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Three Tips To Attract Abundance

Bethany Butzer's picture

Three Tips To Attract Abundance

A while back I went on a spontaneous Thursday night road trip with my husband. We packed towels, water and sunscreen, and drove to a nearby lake to escape from the heat of the day. We were met with a scene of beauty. The beach was almost empty, the water was lapping gently against the shore, and the sun was beginning its decent into the horizon.

After laying on the beach for a while we decided to go for a swim. The lake was calm, cool and wonderfully refreshing. As we dried off I was struck by the abundance surrounding us and awed by the fact that mother nature provides so much beauty for free. The trees, the breeze, the birds, the sights, the smells and sounds of a beautiful summer evening. And none of it cost us a penny.

I was reminded of a lovely poem by Hafiz:

Even after all this time
the sun never says to the earth, "You owe Me."
Look what happens with a love like that,
It lights up the Whole Sky.

Infinite Abundance

What I realized in that moment is that I am infinitely abundant. Society has tried to convince me that I'm only as abundant as the dollar amount in my bank account - but this is utterly false. Think about it. What is money? It's a piece of paper to which we arbitrarily assign value. In fact, most of the money in your bank account isn't even there. It gets loaned out to other people almost as soon as you deposit it.

Stop letting your monthly bank statement dictate your sense of worth.

No matter how much money you have in the bank right now, you are abundant - just take a look around you.

Billy Corgan, lead singer of The Smashing Pumpkins, put it this way: "Everything I want is free." In other words, all of the things that you want to bring into your life - happiness, joy, peace, beauty, love - none of it costs a cent. The reason you want that new pair of shoes or a nicer car is because of the way you think these objects will make you feel. The good news is that you can evoke these feelings anytime - without having to break the bank.

Why? Because happiness is a choice you make. You can't always choose what happens to you. But you always have a choice about how you react to what happens to you. Viktor Frankl, an Austrian psychiatrist who was imprisoned in a concentration camp during World War II put it perfectly:

“When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.”

My point? No matter what's going on for you right now, you can choose to feel abundant. The best part is that this feeling will actually attract more abundance into your life. Like attracts like.

Tips To Tap Into Your Abundance
  1. Shift Perspective. Instead of focusing on your dwindling finances, pay attention to what you already have. We live in a society of over-consumption. Everything on TV and in the media leads us to believe that we need more, more, more. But I bet you already have more than enough. The fact that you're reading this right now means you have access to the internet and a computer - which is far more than many people have. The next time you buy a coffee, say a silent prayer of thanks for the fact that you have enough change to enjoy your favorite latte. Notice the abundance all around you. Nature is full of examples - there are an abundance of leaves on each tree, an abundance of water in each lake, an abundance of warmth from one ray of sunlight. You don't need a porsche to feel rich.
  2. Give Back. One of the best things you can do when you feel a sense of lack is to spend time helping someone who is worse off than you. You could volunteer at a homeless shelter, or donate to your favorite charity. If you're really low on funds, you might simply send a loving email to someone you care about. Sites like Facebook provide us with a lot of opportunities to see what our friends are up to - and get jealous about it. Instead of feeling envious about your best friend's pictures from her Hawaiian vacation, take a deep breath, wish your friend all of the goodness and abundance that you want for yourself, and then "like" her photo album.
  3. Be Grateful. Every morning I take 2-5 minutes to sit in stillness with my hands on my heart and say, out loud, what I'm grateful for. I do this when I'm sick, tired, and grumpy. I do it when I'm busy and feel like I don't have enough time. I do it when I feel like I don't have anything to be grateful for - because I can always find something. Starting my morning from a place of gratitude really sets the tone for the rest of the day. Usually, my gratitude list goes something like this:

"Universe, thank-you for the beauty that exists in my life. Thank-you for my health and well-being, for my senses that allow me to see the sky, feel the rain, smell the flowers. Thank-you for the amazing relationships that surround me. Thank-you for providing me with all of the financial abundance that I need. (I say this even when I feel broke). Thank-you for continuing to guide me on a path that is of the highest service to me and to the world. (I say this even when I feel lost). Thank-you for the roof over my head and the fantastic food that I get to enjoy every day. Thank-you for this blessed, blessed life."

Get Involved

Here's what I want you to do. Write your gratitude list in the comments section below. Or better yet, post your list on my Facebook page. I want to hear from you! What are you grateful for right now? Know that by putting this gratitude out into the universe, you will attract even more positivity into your life.

To quote again from Viktor Frankl:

“Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms - to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.”

What do you choose? Abundance or lack?

Bethany Butzer, Ph.D. is an author, speaker, researcher and yoga teacher who helps people create a life they love. Check out her book, The Antidepressant Antidote, follow her on Facebook and Twitter and join her whole-self health revolution here.


Jessyka's picture

I'm grateful for this post to

I'm grateful for this post to remind of the unending blessings and kindness I receive daily.

