that he wanted her to put $4.00 in his dog’s fur.) And, damn. . . "you will see the dog when you come in the neighborhood" - they're certainly confident aren't they?  Lastly, I beamed with a pride I couldn’t contain over their correct use of the word “their.”

After my coffee-deprived brain had spell-checked their document I did the math.  For each dog they washed they would make $.50 a piece.

Say what?

The hair on the back of my neck stood on end as I asked, incredulous, “That’s all you’re charging? $2.00 per dog?”

Four heads nodded at me in unison.

“Girls, you are seriously undervaluing yourselves.”

MaKendra, another of my nieces, looked up at me confused, “No we’re not.”

I turned red as a pomegranate. “You should be charging at least $8.00 per dog.  That’s $2.00 a piece per dog.  Your time is more valuable than $.50.  How long is it going to take you to wash each dog? How big are these dogs?  $2.00 is just too low, you’re all worth more than that.”

Then I stopped ranting.  $8.00?  I pay $45.00 for So-kr8z’s S-PaW days (though that $45.00 includes the massaging of his oh-so-delicate anal glands – a task which I’d happily pay $150.00 for.) But even I, at the age of 40, am undervaluing time and energy.  Yes, even I was ball-parking low for these girls. What’s with that and where does it come from?

I got my answer

Days later I was talking with their Dad - who is probably the hardest working guy I know, as is their mother.  These two parents are on the go from 7:00 am until 1:00 am Every. Single. Day. working their guts out.  And they’re not rich.  Yeah, they get by, they have the necessities and some fun toys but they’re not vacationing in the Bahamas every year. They fervently believe that they have to work extra hard for every single red cent. They hope the washer doesn’t break down.

I know, I know, material stuff shouldn’t be important, and you can throw tomatoes and other soft fruit at me later, but bear with me for a moment and hear me say that money and material stuff IS important.  Let me explain.

Money is just energy.

Let me repeat that. Money is just energy. Let’s use the analogy of the ocean in place of money.  The ocean is vast, huge, and, in fact, water covers 70% of the earth’s surface.  And it might be my optimism speaking but I don’t see the oceans drying up any time soon.  So water flows in to the ocean and water flows out but the ocean never dries up.  Money is the same way.

Roald Dahl knew this when he brilliantly penned thee most apropos money quote I’ve ever heard in his novel Charlie and the Chocolate Factory.  Charlie is thinking of selling his Golden Ticket so his family can eat when Grandpa George tells him, “There’s plenty of money out there. They print more every day. But this ticket — There are only 5 of them in the whole world, and that’s all there’s ever going to be. Only a dummy would give this up for something as common as money. Are you a dummy?”

Yup. Me and my family are a bunch of dummies – and so are you if you have issues in regards to the green stuff.  Just as the ocean never dries up, neither does energy and so, therefore, neither does money.

Possessions also have energy.

Many of us with money issues believe it’s “evil” to want things.  So, for example, it’s bad to want that nice house with the freshly painted white fence when you already have a roof over your head.  It’s horrible to want those strappy Manolo Blanik’s right?  Nope.  Possessions have energy too and the only requirement for you in the wanting of something is that you love it.

As part of a social media campaign recently I asked people on Facebook, “What’s your favorite material possession.”  (WOW…  this raised some major angst among people.) Most folks appeared to scratch their heads, hem-haw, and not respond at all.  My guess is that these peeps have money issues and believe that they shouldn’t value the possession of a thing. I thought that too, for the longest time, and I would stand upon my pedestal with a golden aura surrounding my head like a halo while I spouted, “you can’t take ‘stuff’ with you when you die.”

But now I beg to differ. When you love a possession – when you truly value it – you’re imbuing that possession with energy. Perhaps the best example is to use an item from your childhood that you still hold on to.  One of my most valued material possessions is a blanket that my Grandma made for me when I was ten. Over the years this blanket has traveled thousands of miles with me.  This blanket has been washed more than I have. It’s vibrant canary yellow color has faded to a dingy off-white.  The stuffing is matted and falling out and sticks to my clothes whenever I huddle beneath it.  But I love this blanket.  Like L. O. V. E. love.  Every time I use it, and feel that feeling of utter comfort, I myself am giving this blanket some of my energy.

My point is that every material possession that you value and love is full of energy.  Haven’t you heard the wise sages and money gurus tell you, over and over, to surround yourself only with that which you love?  To pare down, clean house, de-clutter?  This is why. Because what you love has value and energy.  In the case of my blanket, someone out there in the world made the material that my Grandmother bought in order to make it for me.  Then, of course, there’s the energy of love that my Grandma put into it while she sewed. The postman who delivered it expended energy too as he drove from the post office, down the tree-lined streets of Stevens Drive, to get it to me a few days before Christmas.  You get the point.

Surrounding Yourself with Shit

I’m guessing that 99% of hoarders (or even those folks who just collect a whole lot of shit) have money issues as well, and I’m almost 100% positive that many of these people don’t surround themselves with only things that they love.  Rather, many of them surround themselves, simply, with things; an empty plastic Dr. Pepper bottle, a string cheese wrapper, a sack full of things they picked up from Wal-Mart that they just had to have but have never taken out of the bag.  That, my friends, is NOT honoring your material possessions. I understand that hoarding is an illness and my heart goes out to those struggling with this issue. But, whether you’re a hoarder or not, I imagine that we all hold on to things we don’t love, even after we’ve douched our own personal space.

So… what’s to be done?  How do we reconcile some of these age-old money issues?  How do you figure out how to expend your energy, how to value your energy, and how much to charge for your energy? The first step, I think, is simply to realize that your time, money, possessions, you, yourself, everything is energy.  That’s all I’m asking, even of myself, is to take that first baby step towards not being a dummy.

