First action, then inspiration ~ those are the words that drive me whenever I am looking for that elusive muse called inspiration. I’ve learned that if I show up first, whether it’s at my computer, a meeting, or a workout, she will most likely show up too. After all, one of my favorite quotes is this one, attributed to German writer Goethe:“Whatever you can do, or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it.”
I recommend reading that first paragraph again. (I’ll wait here for you.) Note that nowhere in there does it say, “Wait for inspiration, and then your action will come easily, and you’ll achieve your dreams before you know it.”
I’m pretty sure that if I believed that waiting was the way to approach inspiration, I wouldn’t have accomplished much in my life. On the other hand, acting first and expecting inspiration to follow has helped me to start working toward many of my dreams — and then achieve them. This was certainly true of writing a children’s story, which began as a dream over five years ago.
I’ve always loved children’s picture stories and filled bookshelves with them even before I had a child, but I never imagined writing one.That changed when, in preparation for my first child, I read a book on parenting, Everyday Blessings: The Inner Work of Mindful Parenting by Myla Kabat-Zinn and Jon Kabat-Zinn. It contained the story of Sir Gawain and the Loathly Lady; I loved the story, but I was a little dismayed that it seemed to hang so much on physical beauty and romantic love.
I wanted to tell a story that focused more on friendship and freedom. I shared my dream with my husband and with my dear friend (and extraordinary artist) Daniel Nevins, and they were both enthusiastic about it. Daniel even agreed to create the illustrations if I ever managed to get the story written. Of course, it would have to wait, because my baby was born soon after I asked for his help.
I still thought about the story often, especially during those late-night feedings when it was just my son and me. As he nestled against my breast, I thought about how precious he was to me, and how I wanted more than anything to support his freedom to become exactly who he wanted to be and to find his own path to happiness. Even though it was painful to consider, I knew that I would support him even if he chose a path that would take him far away from me.
The first two years of my son’s life passed quickly, but the story stayed with me. I knew I still wanted to write it, but there were so many other matters to attend to. Commitments to my family and my work as a nurse-midwife seemed to take up all my time. The few moments I carved out for myself seemed best spent doing mood-elevating exercise, which helped fuel me up for all of the other demands on my energy.
I felt I had no time to do anything more. And I doubted that writing the story would pay off even if I were to find the time, because then I’d either have to pay Daniel to do the illustrations or get a publishing deal that would pay for them — and both options seemed well nigh impossible. Still, the idea of the story haunted me (in a good way) and I realized there was nothing to be done but to “show up” and write the story.
So I carved out the time. I sat at my computer. And I wrote. And I waited for the muse. And I wrote a little more. And sure enough, the muse arrived. I finished the story in February of 2007.
I sent it out to publishers hoping they would love it as much as I did. I got a few positive responses, but nothing close to a publishing contract. After six months, I realized that if I was going to see this story “fully fleshed” – that is, illustrated — I was going to have to pay Daniel myself to illustrate it. It was the most money I had ever spent on anything other than the down payment on my house, and it felt like a huge risk, but it was worth it to see my dream become a reality.
I sent the manuscript out, now with the illustrations, and (still many months later) got a publisher interested in the book. And it now it is here! So, after perhaps the world’s longest gestation, my baby, Ravenna, is born. But she would have stayed a twinkle in my eye had I not been willing to take the action before inspiration struck.
So to anyone who has ever had a dream, but felt she lacked the inspiration to see it come to reality, or doubted that anything would come from it even if she did commit to it, I can only say, do it.
That’s the best-kept secret to achieving your dreams -- the boldness of acting on your dream really does have genius, power, and magic in it.
What about you? How are you taking steps toward your dreams? What are your secrets of success?
Much love, Stacey
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Not just action, but conscious action
By Jill Chivers (not verified) on Tuesday, 07/27/2010 at 1:35 PMhey Stacey
A beautiful piece, and I love Goethe quote you mentioned (and the 'build your wings on the way down' one that Amy mentioned). It's reassuring to know that others have walked the path before us!
What I also liked in your piece was how it's not just any action, but conscious, or awake, action. It's not blindly stumbling around, or the all-movement/no-progress action of a rocking horse. If I find myself in 'rocking horse' territory, I know it's time to stop, at least for a little while.
Since quotes are de rigeur today here's one from Martin Luther King that I have on my office wall "faith is taking the first steps even when you don't see the whole staircase". You did that, and your book is a testament to living life on faith. The inner sceptic in us all wants to poo poo faith (well, mine does!), but nothing replaces it.
