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The Pause In Perimenopause

Melanie Bates's picture

Oh. Dear. God. Above…

I think I’m having hot flashes.

Is it menopause? Perimenopause? Just-o’-pause?

Come on baby, light my fire?

I’ve never worried about the “change of life” before. Ever. I mean I’ve actually looked forward to it after years of Stage IV Endometriosis and cramps that have left me crying; cuddled in the corner like Baby on crack. But, that was before I knew I was going to be pushed up to the very razor’s edge of spontaneous combustion.

It was definitely before I knew I was going to burst into flames at any possible second.

It was most assuredly before I knew that the blazing inferno inside of my body was going to reach the surface temperature of the sun about eight times a day with no warning.

Picture it…

I’m sitting there watching reruns of Frasier, cuddling with the Kr8z, eating Big Hunks, and suddenly I feel this warmth in my torso that quickly turns hotter and hotter and spreads throughout my whole body until I’m gasping from panic and lack of oxygen. I’m afraid to open my mouth to let in any cool air because I’ve watched Backdraft about a million times so I know better.

I’m not sweating profusely or anything so there is that. But I am waking up a couple times a night and my yellow Dr. Seuss “One Fish, Two Fish” pajamas have melded to my body like molten gold. I lay there panting with So-Kr8z trying to lick the sweat from inside my mouth. It’s all very Animal Farm meets Suzanne Summers, without her yams, in the Mojave Desert in August.

I always thought that when you went into menopause you’d then graduate to Crone status; you’d be all wise and sage and have this crazy depth. I’m certainly not feeling very wise. Just yesterday I had Cap’n Crunch for dinner.

Picket Signs?

I visited Dr. Google looking for alternatives to hormone replacement. I’m only 42 and my guess is that, due to my endo, I only have one lone ovary up in there and she was probably struggling to keep up with my estrogen demands and went on strike. I can see her brandishing a picket sign painted with neon pink letters that read “Overworked and underpaid.” Or perhaps she jumped off my uterus due to loneliness and splatted to her death. Who knows? But, there is no way I’m going to swallow a single drop of horse pee. Plus, my dearest friend lost her mom due to a blood clot from those drugs and it was heartbreaking.

Unfortunately, my research didn’t uncover much. Some studies have shown flaxseed to be helpful and another study showed that it doesn’t do shit, though apparently it makes you need to shit. Then we have Suzanne’s yams which, apparently, don’t do a damn thing either, plus yams are meant for bathing in brown sugar and butter during Thanksgiving time.

I’m not wholly sure what it all means. Perhaps it’s time to take a pause. Perhaps it’s time to buy a fire extinguisher. I dunno. But… I’d love some tips for unfanning these flames. What works for you, aside from Equus ferus caballus urine? Have you experienced this inner pyromaniac phenom in your body? I’d so love some sage words of advice.

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Dr. Anna Garrett's picture

Perhaps we need to chat...

Hello dear!

Sounds like a case of estrogen dominance! Saliva testing is a quick and easy way to identify your specific imbalance. There are some lifestyle changes that can help. Data on supplements is so-so at best. Acupuncture, yoga, massage and meditation have also been studied on small scales and may be helpful. It is possible to overdo the progesterone cream and worsen your situation...just so ya know ;)

xo,
Dr. Anna

Sarah K.'s picture

Warm..

When asked if I'm comfortable I simply reply that I rarely need a sweater or a heater because the weather forecast in my vicinity show's I'll be enjoying a hormonally induced heat wave. I've used Black Coshosh supplements (night & day ones) and that helped a little.

I rarely sleep with blankets any more. A volunteer cat or Corgi to sleep on my feet is enough to keep them warm while the rest of me steams most of the night.

Ultra heavy periods did cause some frustration--especially since the treatment costed $17,000 and I have no insurance. So--I stay home 2-3 days a month. That's lessening now. It's been 3 years.

Gotta luv this change. Cant wait till it's over.

SK

Melanie Bates's picture

Dearest Sarah...

Hahhahah, love that. Yeah, my weather forecast is definitely the same.

My cycle has been so sporadic I don't know whether I'm coming or going :) and yes, I think I'll be enjoying shorts and no covers all through the winter months.

I'm trying to figure out the deeper meaning behind all of this and will probably blog about it.

Blessings to you, love.
Melanie

Anonymous's picture

I was pushed into menopause

I was pushed into menopause by chemo at 43, so it has been intense. I can not take hormones. Dr. prescribed neurontin. It is a nerve suppressant. Helps with hot flashes, and that helps me sleep. Good luck.

Melanie Bates's picture

Wow, Anonymous

I'm sorry to hear that, but am happy you've found something to help. I'll check into that as well - so appreciate your writing to me.

xoxo
Melanie

J. Lang's picture

Supplements and Humor

Oh my goodness, this was the most humorous thing I have ever read about menopause!! Thank you so much for making me laugh this morning, I truly needed it.

So, menopause for me started around 47, and I'm now 52. My massage therapist (who is more like a mental therapist and is helping me deal with this roller coaster ride we call menopause without hormone replacement) says I have about two more years to go. Yikes!! So here are some of the things that have worked/not worked for me.

I tried progesterone cream during peri-menopause, it did nothing for me. My naturopath kept upping the dose to see if it would help, basically I was smearing that cream almost over my whole body, and still nothing.

