Thank you for sharing your prophetic dream, your wisdom, and your story. We hold it here as sacred. May you also find a salve for that longing and the heart of another who opens to you.
Much love
Lissa

I came across that Elizabeth Gilbert quote a couple years ago and it still has a great impact reading it now. It really sums up to me the purpose of soul mates. I think all great relationships in our lives, no matter what role they are, should challenge, inspire, and awaken us.

I battle with the idea of soul mates. I think I used to believe in it more but I have let it go as more of a fairy tale. It would be nice if it's true but it may just be a comforting thought we tell each other to soften the pain of reality. Maybe it does exist but it's only for a portion of us instead of a the whole populace. Who knows?

I have only had one serious relationship, although I did love him I do not feel it was a soul mate connection. If I had one it was probably with a guy I dated shortly after him, we dated breifly but the magnetism was strong. I am such a black sheep that it is close to impossible for me to find others who really can connect with me on the multiple levels that I need. Here came this guy that seemed wrapped up in a little bow from the universe handed to me after all my years of wanting that amazing connection, someone who could appreciate me fully as I am. Where others have been able to appreciate some aspects but not the entire package. Things were building slowly and we never even kissed although he was open about wanting to be phsyical with me, I held off cause I needed more time to analyze the situation. We both just got out of long, serious relationships. He said he wasn't ready for another and I said I was with the right person, cause ultimately it is what I want. Well he finally stopped making the effort to see me. I didn't know if it was because I wasn't getting physical or maybe he just didn't feel anything anymore.

It has been 2 years now. In that time frame I have literally had over 30 dreams about him. I've never dreamt about someone so much. Not even the one guy I did have a serious relationship with and loved. Not even my own mother whom I have a lot of issues with. Somehow this man has surpassed anyone in that department and we only dated briefly. I battled the idea of whether I was crazy or it was cosmic! I know that dilemma all too well. In one of the first dreams he held me intently looking in my eyes and told me that we were meant to be together. The eyes. I am totally with you on the eyes thing. Cause in real life, whenever I run into him, his eyes seem to light up when I come into the room. I wonder how my eyes look to him. Hmmm...

After not being in contact for a long time, I had an amazingly profound and prophetic dream about him. Was just telling it to someone today then seeing your post is a lttle synchonistic. In the dream he was his normal, tall, handsome self. I asked him for a kiss which he declined and then he shrunk into a smaller person. His hair looked fake upon inspection, he backed up. He wouldn't let me inspect him. After backing up a couple spaces, he finally took off a wig. Underneath was fresh, red blood dripping down his scalp. Then he took off a mask to reveal a bloody, missing left eye. On the mouth piece of the mask was also fresh, red blood. I woke up so disturbed by the prophetic imagery, not even that it was gorey but more at what such a dream meant. My guess was that he was guarded, hidden away underneath layers that covered his wounds. And being the nurturer that I am, aha I thought I can help him! I will be the one to peel back his layers and heal him. I was in the middle of reading a book called If The Buddha Dated. The next chapter I read, a couple days after having that dream, was about the importance of not wearing a mask in life. That if we want true connections and to know love, we have to be our authentic selves. BAM! Synchronicity! Confirmation that my interpretation was spot on! I then struggled with the idea of reaching out to him. Did something divine give me this dream as deeper insight into him? Why it didn't work out? That I should reach out to him? A warning to stay away? Well after a week of this inner debate, I reached out through email. He wrote back and we caught up a bit and made plans to reconnect in person when he got back from vacation. A week after that, my friends on facebook posted a video clip that he was in. Basically a local artist created their own music video and "my guy" was in it. To my amazement, he had blood around his mouth and he did this artistic move where he took his hand and covered his left eye. Which happens a lot in fashion and in pop culture, it has to do with the occult and the Eye of Horus. The ancient Egyptian god had his left eye plucked out and when people cover their left eye in that fashion, it's to symbolize the Eye of Horus. So I was shocked with all the synchronicities between the dream, waking life, and my own insight on the matter.

The guy and I never met up on our own even though he expressed the interest. I still see him once in a while when I'm out. He still seems to light up but also keeps a distance. I can't figure out what his deal is but I'm like you wondering if it's my own ego wanting to think he's just a wounded pup that needs nurturing or maybe he really is just not that into me. A question I've mulled over for 2 years. I'm thankfully in a place where he doesn't pop into my thoughts or dreams that much anymore. But even thinking of him now it brings on a little bit of a longing. A longing for a man I never had anything that serious with. I've dated a lot, been in love once, but for some reason this guy has a stronger pull on me than anyone.

Well thanks for sharing your story. I hope you find that loving match that ignites your soul.

I believe soul mates are real though I think it does not have to be in a romantic setting. You will definitely meet someone who will change your life in a way that others cannot.

pokies

Wonderful timing to read your post - first of all I loved your writing, and the comments so far. The cool timing is that on my radio show this Friday we are exploring "Soul Mates, Soul Partners, Twin Flames and Past Life Love Connections."

Feel free to call in the studio if you like (or instant message with feedback, questions, etc.) And again, I love the blog - refreshing!

Alyssa Jo

The link to the radio show is here, and it airs live at 1pm Central, 2pm Eastern on Fridays:
http://www.sky.radio.com

I believe I am married to my soul mate. Yes it can be intense. I haven't been reading blog posts too much over the past months as life has been pressing upon me. One being the fact that my husband has been on the road working (only home 3 weekends a month) for the past 5 years. When he took the job 5 years ago we accepted it as he needed the job and the income was really nice. Shortly after he started I began an intense journey of self discovery and knew I couldn't do my work if he had been home.

