
Look at your world: What do you complain about? What ties your heart in a knot? What makes you angry, livid, incensed? What bows you in resignation and sends you to watch reruns of I Love Lucy? (I date myself. Fill in your favorite numb-out comfort.)
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I should take my own advice. Seldom do we do that though. Years ago, a guy I knew bemoaned about an ex who was still his ex. The situation was complicated, although in retrospect it reminds me of a former relationship I was in. I forgot about that at the time when my words to him lacked a bit of grace. As he bemoaned missing her and wanting her and trying to make it work again even though it was MORE than obvious to EVERYONE else that it would NEVER work, I just couldn’t take it anymore.
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“When spring came, even the false spring, there were no problems except where to be happiest. People were always the limiters of happiness except for the very few that were as good as spring itself.” Ernest Hemingway, “A Moveable Feast.”
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We all know how debilitating fear can be right? But it doesn’t have to rule your life! I’ve found that in my own life if I can make friends with my fears, accept that I have them and that they do surface at times, and then to choose to let them go instead of dwell on them—I spend so much more of my life feeling good, safe, and free. I also believe that in order to truly be able to let go of our fear we need to substitute it with something stronger that vibrates at a higher frequency. This is where the faith factor comes into play. The opposite of fear is faith—and choosing faith is far more empowering than choosing fear. So first we become conscious of our fears and then we substitute them with more faith. Although it may sound simple, I can speak from experience that it truly does work!
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Let’s admit it: Life feels crowded. Sometimes the days are so packed with sick kids, work deadlines, to do lists, errands, and exercise, it is as if we are in perpetual sprint—our blenders stuck on fastest puree—with very few slower moving settings in which we can pause to let the breeze of spirit in, to receive the soft sacred influx of this most sage wind.
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Sometimes I just check out of things. And I don’t only mean hotels.
Nope; I mean life. Occasionally I notice this right away – I’ll find myself coming back into a task or conversation like I’ve just been startled awake during a nap. Other times, this process takes longer – it could be hours, days, weeks, months or even (in the past) years.
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You’ve likely heard me speak on the importance of scheduling sex dates.
These are dates designated just for sex: not dinner, a movie or a walk on the beach.
Just sex.
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Where I am sitting right now a motorcycle just revved its engine and an inquisitive squirrel stopped its descent mid-trunk out of fear. The engine has vanished down a curvy road but the squirrel remains still, afraid to shift position. It watches me through the porch screen, wary of the sounds, the vibrations, the rhythm of a life force not quite natural, and when only the wind is left in the wake of the vehicle, the squirrel ripples its tail, as if testing the air for danger, and then dashes down the tree to a patch of lawn, careful to avoid the concrete road.
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