I tried testosterone pellets for a while and even though it was supposed to be bio-identical and more healthy, I just didn't feel good about putting something foreign like that in my body. I do feel like it helped balance out my levels a bit though.

What I did find was that after I got on a really good nutritional/vitamin supplement my hot flashes diminished in intensity and frequency, score!! That was four years ago, I no longer even have hot flashes, which may or may not have been the result of the testosterone pellets, not sure. I also remember hearing that when you go through menopause you have difficulty sleeping. One more benefit of the supplements I take is that I sleep really well all through the night.

When I did have the occasional hot flash I found that a drop of peppermint oil at the base of my neck helped to cool things off a bit. You could also put it on the back of your neck, and inhale deeply. Peppermint is so refreshing and uplifting, love it!

I also take three other supplements that have made a huge difference. DIM Complex by Metabolic Maintenance is amazing. It is Diindolylmethane w/ CoFactors and it is a "synergistic combination of nutrients that enhance estrogen metabolism, which helps to maintain healthy estrogen levels". So basically it is not a hormone replacement, it just helps to balance out your hormones. I can really tell a difference in my moods when I run out. I also like Evening Primrose Oil, I have found the Jarrow brand to work the best. While studies have not proven that it is effective for the relief of menopausal symptoms, I personally can feel a difference. The third supplement I take is a phytoestrogen complex. "Phytoestrogens are compounds found in plants that have similar properties to estrogen produced in the body". It also helps to "balance and support normal hormone levels by binding with estrogen receptors in cells", and it may help with "supporting healthy bones, heart, breast tissue and other body structures and functions".

Yoga is a great idea, and I would also suggest finding a really good lymphatic massage therapist and going on a regular basis. It can really help to keep everything else in balance, plus who doesn't love a good massage, right?

So, there you have it. I buy the DIM online. Just do a google search on Metabolic Maintenance DIM. You can find the Jarrow Evening Primrose oil at any good health food or Whole Foods store. If you are interested in where I get my peppermint oil, vitamin/mineral supplements and the phytoestrogen just let me know. I don't want to appear as if I'm trying to promote or sell products on this site.

I think the best thing you have going for you is your sense of humor! It will help you get through this better than most. A good positive attitude always helps, and trust me you will need it! Thanks again for brightening up my morning. Loved, loved this post!
Hope my reply was helpful.

Melanie Bates's picture

Wowza, J Lang...

So, so, so helpful. Thank you. I may be reaching out for more questions :) Thank you so much for taking the time to write all this out for me. I'll definitely be looking into it. And... thank you for your kind words. I do hope my humor helps. The other day someone on Facebook said they think about their hot flashes as "power surges". I thought, "Wow, yeah, that really fits where I am in my life right now." I feel myself coming into a power I've never really known. Perhaps I won't need anything, medically, perhaps I'll just need to fully own my power. And... I need to stop watching Backdraft.

xoxo
Melanie

Allison Crow's picture

Power surges

Well...that's funny. My POWER SURGES are always between my legs and under my boobs.

Melanie Bates's picture

You crack me up, Allison...

I'm not sure that I've had power surges before now, but that would be the place to have them.

J. Lang's picture

Hooray for Power Surges!

I had heard that phrase as well. There is a reason why it is called "The Change", because you truly are changing and evolving and becoming something so different. I like to picture it as the emergence of a butterfly from it's cocoon. Now, if I can just survive the claustrophobic cocoon, I'm hoping to emerge as a beautiful, wise butterfly.

Melanie Bates's picture

Ah...J.

You're already the most beautiful butterfly.

J. Lang's picture

Thank You

Aww, thanks so much. Happy to help.

Adriana's picture

Fantastic tips!

Thank you for that post! Do you mind if I quote some of your suggestions and share them with our Facebook community here in Toronto? We could sure use your wisdom!
https://www.facebook.com/BodyScienceMedical

J. Lang's picture

Share Away

Feel free to share away Adriana. I love helping people, so if you think my comments are helpful then please do share them. And feel free to contact me if you need more information or if you have questions.

Adriana's picture

How about BHRT? definitely not horse pee

BioIdentical Hormones are NOT the same as HRT, BioIdenticals have the same chemical structure than your body's own natural hormones and depending on your hormonal levels it might just be what you need to take the edge off of things at least until your own levels stabilize.
There are other things you can do (yoga, exercise in general, a low fat diet, flax seed, etc etc) and we've been blogging about them for a bit - I invite you to check it out :)
http://www.bodysciencemedical.com/category/menopause/
For hot flashes... avoid triggers like caffeine, spicy food, hot environments like saunas, alcohol and stress.
Hope this helps!

Melanie Bates's picture

Dear Adriana

Thank you so much, love! It does help indeed. I'll definitely check out your site.

xoxo
Melanie

Anonymous's picture

take a deep breath!

I'm so sorry you're uncomfy!

Three things that have worked for me are yoga(calm body and mind), reduce sugar intake (cool off the body) and progesterone cream (made from sweet potatoes to balance out hormone surges).

I hope this helps! I've also found asking at the health food store for help can yield other excellent suggestions.

Melanie Bates's picture

Dear Anonymous...

Thank you so much, love. I've been receiving inner whisperings regarding yoga so I need to just lay off the Frasier and Big Hunks and go and I'm on the hunt for progesterone cream. The sugar... again, lay off the Big Hunks :) Thanks again!

Blessings to you,
Melanie

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