The past 5 months has brought on many adjustments. I left a 25 year career in corporate America and my son went through an intense emotional crisis. I had juggled the lifestyle of a two parent household by myself for 5 years, I was going through some big time mid life adjustments, cut our income almost in half and was managing my son's crisis without my soul mate. It led to a mini nervous breakdown a little over a month ago.

I WAS LONGING FOR MY SOUL MATE to be home with me. I prayed and my prayers were answered in the form of him losing his job unexpectedly. I knew I needed to go through the pain. I needed to be forced to dig deep for strength, passion, drive and heart. The lesson of acceptance and surrender to be learned. To walk by faith and not by sight.

He's home! And by the looks of it he may be securing a good position that will allow him to be home for while. It was time. The spark was always there when he was away all those long weeks and nights. Time the flame to burn brightly again.

Melanie, it's not by chance I came back to Owning Pink via your post. I've always felt a connection to you. Maybe not a "getting lost in your eyes" kind of connection, but one none the less.

I have girlfriend who is my soul mate. We've spent some time apart and I feel I needed to learn some things before we would connect again.

Yes I believe.

I had a past life regression after reading that book too. It IS the eyes, and something about the aura, the essence of the person: *bam* you just know. I found that so intriguing. I knew before I did that that my man and I had been in other lives together, because of dreams, and because meeting him in this life was like magic in so many ways. I hadn't even spoken to him yet, but I sat next to him in a college class, and he went back to his dorm and told his roommate that he'd just met the girl he was going to marry. When I looked up into his big brown eyes -again, the eyes- it hit me square in the heart. "Home", I felt. And "safe". It was so clear. No thoughts were needed, my heart knew. And then everything around us became playful synchronicity. Songs on the radio played exactly what we were feeling or doing. And still now, 27 years later, our bond is bigger than we are. If we get to the point where life is pulling us apart, something always pulls us back together. So yes, maybe we are the best storytellers ever. But every fiber of my being is telling me that we have a co-writer :)

Let's start with you're not crazy.

We are all crazy for trying fit this very REAL, very heartfelt (and heartbreaking) experience into the little boxes of Soulmates. "Many lives, Many Masters" is heavily influenced by the work of Edgar Cayce, a psychic who lived in the 1930s. He had ALOT to say on Soulmates/ Twin Flames - I know because I used to lecture on that topic there. :)

Anyway, the experience you're having- the draw, the can't stop thinking about him, the "this is COSMIC" feeling that some people report is ALL TOTALLY REAL.

Now that that's out of the way....

I can't give you the details you want in this blog post (email me if you want) so I want to concentrate on the "well what do I do with this reality".

The first thing is accept it may all end up that nothing comes of it. No one ever listens to that part, so I'll keep moving.

The draw is real, but it may not be a romantic relationship. If your soul mate has not worked on themselves, has not gotten clear with their own heart and life lessons, then no matter how much every pore is screaming "YES YES YES" they won't see it. You can't force it. They are not ready. It takes BOTH of you to independently work on your own life lessons. What that feeling is is a calling- a resonance, a frequency- that only soul mates posses. If you are not clear, you may not feel/hear it in your soul mate. It may not be your time yet. But that's why I have always encouraged people to get *themselves* clear on their own path so that when you do meet your soul mate, you will be in a place where you can respond out of love, and not out of grasping.

The biggest way to make sure your soul mate doesn't work out is to grasp at them.

When you are *both* clear- when you are working with your issues, when you are on your life's path- there is no grasping! There is only that resonance- the call and response of a song. It's just that effortless. If he's across the country, you will move. If he's 80 and you're 20, it won't matter. The point is that it's as natural as a sunrise- we don't wait and wish for the sun to rise, it just does because that's what it was designed to do.

Many people have used the outward signs of this expression to justify things that are really born of a grasping ego. They try, and it fails. They might really be soul mates, but they did not do the work to ready themselves for each other.

Please keep in mind, your soulmate may not be a romantic partner. A soulmate brings out your potential like no one else can. They are your help mate in this life. They may be your sister, mother, boss, friend, etc. Or a spouse.

A Twin Flame however, has the characteristics to what we normally ascribe the term soul mates, is more often a romantic partner, but still not required. Gladis Davis, Edgar Cayce's secretary, was his twin flame, not Edgar's wife (and they swear there was no hanky - panky). Your Twin Flame harmonizes with your frequency and instead of clash with it, create a symphony from the two. Something greater than 2 is born out of 1 and 1.

Two books I have loved on this are Thomas Moore's "Soulmates" and "Twin Souls - A Guide to Finding Your True Spiritual Partner" by Patricia Jourdry and Maurie Pressman, MD. But there are MANY authors and many people who can recognize that power that lies untapped in that first meeting between soul mates. If the conditions are right, that relationship can be transformative for both beyond your imagination - just be ready to handle what you asked for. ;)

It doesn't take you away from a life that you have after being very honest with yourself, but it will make you very aware of all the ways you are lying to yourself!

You don't have to believe in psychics to believe in the power of a twin flame/ soulmate, so just see if this resonates with you:

"A soulmate is an ongoing connection with another individual that the soul picks up again in various times and places over lifetimes. We are attracted to another person at a soul level not because that person is our unique complement, but because by being with that individual, we are somehow provided with an impetus to become whole ourselves."

Thank you for listening and sharing,

Leann Harris