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Sperm Trumps Vagina. WTF?

Lissa Rankin's picture

Last week, just before blasting off on my 20 city book tour for my book What’s Up Down There? Questions You’d Only Ask Your Gynecologist If She Was Your Best Friend, I got a call from a guy at CBSNews.com. They had posted a piece called 15 Crazy Things About Sperm and it has been a slam dunk, runaway hit on the website. He wanted me to write a similar post about vaginas. He loved my style, thought I was funny, and they were trying to spice up their health news, so he thought I’d be perfect (*Lissa blushes*). I was running around like a crazy person trying to get ready for my tour, but how could I turn down the opportunity to write 15 crazy things about the vagina? Vagina vagina vagina!

So I dropped everything and wrote a badass piece -- 15 Curious Things You May Not Know About the Vagina. The guy at CBSNews.com loved it and promised to post it on the day my book launched. Which he did. But when I went to look for it, it wasn’t there? What happened?

Too saucy?!

Well, the next day, the guy called me, tail between his legs, to say how embarrassed he was to have to tell me that the post was up for only an hour before the suits in corporate made him take it down. It was “too saucy.” He felt awful. He couldn’t stop apologizing. I was tempted to go off on the guy and start ranting but he was SO nice and clearly, it hadn’t been his decision. He loves vaginas. He felt bad, so I let him off the hook. No worries. We’re scheduled to have coffee when I’m in New York.

But the more I thought about it, the more it bugged me. Why DID they make him take down my post? The sperm post was pretty saucy too. Why do sperm get to stay up, while vaginas -- once again -- are relegated to the closet? What does this say about our society?

What, we can’t say vagina?

A while back, I was horrified to hear that a tampon company was banned from three networks from airing a commercial that actually used the word “vagina.” They changed the word to “down there,” but even still, two of the three networks wouldn’t air it. This lead the tampon company to reshoot the ad without ever once referencing the female genitalia. In response to all this, UbyKotex (who is sponsoring a book giveaway for What’s Up Down There?) launched an awesome ad campaign about telling it like it is. Their ads totally make fun of tampon commercials. But still, they never once say the word vagina.

What is the matter with us? What are we so freaking afraid to talk about those things every person on this planet came out of? And why the double standard? When I was at a Superbowl party, they aired an ad that talked very frankly about erectile dysfunction. My four year old was like “Mommy, what’s erectile dysfunction?” I found myself floundering to explain that girls have vulvas and boys have penises, but that sometimes the boy’s penis doesn’t get hard when it’s supposed to. “When is it supposed to get hard?” she asked. “Uh…well…um…have you heard of the birds and the bees?” But thank God, by then, someone had pulled out a lollipop and her sweet tooth got distracted. I was off the hook.

Don't say "coochie"

This week, I was on a famous national radio show that shall go unnamed. They invited me to be a guest on this radio show but when they received a copy of my book, the producer called and said, “We’re having second thoughts. We’ve read the book -- and we love it -- but we’re a bit concerned about the language.” Okay, so I have a potty mouth. I figured they wanted to make sure I didn’t say any four letter F bombs on national radio, and of course, I know how to behave. But no -- it wasn’t the cuss words they were worried about. It was words like “coochie” or “va jay jay.” I giggled because I wanted to name my book "Coochie Confidential" but my publisher wouldn’t let me. They told me “Down There” was suggestive enough.

So I agreed to keep quiet in exchange for massive exposure on a famous radio program. But midway through the program, the host picks up my book and says “You’re gonna love this. Listen to the chapter title -- 'How Coochies Smell and Taste.'” And she got bleeped. And then she said, “Hey, am I allowed to say the word coochie on the radio?” And she got bleeped again. The producer was behind the glass screen, shaking her head like we were two naughty children.

