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What's Up Down There? Awakening Sexuality

Lissa Rankin's picture

Happy Friday, Pinkies! This video is from a recent speaking engagement I did on my fall book tour to promote What's Up Down There? Questions You'd Only Ask Your Gynecologist If She Was Your Best Friend. My favorite part of these events is taking questions from the audience -- check out the clip below where I answer some awesome questions about embracing femininity and sexuality in healthy and empowering ways.

So how do you embrace YOUR sexuality? Do you feel sexually repressed? What was your "first offense" - the first time you learned that your body was "different"? Do you talk about these topics with your girlfriends, moms, sisters, and daughters?

Still nuturing my "pole kisses",


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littlephoenix's picture

Thank you for this post

It resonates with me. I've lately been trying to figure out how to get back into my physical self--it seems like I've been disconnected for so long. It's hard, though.

As I've been thinking about this topic lately, I was thinking about this guy in one of my science classes a number of years ago. We were getting ready to do group presentations, and he said to me "When you get up there, you should do a sexy dance. I'll give you a dime. Come on, you obviously need the money". It makes me feel so dirty and objectified to even think about that.

I'm kind of worried to even post this for fear that my interpretation of my experience will offend someone who finds-- for example-- S Factor empowering (and there's nothing wrong with that!) I'm only trying to express how I felt in that moment in class. Maybe people find things like S Factor empowering because it is their *choice* to do so? It was like this guy was trying to set up a situation where he was in control of my ability to choose what I did with my body. I think I'm afraid of my physical self.

Anyway, thanks for letting me ramble and get this stuff out.


Lissa Rankin's picture

Thank you Sophie

I so appreciate the validation. Amen. Nothing wrong with embracing something that makes us women!

Sophie's picture

Thank you!

I am going to repost this video to all my girl friends. What fantastic advice! I love how open and supportive you are of women and femininity. You talking about how it's ok in our society for boys to "play", but not girls, reminds me of a sticker I saw recently and loved. It said "I thought I was acting like a slut, but then I realized I was acting like a man". I'm 41 years old, I love sex and feeling like a woman, and I'm going to grab for all I can get...hehehe!!! Nothing wrong with embracing something that makes us women!

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