In the past few weeks, I’ve heard several stories from accomplished people about how glad they were that something they really wanted didn’t work out. In all three cases, the “failure” of the first opportunity opened a window for something else far more rewarding and life-altering.

For many women, the decision to tell people that they’re having trouble getting pregnant is a challenging and brave one. As I learned the hard way, the ensuing conversations are so often fraught with peril – pet theories, unsolicited advice, the disappointment of loved ones – that it often seems less painful to keep the feelings to ourselves or to our partners (who are also emotionally drained and often even more reluctant to share their feelings). But instead of isolation, there can be another option: support. From you. It sounds easy, right? So why does it backfire? And what can you do?

A few weeks ago, Pinkie Pattie Lee wrote a fabulous letter to her 20 year-old self that inspired many of our writers to chime in and send words of wisdom and guidance to their younger selves as well (check out these fabulous posts from Kim and Leslee!). Today Suzanne joins the bunch with her insightful (and hilarious) advice -- and maybe the next time we're in traffic, we can all learn a little something...

Every time I get sick, I promise myself that I’ll never take a healthy day for granted again. I vow to be mindful of how much energy is coursing through my body or how clear my head is. This usually lasts for a week or so. But when I lost my mojo last year, I took a similar vow to appreciate the mojo when I got it back, and this one has stuck.