Another producer of a national television show invited me to appear on her show to talk about What's Up Down There? -- the plan was for the hosts of the show to ask me the questions they’d be too embarrassed to ask their gyno. But the producer warned me we’d have to be careful. “You can talk about vaginas,” she said, “but you’re gonna have to call it a ‘passion flower.’” Say what? A PASSION FLOWER? Are you kidding me? But in keeping with my mission, I smiled demurely and agreed to her terms.

But the idea got nixed by the hosts. Apparently, they were too embarrassed to ask their questions on national TV, so we offered to tone it down for them. But they said no. Too racy. Too personal. Too much vagina talk. So the show got canned.

What Gives?

If vaginas are too inappropriate for network television, national radio, and CBSNews.com, why can we talk about erectile dysfunction and sperm? The double standard pisses me off! What is wrong with these people? Personally, I have no problem with talking about sperm and Viagra, but if I have to get caught explaining erectile dysfunction to my four year old, shouldn’t we be allowed to talk about vaginas?

Now granted, I’m on the road now on my book tour for What’s Up Down There?, speaking at colleges, reading at bookstores, appearing on television, being interviewed on the radio, and writing guest posts for websites. About what? You guessed it. Vaginas. So clearly I’m not shy. But I’m getting sick and tired of being censored.

Why Do I Think We Should Talk About Vaginas?

We talk about the eyeball. We talk about the big toe. We talk about belly buttons and thighs and armpits without shame or embarrassment. Why NOT talk about vaginas? But frankly, I think it’s even more important to talk about vaginas than it is to talk about fingers or knees. The vagina is where life begins. It’s the portal of pleasure. But it’s also the place where many traumas happen. As women, we get molested as children, we get raped, we experience painful trips to insensitive gynecologists, we tear through our vaginas during childbirth, we get abortions, we suffer from painful intercourse. When we don’t talk about vaginas, these traumas back up inside us and fester.

We MUST bring the vagina out of the closet. At least grant us equal air time in the media as sperm, penises, and erectile dysfunction. I mean seriously, people. Get OVER it!

That’s why I wrote What’s Up Down There? -- to get people talking and demystify this divine part of our bodies. How can we love ourselves if we don’t love ALL of ourselves? So say it with me. Vagina. Vagina. Vagina. (See, that wasn’t so hard, was it?)

What do you think? Does this piss you off as much as it pisses me off? Does it make you uncomfortable to talk about vaginas? Are you willing to join me on my mission to bring the vagina out of the closet?

Trying to live up to the name my friends have given me -- "VaJesus",

Dr. Lissa

PS. Want to read 15 Crazy Things About Vaginas? Read it here. 

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Comments

Susan's picture

VAGina

I love this. And I don't get it either. I have two old brothers, I was a former tomboy, and penises and vaginas were no big secret, nor a big deal.

I think it's sort of weird to refer to a vagina as anything but a vagina. We don't go around saying "pee-pee" "willy" or "junk" when talking about male organs. At least not on civilized talk shows. We call it a penis.

BECAUSE THAT'S WHAT IT IS. A PENIS.

Could you imagine a man going on Oprah and saying, "Well, Oprah, a man's junk has a multitude of complexities and functions..."

I mean, it's ridiculous to refer to our most sacred female organs as anything but a vagina. Referring to it as a coochie is just kind of silly and kind of disrespects it.

Why call it anything else at all but a vagina?

BECAUSE THAT'S WHAT IT IS. A VAGINA.

Thank you. And good evening....

Susan's picture

coochies and what not

I love this. And I don't get it either. I have two old brothers, I was a former tomboy, and penises and vaginas were no big secret, nor a big deal.

I think it's sort of weird to refer to a vagina as anything but a vagina. We don't go around saying "pee-pee" "willy" or "junk" when talking about male organs. At least not on civilized talk shows. We call it a penis.

BECAUSE THAT'S WHAT IT IS. A PENIS.

Could you imagine a man going on Oprah and saying, "Well, Oprah, a man's junk has a multitude of complexities and functions..."

