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Tuning In

Following on from the discussion in my last blog piece about what role a mentor should have in a person’s life, I have also been considering what makes a good healer. Of course a lot of the same ethical principles apply, but a healing practitioner may not be someone you have an ongoing connection with, so before the consultation it is a good plan to have some idea of where they are coming from and how they work.

Whether their modality is conventional or not, the best healers rely on instinct to some degree, and their ability to use this talent responsibly is of the utmost importance, especially if they could be classed as “psychic”. This most potent form of intuition shows up at one end of the spectrum as an ability to perceive details of a client’s life without the subject having communicated very much in words. We all read subtle body language to an extent, but sometimes what a practitioner – or anyone else – knows seems to go way beyond that.

So how does this work? I reckon we humans are multi-dimensional beings, and that a part of us exists outside time and space. Our linear left-brain responds to what is quantifiable, but our right brain has a more fluid, all-encompassing vision, and can make any number of meaningful, “synchronistic” connections, tapping into information we could not glean by rational means.

If the only thing we were taught at school was to trust ourselves above anyone who claims to know more about us (or our bodies!!) than we do, we would all be gold medallists in the game of life – monumentally empowered. Of course it can feel super magical to be understood by another person so effortlessly, because like I said in my last article, everyone has blind spots. But it’s crucial to remember that just because a healer – or anyone else – may know intimate things about you without having been told, it doesn’t mean that their interpretation of what is causing a particular issue or what you should do about it are necessarily accurate or helpful. Truth is relative – and another person’s truth may not necessarily be in alignment with your truth; it simply may not resonate with you.

Magic or mayhem?

The trouble is that once someone has put an idea into your head, it can be very hard to get it out again. I don’t mean to suggest that any harm caused is intentional, but it does beg the crucial question: what is the practitioner’s point of reference?

The thing is that there are so many different frequencies to be tuned into, and a person can be “receiving” more than one at the same time. Never was I more aware of this than when I used to smoke marijuana. In a stoned state I was able to see any problem from a detailed, cohesive point of view. But disconcertingly, this always clashed with another equally complete and compelling explanation I came across five minutes later. The only differentiating factor was the degree of optimism in each scenario’s underlying premise – it’s all about perspective.

Like I said in my last article, no matter how aware we believe we are, all humans have filters driven by unconscious issues which we project onto our external reality. So I reckon that as any kind of healing practitioner you need to be doing your own ongoing inner work to stay abreast of what is happening in your own being as well. Because otherwise, these filters are extremely likely to influence the way you perceive – and communicate about – the challenges your client is faced with. And even if you are responding to issues and disempowering viewpoints already in your client’s psyche, sowing further seeds of fear can only compound what is already there and is very irresponsible.

I think the future is very fluid, and that it is any healer’s job to lead their client to the most uplifting version of it. So if you are one of the countless folk who have some talent for attuning to another person’s psyche, then I reckon you need to be devoted to a glass-half-full kind of inner radio station, and have an inclination to frame things in a positive, problem-solving, “moving forward” kind of way. Indeed, this muscle needs quiet, persistent and preferably drug-free strengthening to be reliable.

If the shoe is on the other foot and you are consulting a healer, it is crucial to be discerning about what you open yourself up to. Because the channels you elect to listen to will, over time and distance, profoundly affect the amount of faith and joy which is woven into the fabric of your most foundational beliefs about life.

What experience and insights do you have around being a healer or client? Please share your comments and stories here!

Emma French


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Merri Beacon's picture

Well written!

Yes, Emma, I totally relate to this post as well!

What I did with my own hypnotherapy clients to avoid my own ego was to give them a choice wherever possible. When we came to a fork in the road during the hypnojourney, say they needed help from a guide, I'd suggest they bring in a helper, someone they trust in their life or a spiritual guide. So it wasn't my belief system getting plastered on their psyche. I also envisioned divine help between us, like a triangle of energies, mine, the client's, and divine help at the top. Even with all that, it's a tricky business!

I am lucky that my own therapist has stellar boundaries. I did go see a shamanic practitioner several times who was quite gifted. But she disclosed things about other clients which I thought was unprofessional. It put me in an awkward position as her client.

Did you ever see the delightful film "Lars and the Real Girl"? It's about a man who creates his own healing hypnojourney and the entire village collaborates and supports his vision. So inspiring….and so are YOU! Bright blessings to you and thank you for posting this link on our creativity support site so I could read your writing here. xo M

Emma French's picture

Good ideas

Hello Merri
Thanks for your kind words. I like your methods of holding space - it sounds like you were acting as a bridge between spirit and your clients.
Yes, I too have moved away from good healers who have spoken in a negative way about others, or about their own problems in a non-uplifting way - holding a positive space is so important.
I love "Lars and the Real Girl" - such an inspiring film! It really takes the idea of "acting as if" to a whole new level...
Em x

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Thankyou Emma - a great article. I totally agree.
I reckon, because body and mind are both self-healing mechanisms, the role of the healer is to nurture that process in another. To empower. Not to bandy knowledge around willy-nilly.

Emma French's picture

Thanks Malcolm. Yes, so often

Thanks Malcolm. Yes, so often knowledge is presented as fact, but it is so subjective!

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