
I felt it shelter to speak to you.
- Emily Dickinson
We gather in a group to be witnessed, to be supported, and to be both equalized and elevated in our struggles, gifts and ambitions. Common ground is very fertile ground -- it is, what Emerson calls, “...the common heart of which all sincere conversation is worship.” Where two or more are joined with the same intention, grace intensifies and solutions multiply. Belongingness heals and nourishes with its affirmative recognition that we are not alone. Simultaneously, we are able to experience our unity and our uniqueness.
Who hears you? Whose greatness do you foster in return?
It's essential to have a posse. I have my "Goddesses", five of us who meet almost monthly with one purpose: to tell each other what's really going on in our lives. We're a mismatched gang that began when one woman said, "I'm having a potluck of cool chicas next week, whoever shows up, shows up." It was just the five of us who made it -- some of us already friends, some of us new to each other, and it was clear at the end of our first night together that we had to do more of this. And in just two years of homemade soups and dessert and other bubbly things, we've gone through life-altering decisions, marriage melt downs, new babies, business epics, world travels, heart wrenching loss, and amazing successes. We would move mountains to help each other. I love knowing that we happened by intention and by serendipity.
Support groups don't have to be your "tribe." You don't need to match, you don't need to have history. You just need one common intention: to support each other. If you don't have that group in place, go make one. There are most definitely other people looking to join.
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Danielle LaPorte is the creator of WhiteHotTruth.com, which has been called "the best place on-line for kick-ass spirituality." She is the author of The Fire Starter Sessions: A Digital Experience for Entrepreneurs. You can find her on Twitter @daniellelaporte. Proceeds from the purchase of The Fire Starter Sessions go to Owning Pink! Click here to check it out.
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Love creating spaces
By Christa Avampato on Monday, 09/06/2010 at 4:05 AMHi Danielle,
I love this post! Our lives really are about making spaces where we can bring people together, to support them, encourage them, and share with them. It's incredible how healing a supportive group can be for every area of our lives. Thanks so much for this post. Just started following your twitter feed, too, and I love it!
Christa
Covered in Goosebumps
By Megan Monique (not verified) on Sunday, 09/05/2010 at 6:11 AMWith goosebumps and tears I am so grateful for this post! It really got me present to what The Pink Posse of Dallas is for me. The group started as the participants of my journaling workshop and quickly turned into a monthly meeting of women doing things outside of their comfort zone and learning more about one another. Each event we have one new member. It is an incredible progression. Next month we will have been meeting for a year and average about 25 ladies per event. Every meet up is a time for healing, learning and growing no matter what we are doing. I am so in love with my ladies.
If you are reading this and live in Dallas Texas- come check out one of our events. http://www.mypinkroadmap.com/index.html