I mean, it's ridiculous to refer to our most sacred female organs as anything but a vagina. Referring to it as a coochie is just kind of silly and kind of disrespects it.

Why call it anything else at all but a vagina?

BECAUSE THAT'S WHAT IT IS. A VAGINA.

Thank you. And good evening....

Stephanie Giaquinto's picture

"Vagina" And "Vulva" Should Be Spoken W/O Shame

It's so sad that, in this age, we are still shamed for using the correct anatomical terms for our genitals.

I think "vagina" should be spoken openly. It's hard to believe that, even in tampon commercials(!), the word cannot be used.

I feel so badly when I hear women use terms like "down there", "girly bits", etc. I mean, I have nicknames for my vulvar region, but when it's time to discuss matters cogently, I prefer the correct anatomical term. I get sad because women feel such shame about it.

When I do see the word "vagina" in articles, health articles, mind you, it's often used incorrectly, too. It seems most women think their entire vulvar region is called the vagina. A vulva is a vulva, and a vagina is a vagina! Yikes.

So many years of patriarchal culture takes a toll on us.

I stand tall, and say proudly, VAGINA! VULVA! And even VESTIBULE, the region that hosts our urethral and vaginal openings.

Lissa Rankin's picture

Sex, condoms- cool. Vaginas- "Too saucy"

Did you all see this on CBSNews.com?
http://www.cbsnews.com/stories/2010/10/04/health/main6924444.shtml

Apparently, sex and condoms are not a problem, but my vagina post was "too saucy." Maybe it's just me. I am a whole lotta sauce, I guess. Maybe that just scares the guys in suits...

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Rhia's picture

Vagina??? Vaginal Intercourse???

Well why is it too "saucy" to say vagina, but they sure as heck said intercourse and vaginal, sex, condoms, and orgasms???!!! Me thinks it is discrimination!!! The "guys" can talk shop, but women cannot??? Again, another crock of bull!!!

Doulalee and Nature's Way Birthing Services.'s picture

Here we go again!

Lissa, it's obvious that they are extremely uncomfortable with vaginas. They love em' alright, but don't want to talk about the anatomic health issues or concerns. Vaginas are viewed as a sex object instead of what they really are. So, let's just look at em, play with em, have sex with em, but that's it. Cowards.

Yia's picture

Wow, it's so disturbing that

Wow, it's so disturbing that when it comes to educating the public about our pussy and sex, the media goes freaking whacko about it, but there's no problem with ad campaigns and tv commercials making sexually suggestive and derogatory innuendos towards women and sex.
If vaginas ruled the world, it would be different!

LindsayDianne's picture

This was a great read, as

This was a great read, as well as an eye opener. I had no idea (as someone who doesn't have cable and lives mostly under a rock) that people were so scared of vaginas.
But good for you for writing it and playing for our team. Just because large networks won't talk about our bodies, or even let you talk about our bodies.... doesn't mean you should stop talking about our bodies.
I like my vagina, I know I'm not alone in that. I think that it's about damned time Someone challenged this.
Let's start burning our panties for the right to air our bits on network TV! ;)

Kelly's picture

I love my vagina, and I love calling it a PUSSY. Take that, CBS!

Until we ourselves (I mean women) get comfortable with our own bodies, how can we ask the media to be comfortable talking about them? Most of us have spent our lives entirely unacquainted with our own vajayjays, and as a result we're scared to death of them. I say pull out a mirror and look at her. Post a letter to your privates on loveletterstomypussy.com. Talk to your friends about how they feel about theirs. If we want to change the media, we have to start with ourselves.

Amber's picture

I loathe the double standard

I really detest the double standard here. I even see it in my spam folder, for crying out loud. We can talk about penises, and how to make them bigger and harder and all that jazz. But we can't even say the word vagina in a tampon commercial. As if tampons could exist without vaginas.