Comments

Anonymous's picture

ok to have money for myself

Now at 52 I am flat out poor - no dinero - with 3 weeks to go before vacating my club med type apt. to move to family where I can live for free and ask for money from them to pay my car payment, buy dog food and my food (notice how I put the dogs first?)and pray my happy heart stays intact while I continue to search for a money tree, be it a job, acceptance to disability coverage or ...
What is most odd is the happpy heart that I have after going through serious decluttering thus relieving myself of gifts,and years of things that survived my regular spring cleans. Downsizing, due to physical injuries the instant divorce that followed, was the impetus but emotional cleansing and overwhelming claustrophobic feeling kept the momentum. From a 3,500 square foot house to a 1,700 square foot house with a stuffed full 3 car garage to a 1,000 square foot apt. with a 30x15 full storage to no storage and a clutter free apt all in 2 years!
Now I can breathe and feel happier and less stressed than when I had money stashed away and a giant home full of things. I am thin, stronger, happier, nicer, unpressured, have faith and I paint, write, rescue dogs that flunk temperment tests and love so much of what I live everyday.
What is missing? A soul mate & money! My plan? Talking to myself with the same loving voice that I give to others to know that I deserve love & money and lots of it !
The hard part? Shutting down the family poor voice even though they have the comfort that money can buy they are poor and protective taking no risks in life in love or money matters.
I feel that this time - 3rd time in my life - that I am starting over the money will come into my life as never before from a different process. Maybe that is why I feel oddly at peace, tentatively excited, and being pulled on a path not yet revealed. TX for the article !

Anonymous's picture

Moving

I read this at just the right time! My Mom and I are in the middle a move and we don't have enough money to move all our junk...your article REALLY opened my eyes and I realized that in all our moves we really have been moving JUNK! Oh we do have treasures but they are buried under piles of junk! We are not QUIET hoarders, not quiet! (LOL) but we DO have alot of things that we don't love all over the place! In fact as I shared this with my mother I realized that all the things we really love we can't enjoy because they are literally buried by the things we DON'T love! Books that we enjoy are behind books that we don't care so much for, things that my mother has made (she is an artist), and things that others have made for her are buried under STUFF...we can't even say what it is for sure! We realized that things we love are still in boxes and other containers that have never been unpacked. (we've been here 3 yrs!) So THANK YOU for this article, we are going to make sure that THIS move we only move things we LOVE! :D

Melanie Bates's picture

Wow Anonymous Mover ;)

I'm SO thrilled for you. KUDOS & deep bow. Not only will moving be easier but I think you'll find you feel emotionally lighter (not to mention the fact that you'll be opening yourself up to bring in more of what you truly love. Happy tossing and packing!

xoxo

Lindley @ Amethyst and Amber's picture

It's about more than energy, too

Fantastic article! For me, money is also about power and security and control. When I was very poor, I had very little control over my life and what surrounded me.

Having lots of things around me, then, makes me feel powerful and in control. To a certain point. Past that point, I just feel overwhelmed. I'm learning to listen to those signs and declutter until I have enough possessions to still feel in control of what I surround myself with, but not enough that all those "dead" things take over.

Melanie Bates's picture

Struggling Lindley

I'm struggling a touch, Lindley, in reading your message. I so understand what you're saying about feeling like you have so little control when you're poor and trying to get by. I've so been there myself. And yet, while I firmly believe that we each give energy to that which we love (material possessions included) I don't know that they give us any real "power or control". I don't know that I would think of the material possessions that I love and give energy to as "dead things." They're alive with my energy. I think that's why I'm so careful in what I surround myself with. I have to LOVE it. But I don't think a material possession gives me power or control. I think it's the opposite. I give material possessions good energy when I value them. It's tough for me to formulate words around all of this because I'm still trying so hard to not be a "dummy" when it comes to realizing that money/possessions/everything is just energy exchange. Sorry for the rambling. Still trying to wrap my head around all of this and I SO appreciate your comment and the fact that you shared your truth with me. xoxo

Lindley @ Amethyst and Amber's picture

Melanie, let me see if I can

Melanie, let me see if I can explain a little. I spent a very long time being very poor and in a controlling family. For me, money offered a way to escape from that situation, to control where I lived and in what condition, to (to at least a certain extent) control my own destiny.

The "dead" things are things that I've ended up with that I haven't put love and energy into: some purchased things, some gifts, some inherited. My real treasures aren't dead at all - they're alive with warmth and emotion. When possessions in general offer security and power, though, it's easy to confuse "more possessions" with "more security and power." Which of course isn't true.

Melanie Bates's picture

Ahhh

That makes sense Lindley. I used to have a lot of "dead" things too. For me, I don't really think of "things" (however valued) as giving me security and power. I only ever feel that on the inside (when I feel it at all ;) I guess I need to work on that. Thanks, again, so much for sharing your truth.

I do know one thing for sure. My issues with the green stuff are like layers of an onion. I peel one back and there's another. I guess, like all else, it's a work in progress.

xoxo

Lissa Rankin's picture

Money issues

This is SUCH a great article, Melanie- and this is exactly why I included money as one of the elements of the new wellness paradigm I'm writing about in my new book. People argued with me over this. They told me money didn't need it's own piece. But like you, I think money is energy, and when we don't have enough of it, it not only stresses us out and deprives us of things and experiences we love- it can also hurt our health.

Thanks for shining a bright pink light on this issue and doing it with your classic wit and style. Well done, love!

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Melanie Bates's picture

Awww... thanks Lissa

I think my Inner Dummy may have even argued with you for a second about including money ;) That other inner part of me that wears the halo and perpetually hears angels singing still has a go at me once in awhile too telling me that valuing money and possessions is evil, superficial, and shallow. But nope... it's all energy. xoxo

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