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Aphrodites, Goddess of Love & Beauty

Sometime between the birth of my first child & perimenopause, I missed the memo: Stupid Euphemisms for Vagina.

Young Woman Doing Well By Doing Good

I had the pleasure of chatting with a young woman recently who is living an amazing life and doing amazing things for a truly innovative organization here in D.C. called DC Central Kitchen.

I’ve been thinking about time a lot lately. Specifically:

Where has it all gone?
How can I get more of it?
Why’s it moving so damn fast?
I have none.
Is it really possible to bend it? (Keep reading.)

Walking away

Allow me to set the scene:

I’m talking to a client who has recently broken up with an amazing guy who worshiped the ground she floated over.

“Why did you walk away from him?”

“I don’t know, ” she said mystified and withdrawn.

“Could it be because you were afraid of having what you wanted?” I offered.

Lightbulb. Yes, that’s it.

Self sabotage is a bitch. And she’ll cost you.

We reach for self sabotage when we fear our own empowerment.

We think it’s easier to stay where we are.

To dig our heels in + keep carrying on in the same ol’ comfortable

(yet most likely unempowered) way.

Why?

Because subconsciously we perceive ‘staying put’ as less painful than erecting + nurturing a new (more rich, more vibrant ) mindset.

Why?
Change can = pain.

So why push forward any.way. you can?
Because it’s worth it.

Know with every fiber of your being that what you want the most: the relationship, the career, the body, the chance – all lie on the other side of your willingness to change.

Analyze your motivations; get curious.
Why are you afraid to have what you want most?
Why are you NOT leaning in?
Curiosity packs the power to move you forward.
Let it.

Refuse and the long term pain of sabotage has the potential to dismantle you. To rob you of who you seek to be; of where you aspire to ascend to.

Self-sabotage will snatch from your clutches:

relationships

careers

progress

body

purpose

confidence

hope

curiosity

dedication

clarity

cash flow

kindness

equilibrium

communication

aspiration

commitment

regard
connection

How to you stop self-sabotage in its tracks:

When you feel yourself edging out of your comfort zone (and then panicking and wanting to return to The Known), take a deep breath and remember: you’re not going to die.
When you find yourself engaging in sabotaging behavior – dating ‘Bad Boys,’ skipping the gym, missing deadlines, not returning the call, email, text – ask yourself “Is this getting me closer to where I want to go?”

When you’re avoiding The Hard Work you have to do to get where you want to go – the tough conversations, the long hours, the early morning workouts – say “I love myself enough to do this.”

Shelve your fear, loosen your shackles and desire a life of satisfaction more than you begrudge change; more than the pain of discovery and the responsibility of awareness.

And then act.

BE MORE BY DOING LESS: REMOVING THE DISTRACTION OF BUSYNESS

re“It’s not enough to be busy. So are the ants. The question is: What are we busy about?” ~Henry David Thoreau

Growing up I didn’t think much of myself. I grew up poor, and spent much of my childhood alone. My father wasn’t around and my mother worked full-time, so I had to look out for myself from a very young age. This created emotional baggage, which I carried for many years.

How to Be Your Own Civil Rights Leader: Three Ways to Take Inspiration from the Legends

If you support marriage equality, you probably recognize that every human being should enjoy the same rights and privileges. Period. Have you ever thought about that in reference to your own internal community? Are there aspects of your personality that cause you pain, jealousy, guilt, sadness? Would you just rather ignore them, because they make you feel uncomfortable?

Ghosts

I have a ghost lurking in my closet. Honestly, I’ve got more than one. There’s a few hovering in the shed, a cluster under our guest bed and tubs full of the little buggers in the attic. Cleaning them out will be more than a weekend project; it feels closer to extermination. That’s why I’ve been avoiding it.

Cancer

About two years ago a good friend of mine woke up with a very swollen belly, out of nowhere.

Later that night she was told she had stage 4 ovarian cancer.

secret garden

Every deep spirit teacher I come across writes in their own enlightened way about suffering and commonplace misery as stemming largely from fighting and resisting the reality of our life. Most all of the analogies boil down to banging our heads repeatedly and wailingly against the brick wall of the present day, while we get angrier by the minute with each resounding bang at the meanness, cruelty, and inflexibility of the wall in front of us.

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Vaginaphobia: Stupid Euphemisms For Pussy Are Junk

Young Woman Doing Well By Doing Good

There's Not Enough Time (& Other Crackpot Illusions)

Self Sabotage Is A Bitch

Self sabotage is a bitch. And she’ll cost you.

Because subconsciously we perceive ‘staying put’ as less painful than erecting + nurturing a new (more rich, more vibrant ) mindset.

Self-sabotage will snatch from your clutches:

How to you stop self-sabotage in its tracks:

Be More By Doing Less: Removing The Distraction Of Busyness

re“It’s not enough to be busy. So are the ants. The question is: What are we busy about?” ~Henry David Thoreau

How To Be Your Own Civil Rights Activist

How to Be Your Own Civil Rights Leader: Three Ways to Take Inspiration from the Legends

How To Let Go Of The Ghosts By Letting Go Of Their Stuff

What Would You Do If You Were Told You Were Stage 4?

You're Not Special

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Self sabotage is a bitch. And she’ll cost you.

Because subconsciously we perceive ‘staying put’ as less painful than erecting + nurturing a new (more rich, more vibrant ) mindset.

Self-sabotage will snatch from your clutches:

How to you stop self-sabotage in its tracks:

re“It’s not enough to be busy. So are the ants. The question is: What are we busy about?” ~Henry David Thoreau

How to Be Your Own Civil Rights Leader: Three Ways to Take Inspiration from the Legends

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