No wonder so many women have mixed feelings about their genitals. We're constantly told that we should be ashamed of them. But men? Men should be proud. And yes, men should be proud. But so should women. The double standard is just so inappropriate and sexist.

Molly's picture

I LOVE MY VAGINA!!

Mad, Pissed & Inspired!!

Thank you for sharing the trials of spreading the word about your book! I feel like this journey could be a book itself!! Or, perhaps a documentary!

It is an incredible reminder that the Vagina Monologues was an incredible start, but the fight is not over! It would be funny to do a word count to see how many words in both the Vagina Monologues and in What's Up Down There, would have to be sensored when doing a public reading!

Thanks!
Molly

Lissa Rankin's picture

Thank you Rhia

I so appreciate the blog post coming to my defense!
Big love to you sweetie
Lissa

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Rhia's picture

You are So Welcome!

You are very, very welcome Lissa! This is such a huge "unveiling", your book tour, your travels, everyone that has interviewed you, and it is also for all of here her that support and back you on "Owning Pink". This is all about getting our heads out of the sand, for each of us as women to own our bodies finally, not be ashamed of them, and to give the nation a chance to also stop the gender gap when it comes to the female body and the male body! For far too long there has been a gender, not just gap, but more like a gender cavern as wide of the Grand Canyon when it comes to our bodies, our sexuality, our emotions, and every piece of us, especially the emotional realms of our own inner feelings about sex. Women have always been taught to "act proper", not to "talk" about our sexuality, that it is not "lady like". Many women group up not even knowing what their period was, and then when they started abruptly in school one day, they were totally embarrassed and felt something was really wrong with them. I knew a girl that was a little older than the most of us in 4th grade. She had probably been held back a year. And that is exactly what happened to her. She began her period, right in the class room. She was terrified! Of course also embarrassed, thought something was terribly wrong with her, and of course the boys just made it worse with their crude and lewd remarks! I cannot fathom going through life in fear to talk about sexuality, your reproductive organs, and all of it. My daughter and I have been very open, and we talk about sexuality, without feeling ashamed or embarrassed. She is now 25 with two boys of her own, and one step-daughter. She is raising her step-daughter the same way, with open and honest conversations. My daughter met her now husband when she was 15. As soon as I knew they were that serious, we immediately went to the clinic, she got her first exam and we put her on birth control injections. She, at 16, nor him, since he already had a child that was 2 from a previous very young marriage that did not work out, and him and my daughter are raising the girl, who is now 13. So, it was a no-brainer for me. They did not need another child at their age, thus talking about it in the open, not only saved them misery at the time, it allowed them to mature into their relationship, , wait until they were ready to marry, and then they planned out their family. Her two boys, are now 5 and 18 months old. They were well planned, her family is complete, and now she is in college, raising those kids, being a wife and Mom, and loves every moment of it. So, sexuality, us being open minded, and communicating definitely saved them heart ache, allowed them to mature, and then to have a great marriage, 3 great kids, and be ready for it all when the time was right.

I still cannot fathom why it is okay to say "vaginal intercourse" but not VAGINA!!???

Rhia Steele's picture

Here is my Blogger Post about Vagina's!

Rhia Steele's picture

I Just love it! Time for Vagina's everywhere to speak up!

As I read all of the comments, I realize just how incredible all of you are. It is beyond reason to think a proper, medical term is "taboo" from TV, an online video, etc. I bet if you pulled up "penis" or "sperm" in "U-Tube" you would get plenty of video's that have those words in them. After all of the vulgar, insensitive, & down right nasty language that is used even in "prime time" shows, plus much partial nudity in many of them, not including the horrible, bloody violence that is seen in the shows everywhere, it just does not make sense. There is literally not much censorship when it comes to the music our kids here, the gory, bloody violent scenes on television, and what about all of the gore, violence, & maniac messages sent by the video games kids play now? They can be exposed to all of those things, but when it comes to their bodies, the proper terminology that they will need to use to describe themselves, and more over medical terms, it is NOT allowed!? Stone ages is right. I am still just burned up about this... and I am putting it up on my blog this morning. I got some good responses on FB! Lissa you truly are an amazing woman! Thanks again for all you give to each of us...

