Another Valentine’s Day has come and gone. Did it live up to your expectations? I am not going to hate on the day of love. I celebrate any day that gives us permission to super-size our swoon and get extra-cheesy, bathing the ones we love, or even kinda like, in our special sweet sauce of love. (Did I take the fast food theme too far?) However, the day is rife with expectation. Whether you’re in a relationship or not, if you aren’t totally in alignment in the love department, Valentine’s Day is a reminder of how out-of-sync things really are. If you are pining for more connection, or for the love of your life to finally walk through your door, the way to get what you want is simple. Create an internal environment of love. 

Why do I need to sow the seeds of this internal love garden, you ask? 

You’re more attractive: 

When you create a loving internal condition, you’re allowing yourself to feel the warmth, comfort and peace you associate with love, without relying on any external circumstances. On a practical level, this makes sense: when you’re vibrating with love, you’re someone who other people will want to be around. You’re “attractive.” Think about the alternative, the negative, nervous, and cold internal condition. Not cute.  

There’s no happy ending at the end of an unhappy journey. 

When you cultivate a glowing inner love, you’re feeling love right now. You’re happier on a daily basis. It no longer feels like anything is “missing” from your life. You experience a happier journey, which itself invites happier circumstances day after day. 

Your external circumstances mirror your internal condition.

The thoughts you think, the emotions you feel, they all color the way you see and experience the world. Sticking with the limited perceptions about what’s possible for you in the area of love seriously limits what you then are able to experience in your life. When you choose a more loving perspective, the world opens up for you because you’re willing to let it in. 

Now that you’re ready, here are three ways to get the love train back on the tracks. 

1. Fall in love with yourself! What do you love about yourself? What do you need to accept? What do you need to change? How can you celebrate who you are and live with more joy?
2. Fall in love with your life as it is right now.  How can you elevate the love you feel to the point where you are completely full? So you’re not dependent on the arrival of another person to fill up a cavernous hole in your heart. Fall in love with your life, everyday, and when “the one” comes into your life, he or she will just be the sweet glaze on the cake you’ve already lovingly prepared. 
3. Let yourself have fun!  How can you take your “work” in this area of life less seriously? Can you ignore the rules you enacted for your dating life? Can you ease up on the one you love? Can you laugh more? Is there one thought that you think repeatedly that you’d be better off dropping? How can you move with ease? 

Let me know how this goes for you. Leave your comment in the space below, and I’ll be sure to respond.