Allison T's picture

I'm unbelievably rich, with or without a big bank account!

I'm very grateful for a healthy strong body, brimming with enough energy to carry me to mountain overlooks in just hiking boots, strong enough to support me in my studies, resilient enough to overcome occasional couch-potato days (even tho I do know better).

I'm so grateful to have been born in a time & place where women are considered citizens, not chattel. That there are no honor killings in my society, thaty vocation was not decided for me on 4th grade, that I was not plunked into an arranged marriage, that I have the right to decide where to live.

I'm so very grateful that I have the privilege of visiting hundreds of great museums to enjoy exposure to the world's best artists, inventors, naturalists & explorers. Grateful for the ability to freely visit other cities & nations to absorb the highlights of their culture. Very grateful for my intense curiosity, which means that the world is chock full of fascinating things & information, many of which I'm still anticipating (aurora borealis, fireflies, the taste of kimchi, playing a guitar, driving a bobcat).

Delightedly grateful for affectionate snuggles from purring kitties, sensual cuddling from my sweetie, luxurious foot rubs & full body massages, the physical oblivion of multiple O's, bliss of winter sunlight on my back, the refreshment of evaporative cooling in summer, the outrageous pleasure of a belly laugh, & the simple little-kid happiness of savoring a fudgsicle. Deeply grateful for the transporting power of a gifted vocalist, the feel of a ladybug crawling over the back of my hand, the sensation of "good tired" after a real workout, the rush of excitement from seeing a love note left on the bathroom mirror.

Also profoundly grateful for my intellect, which is powering my path toward a career change into medicine. Grateful to my parents for encouraging me -- for not only showing me solid examples of how to make education a lifelong passion but for urging me to ask open-ended questions every day, especially "why?" What a gift!!! Also quite grateful for the relative accessibility (it's an imperfect system, but still) of education thru the community college networking, where I can learn welding, Spanish, psychology, or art history -- or all of the above.

Deeply grateful for certain creature comforts (there's my feet of clay!): hot showers on demand, big lush house plants, sparkly hair clips, grand marnier souffle for lunch, portable DVD players, flannel-lined sleeping bags, milk chocolate chips instead of semi-sweet in my cookies(that's pretty picky, I admit), a great heating system in my car that blows straight on my feet, breadmakers with timers that finish baking at 6:30am (the most welcome alarm ever!), holiday cookie exchanges (bake once, eat many kinds -- that's genius), paperback books that fit into my purse so I never have to waste the time spent in a long line, amazon.com (to satisfy my book addiction), cruel girl x-long jeans that cover my giraffe legs down to the ankle bones (sigh!!), loofah face-scrubbing circles with tea tree oil cleanser, cheesecake of every flavor, hot tea in winter, green apple hard candy that makes my saliva glands explode, lily of the valley perfume, new razors to get my legs sexy smooth, warm fuzzy socks, a fresh pedicure, scented lotion to perpetuate my after-shower suppleness, inexpensive & safe cosmetics to support my feminine vanity, cheap back-to-school supplies like colored pens & pencils, cute workout gear (ok, so now you all know I'm shallow in places!), foo-foo drinks from drive-thru coffee places & juice smoothie stands, the exquisite taste of roasted everything at those south American BBQ restaurants (rings my taste buds' bell every time), semi-precious stone jewelry that makes me feel like a million, a cutesy backpack that makes me feel sporty & grown up, & the delicious sweaty eye candy all over the screen in "Troy" (and now you know just how unapolagetically shallow I am!)

Point being, wherever I look, there's a reason for gratitude!! Mmmm!

Anonymous's picture

laptop, hematite stones, mom,

laptop, hematite stones, mom, clean drinking water, tequila, autumn air, health, Frida Kahlo, the moon, eyeglasses to see the world clearly...

Bethany's picture


Your post resonates with me! Even on my grumpy days I have to admit there is SO MUCH I've been given! When my parents grew up, middle class meant you had a car. ONE car! I look around at my life and I have so much, that my parent's parents would have considered me RICH. And I truly do consider myself rich, and getting more rich every day. Abundance is everywhere just like you said. My husband sold his toolbox yesterday so I could buy myself jeans....
That's abundance on so many levels I can't count them all! :)

Anonymous's picture

My new found peace. Each

My new found peace. Each person that has touched my life in each way. My home. Myself. The possibilities. My health and the health if my beautiful family. The source.

Suzi's picture

My gratitude list

The strength of my children, the outside beauty of this time of year, the unending love of my dogs, my oldest friend, my job, the ability to run, the ability to ask for help when I need it, knowing that abundance exists and influences my life.

Anita's picture

gratitude list

this photo in front of me, the memories of seeing friends, this current calmness, the steps i have already taken in life, the energy to take more steps, love, joy - when it wells up and stays flowing, inspiration, not worrying about what "they" think, this ability to be grateful.

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