Anonymous's picture

Words My Mother Uses

Your mama must have done something right. Mine has NO WORDS to use for anything "down there." After listening to things that made no sense, I told her to go see a gynecologist. She said, "I'm 88 years old!" I took a deep breath and said... "You still have a VAGINA!" Shock and incomprehension.

Elizabeth's picture

HeHeHe!

I love the comment where she says you should just go on there and say Vagina over oand over because they wouldn't be able to beep fast enough. Or you could randomly yell out "VAGINA!" In the middle of a scentance. That would be freakin funny!

Debra Duquette's picture

facebook

I commented on the facebook page for CBS news and added a link, I hope it helps!!

Ray's picture

Body parts prohibited?

This is soooo stupid, Lissa deserves all the support she can get. Give her a hand, am I allowed to say hand? I guess that is OK because both men and women have hands.

I grew up in England in the late 40s and 50s and we were not allowed to talk about, look at or supposed to think about anything remotely connected to sex. It took me years to get over the idea that there was something dirty about women and sex.

I really think that this kind of repression is partly, maybe even largely, responsible for sexual abuse and sex crimes.

Viva La VAGINA and Plaudits for the Penis, I hope the two can continue to get together for the future of the human race.

Dancing Bag Lady's picture

agree

i agree about the sexual abuse ray.

kat 's picture

next stop... CBS..

you know, i think CBS needs hundreds of comments all over its facebook and twitter feed, and responses on the 15 crazy things about sperm article.... And reposting on all our facebook pages!

Lissa Rankin's picture

Oral negotiations?

Seriously? Wow....

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Raven Shelly's picture

censorship

A Seattle station asked me to talk about how young people do not think that oral sex is sex.

I was not allowed to sat oral sex, I had to say oral negotiations.

Doulalee and Nature's Way Birthing Services.'s picture

Ummmmm. If it's NOT sex, then

Ummmmm. If it's NOT sex, then what the hell is it???

Kelly Bray's picture

?????

Oral negotiations????...that doesnt even make sense!

The definition of negotiation is "the process whereby interested parties resolve disputes, agree upon courses of action, bargain for individual or collective advantage, and/or attempt to craft outcomes which serve their mutual interests"... so how the heck does that qualify as sex in any way shape or form?

If I heard someone say oral negotionations Id be wondering WTF they were on about...

Lissa Rankin's picture

Grass roots vagina change

Amen, Monica! Change begins at home. My 4 year old daughter and her 9 year old friend sat around the dinner table with the grown ups listening to us all talk about this, and they both had questions and were curious. We answered their questions without shame, embarrassment or laughter and they were like- whatever.

When we make it taboo, we continue the cycle of silence. By putting it out there and making it okay, it's SO not a deal!

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Monica's picture

More shock than outrage

Having just read all of this, I am more shocked than outraged. Why? Because I was fairly shocked about the language and profanity now allowed on cable TV programming - most likely due to the authenticity that the language adds to the program - but I was not outraged because I wasn't offended. I did't object to the language, it was just unexpected (and therefore stood out in my mind) as was the response of CBS - especially when Parenthood this week had a reference to balls!

Honestly, I'm not surprised at the double standard, but I am disappointed. What's needed to change it? Frankly, to remove a taboo from society, I have no idea, but I start at home.

My daughter is 5 and we talk about her vagina when we need to reference "down there". I thought I was doing really great with my kids (I also have a 9 year old son) until one day, my son was in the tub and my daughter was on the potty - I was sitting outside the door.