Great job! Really enjoy your Living Pink articles!
When you find yourself in rocking horse territory
By Stacey Curnow on Tuesday, 07/27/2010 at 2:22 PMHi Jill!
Thanks so much for your kind comment! I love the image you evoke of the "rocking horse territory" - big smile and nod of acknowledgment because I've been there!
I also love the Martin Luther King quote and your thoughts on faith (and your use of 'poo poo')! They also remind me of the metaphor of driving at night. You only see into the distance illuminated by the headlights - not far - but that's all you need to get to your destination.
Jill, thanks SO much for joining the "Living Pink" conversations! It's so wonderful to have you here! Much love, s
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Thrilled for you!
By Amy (not verified) on Tuesday, 07/27/2010 at 8:35 AMCongratulations Stacey, this is a wonderful story and an inspiration to read.
I've always loved the quote by the author Ray Bradbury about how you have to jump from the cliff and build your wings on the way down.
Well done for making that leap and I'm wishing you a ton of success for the future!
Build Your Wings
By Stacey Curnow on Tuesday, 07/27/2010 at 9:02 AMHello dear Amy!
Thanks so much for your kind comment! I didn't know the Bradbury quote and I love it! Thanks so much for sharing it, and be sure to let us know how "building your wings" goes for you!!! Much love, Stacey
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Congratulations on book being published
By Patricia Singleton (not verified) on Tuesday, 07/27/2010 at 8:06 AMStacey, congratulations on your book being published. I look forward to buying it, reading it and passing it on to my grandchildren.
My number one success in my life has nothing to do with a business. It has to do with my recovery efforts from being an incest survivor and living my life fully. My success in life comes from learning to love myself. This has been the major change that has brought joy and contentment into my life. It has brought about the change from victim to survivor to thriver. My blog represents that success for me. In speaking out and telling others about my experiences with incest and recovery, I am moving further and further away from being a victim and with my sharing, I am helping others to do the same. That is my success story in this lifetime.
From Victim to Survivor to Thriver!
By Stacey Curnow on Tuesday, 07/27/2010 at 8:59 AMHello dear Patricia!
Thank you SO much for sharing your success with us! I absolutely love that recovering from incest was your greatest success - and learning to love yourself was the key to it.
It's so interesting - my wish for my child's "success" is that he loves himself and trusts his heart. But then when I think of my own definition of success it gets more complicated.
Still, too often, I look for the external "trappings" of success (the publishing contract, making money in my business, a vacation) and I will remember your insights when I feel discouraged.
Thanks, again, dear Patricia, for sharing your insights and shining your light in the world - particularly in the dark places. Much love, Stacey
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Congratulations
By Laurie Erdman on Tuesday, 07/27/2010 at 7:32 AMStacey,
Thank you for sharing your story. And congratulations on your baby. You an inspiration.
I've recently made a similar leap before looking when signing up for a year long training program to be a holistic health coach. It certainly wasn't a linear career decision, and I had doubts. My practical brain counseled to wait. But 3 weeks ago I was moved to action. Common sense be damned, my heart was in control here. When I received my materials and started listening to the lessons, I knew I had made the right decision for me. I now realize that I had been - as you say - haunted by my interest and passion about health, nutrition, food and wellness. I was finally doing something about it.
Since I still suffer from doubt, especially when I tell people of my plans, I take solace in hearing similar stories.
Thank you,
Laurie Erdman
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The Heart Is in Control
By Stacey Curnow on Tuesday, 07/27/2010 at 8:42 AMHello dear Laurie!
Thanks so much for your kind comment! I especially appreciate that you shared some of your doubts as you embark on a grand, new adventure - headed for your dream of being a holistic health coach.
It's funny, before reading your comment I left a comment at *your* post today. I shared that I, too, continue to have doubts and fears as I leap. (Or as Lissa would call them, "Pleaps!") So far I have found the old Zen saying, "Leap and the net will appear." to be true - but still the doubts. Luckily it's getting easier to meet the doubts with acceptance for what they are - just feelings, nothing more, nothing less - and they tend to pass quickly. The support and encouragement of all the Pinkies helps tremendously, of course.
I love how you wrote that your heart is in control - for sure, it is the finest compass for navigating the path to our dreams and our best lives. Thanks again for sharing! Much love, Stacey
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