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Why Stepping Out Of Your Box Makes The World A Better Place

Hillary Rubin's picture

Maybe you’ve read a mountain of self-help books. Maybe you’ve taken in-depth seminars and headed out on remote retreats. Maybe you’re a butt-kickin yogi, hard at work on your energy blockages.

You’ve healed, prayed, and are on the road to making the world an even better place.

But… maybe something’s missing. Maybe, despite all outward appearances, you still find yourself trapped by outside opinion. You can feel yourself still crammed into that little box.

That box is – getting stuck at a job that pays well but doesn’t satisfy you.
That box is – fear that if you want something too hard, you’ll never get it.
That box is – that voice in your head that tells you you’re just not capable.
…and these are just the patterns I see most often in my clients. The full list of boxes would stretch on for days.

When you wake up and realize you’re being taken over by something other than your TRUTH do this - Stop avoiding the sensations & emotions - FEEL them.

Give yourself permission to shift into this way of experiencing.

Feel first. Then think.

This kind of awareness is crucial. Listen & get to know yourself. What makes you feel bad? Why? What makes you feel good and in alignment with the universe?

Let’s get real here: you are smart, capable, unique and have big dreams. But there’s just that one question that’s pulling on your pant leg. It’s what’s keeping you from moving forward with actionable steps.

Do you BELIEVE in YOURSELF?

It’s not who you are that holds you back, it’s who you think you’re not – Anon. [Click Here to Tweet]

You have to be ready to leave that box that says “You can’t,” because if you don’t… no one will.

When you own that “box” and then step out into the life wearing your BELIEF stillettos, Uggs or platforms, the world gets a whole lot brighter.

A world that you want. A world that you dream of. A world only you can create.

Keep in mind: when you start to believe in yourself, some folks may give you a hard time. We love when children dream, but when we do this as adults it can make some outsiders uncomfortable.

And what does this create? More boxes…

That box is: You start shrinking to make others feel better.
That box is: You don’t trust others because you’ve been burned.
That box is: You’re playing it safe... and hating every moment.

This way of living causes you to struggle, get tangled, and live your life in hiding. What do you say when you see your friends do this? Shake them up, right?
Stepping out can be bit scary…

… but you can choose to reframe that “fear” and make it fuel. Lead by example. Maybe someone is looking to you to take the first step so they can give themselves permission to do the same.

How does that make you feel? Get in touch with that truth. See in your mind’s eye all those people suffering in their boxes too. It wakes you up, doesn't it?

Looking for motivation? Here’s a soulful way to do it…

So what’s the secret ingredient to actualizing your dreams? Willpower. Will squelches your fear. Stop telling yourself “No.”

And keep in mind - the more you do it, the more natural it becomes.

Befriending fellow box-busters and surrounding yourself with like-minded people will accelerate your journey to no end (not to mention you’ll have a whole lot more fun…).

Playing it safe is your parents’ game.

You’ve already broken out of plenty of boxes when you realized they weren’t for you. If you want to bring your vision, dream, book or any other creation into the world, you’ve gotta start busting out.

You may be holding onto those boxes - that’s your ego trying to keep you safe.Be grateful, but release them now, and open up to a new, expansive you. One that owns your place in the world.

Pay attention: when you do this, you become part of the minority… but you’re helping to make it a majority.

Without you, there are more people taken over by their fear. This is no way to be part of the shift. Take the road to being part of the solution.

Comments

Purple Dreamer's picture

Thank you

Wow. This article is SO timely for me. I mean, it's as if you have been listening in on my therapy sessions lately, rather eerie, if you ask me. I appreciate the way you outlined the steps to start dismantling said box, combatting fear and ego. I used a very similar quote today about fear being the thing that holds us back. It reminds me very much of the whole "our deepest fear" passage by Marianne Williamson, something to this day I still struggle to read without tears.

Thank you for another great post!

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