The next thing I know, my daughter was asking my son about his "gina" and my son responded "Silly Kyra. Boys don't have vaginas, they have weewees." I burst out laughing as I fully expected to hear "penises" instead. To give my son credit, he did ultimately say "or also called a penis". This was way funnier than when my daughter had called my son's penis a "peanut" one day.

I hope this at least made you smile if not laugh out loud, but societal change does start at home and with grass roots efforts to make references to vaginas acceptable.

Remember the criticism of Georgia O'Keefe for her paintings looking less like like vaginas? How such a thing of beauty can be criticized for being representative of another thing of beauty is beyond me. Women are beautiful and vaginas are beautiful. I wouldn't trade mine for the world!

So there have been the Vagina Monologues and now, Dr. Lissa Rankin's What's Up Down There. Each step, whether made publicly or in the home, is a step in the right direction. Kudos to Lissa for taking up the charge as we each should in our own ways.

And I still think that "vaginae" is one of the most fun words to say in the English language!

Kelly Bray's picture

Talk about double standards....

This doesnt surprise me, after all even in men's magazine (yes girls THOSE magazines) they airbrush a womans vagina so she "looks neat"....they mean so she looks like a young girl - no bits protruding from the labia....

Doctors still have done hardly any research into woman's sexuality and how the vagina and surrounding areas functions (I bet even most women dont realise that the clitorus isnt just the 'little button' but actually quite a large area surrounding the vagina).

Oh and lets not forget when GST came in, in Australia and they made essential items GST free - BUT condoms are GST free and tampons aren't (now that was a WTF? for me they were classed as non-essential)

So I applaud you - don't let them push you around we women WANT to know what you have to say, we want people out there to quit the double standards...

So you GO GURL....page published! on face book and Im adding a link on my website too!

K.

Kelly Bray's picture

....more...

Oh and as a followup to my post.....and I have decided to post an entry in my blog linking back to this page as well as adding your book to my recommended reading (I had to start a whole new page just for non-fiction books but hey what better reason than this).

Tracie's picture

I just plain do not

I just plain do not understand why the correct, medical, anatomical term for a body part can be a bad word. It makes zero sense.

I recently wrote about saying Vagina on my blog http://www.fromtracie.com/2010/06/say-it-with-mevagina.html more from a standpoint of teaching your kids the proper words for their body parts. I was stunned that a commenter actually said that vagina is an ugly word.

VAGINA!! It is beautiful. We should not be ashamed to say it, or to talk about it.

Those guys at CBS have issues.

Lissa Rankin's picture

Alicia, you go girl!

Bring on the battle cry, sister!

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Lissa Rankin's picture

You all are THE BEST!

I've been on the road all day doing book signings and am just catching up on all the comments and I've got the biggest most gigantic grin on my face.

THANK YOU!!!!

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alicia and her vagina's picture

my vagina and are are pissed

my vagina and are are pissed as is my uterus, ovaries and fallopian tubes! My cervix is so angry she's refusing to speak!
As if people came from a seed pod or something and not a vagina. bet they didn't hang out in some chick's uterus for 9 months either. For the Love of God (or maybe a Goddess). My female genitalia and I have decided to just call a man's penis his Willie Woo Hoo (poor husband. gigglegiggle) and teach my daughter VAGINAVAGINAVAGINAVAGINAVAGINA!!!!! as a battle cry.
can't wait to get the book and one for my daughter as well (for when she's a bit older)
Carry On Vagina Warriors!!!!

andygirl's picture

what about hooha?

I would be willing to bet my life savings that I've heard the word penis on the radio.

double standard much? grrrr!

but not only that? I could get not using a word like cunt or something. because it's been used in a derogatory way, it's a curse word. but vagina is a clinical name, am I right?

it's not like I go to my gyno and say, Doc, my vajayjay is all hurt yo! no. I say it's my vagina.

that said, I adore slang terms for vagina. coochie. hooha. vajayjay.

down there? is soooo 1952.

I'd be tempted to go on the radio and just say vagina over and over. I bet they couldn't bleep fast enough.

andygirl's picture

what about hooha?

I would be willing to bet my life savings that I've heard the word penis on the radio.

double standard much? grrrr!

but not only that? I could get not using a word like cunt or something. because it's been used in a derogatory way, it's a curse word. but vagina is a clinical name, am I right?

it's not like I go to my gyno and say, Doc, my vajayjay is all hurt yo! no. I say it's my vagina.

that said, I adore slang terms for vagina. coochie. hooha. vajayjay.

down there? is soooo 1952.

I'd be tempted to go on the radio and just say vagina over and over. I bet they couldn't bleep fast enough.

Lisa's picture

They covered this on SouthPark

Vaginas are never seen as funny by men, they want it kept secret. But I think you raise a good point, we need to bring them on out into the public consciousness as it creates this feeling that we should be ashamed of our vagina. Men can joke about their penises, sperm and all the glories of that. But watch their faces when you start talking blood clots and periods. I learned young that if I wanted out of something with a man, say I'm bleeding. They don't care what else happens after that, they just want you to go into that hut and disappear.

Which is a problem, how many women are afraid to go to the gyno? I'm one, it freaks me out. I'm overly obsessive about keeping my privates private.

Let's let our lips flap in the wind and spread the word! Vaginas are here and we want to be heard! ;))

Rhia Steele's picture

Racy??!!! What a crock!!!

I just posted to Facebook and also I am putting it up on my blog! This is stupid!!! There is NO reason to NOT say Vagina! If they can talk about erectile dysfunction and "being ready every time"... then saying Vagina should be no different. We as women always get the raw end of the deal. Men get away with whatever... what about those "Extendize" pills??? Jimmy Johnson endorses them, and they are on a race car! It is more than time for us to put a stop to allowing men to treat us as 2nd rate citizens!

Lisa's picture

They covered this on SouthPark

Vaginas are never seen as funny by men, they want it kept secret. But I think you raise a good point, we need to bring them on out into the public consciousness as it creates this feeling that we should be ashamed of our vagina. Men can joke about their penises, sperm and all the glories of that. But watch their faces when you start talking blood clots and periods. I learned young that if I wanted out of something with a man, say I'm bleeding. They don't care what else happens after that, they just want you to go into that hut and disappear.

Which is a problem, how many women are afraid to go to the gyno? I'm one, it freaks me out. I'm overly obsessive about keeping my privates private.

Let's let our lips flap in the wind and spread the word! Vaginas are here and we want to be heard! ;))

Lisa's picture

They covered this on SouthPark

Vaginas are never seen as funny by men, they want it kept secret. But I think you raise a good point, we need to bring them on out into the public consciousness as it creates this feeling that we should be ashamed of our vagina. Men can joke about their penises, sperm and all the glories of that. But watch their faces when you start talking blood clots and periods. I learned young that if I wanted out of something with a man, say I'm bleeding. They don't care what else happens after that, they just want you to go into that hut and disappear.

Which is a problem, how many women are afraid to go to the gyno? I'm one, it freaks me out. I'm overly obsessive about keeping my privates private.

Let's let our lips flap in the wind and spread the word! Vaginas are here and we want to be heard! ;))

Maya Hanley's picture

Vagina Vagina Vagina

I posted it on Twitter and Facebook. We need to OWN our vaginas and not let twerps like CBS tell us we can't. It's wonderful that you are causing such a stir and, with the Pink Posse behind you, we should be able to make a lot of noise.

As I once said to you, I had a belief early on that men are jealous of our vaginas and they spend the rest of their lives trying to get back in! Forget penis envy - it's always been the other way around. What are they so frightened of anyway??? Keep going, we're all behind you!

Tracy's picture

Leading Edge of Vaginas

You ROCK Lissa!! I'm totally posting this on my FB page. As another commenter mentioned you are bucking the system and it's trying to put you back in the box.

Vaginas were never meant to be in the "box"!

Say it loud and say it proud... VAGINA VAGINA VAGINA!

You keep following your path and just watch, they'll be BEGGING for an uncensored and uncut interview. Yeah Baby!

Some people simply don't want and can't handle the truth. Vaginas won't go away and refuse to stay in the closet any longer!

Wooo hooo for Vaginas!

Tracy

Jean Kowalski's picture

Say what???

Is this like an April fool's joke?? Come on people...open your eyes.....
Lissa, there is no one better (that I know) to get this message out about the sacredness and beauty of the woman's body.
So here's to all the vivacious vagina's out there!!!!

Wake up CBS....we're here to stay!!!

Peace,
Jean

Sharon D.'s picture

We've Come a Long Way but Not That Far Obviously

I am so tired of the men's products being advertised constantly and during events where children are watching - do they really think kids don't know what they're talking about?!!

AND THEN THEY DO THIS? It's like they are advocating procreation without thought or information! Which shows us what a patriarchal society we still live in! A man can still rut to his hearts content it would appear and women should keep vital health information in the dark corners of the stage upon which the penis is the star!!

*sigh* On onward we go! VAGINAS UNITED!!!

Love and Light
Sharon

Amy's picture

The Sequel?

"Coochie Confidential" I love it!!

And "‘passion flower.’ Say what?"

Great reaction:-)

Riin's picture

I have a vagina.

Vagina. Vagina vagina vagina. I am a woman. Therefore I have a vagina.

When I was prepubescent I had never heard of a vagina. The pamphlet about menstruation that got passed onto me didn't mention them at all. This was back when not all pads had adhesive. Some of them attached to a belt (glad those days are over!), and when I read about attaching the pad to a belt, I was trying to figure out just where the blood came out. My navel?

My favorite Paula Poundstone bit is where she was talking about the horrible job schools do on sex education. She said that if they taught history the way they teach sex ed, they'd be saying things like, "In 1776, SOMETHING happened. You know..."

Terrill Welch's picture

Unbelievable!

Lissa, when I read your article my mouth fell open and I felt like I was in some kind of time warp back to the 1950s or something. I am sitting here shaking my head. It makes me want to go out on the road and sing "vagina, vagina, vagina..." but only an odd raven would hear me on my rural island here on the west coast of Canada. I did tweet out your article and I am now off to post it on facebook as well. This is crazy making to say the least. By the way, I got notification that your book is on its way to me. I am looking forward to all "the language" you used between the pages.

Seems to call for a little Tom Petty and the Heart Breakers "I won't back down" http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CnrPP3qkM0E just to circle in some good male energy into our feminine spine of resistance.

Hugs Lissa and keep calling "Vagina" and I will answer "Vagina" until the echo never stops.

Christa's picture

Vagina. Eats. Sperm.

Sperm. Paper. Scissors.
Rock. Paper. Vagina.

but really it's

Vagina. Eats. Sperm.

Liss - you're bucking convention and that makes people uncomfortable. F*** Em. Keep doing what you're doing.

Vagina! Vagina! Vagina!

P.S. I have not pre-ordered my copy of the should-have-been-named Coochie Confidential yet because I wanted to buy one when I see you in person when you're in Philly.

buzzvibe's picture

Props, woman!

I can't believe they took your article down. Boo, CBSNews.com! I'll all for talking about vaginas.

Patricia Singleton's picture

Sperm Trumps Vagina, WTF?

Already put this page on Twitter and Facebook. Ordered two of your books - one for my daughter and one for my daughter-in-law. Am reading it myself before they get their copies. This is just another way that women are discriminated again.

Michelle Medina's picture

I will post Vagina & the link

I will post Vagina & the link to this article on my FB page. However, I also think we should be emailing CBS news!!! How will media ever get it's colective head out of it's arse if we don't speak up??? So let's do it people!

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