
Do you ever ask for help? Or have you been conditioned to think that asking for help is a sign of weakness? Do you find yourself thinking “I can do it myself” a lot?
I catch myself doing that all the time. And in the next breath I find myself telling other people that we’re all in this together and we can accomplish so much more by working together. Wtf? If I tell others that it’s okay to ask for help, then why don’t I ask for help? And if you’re not the type to ask for help, might I suggest that you do so now. Will you?
I have a recurring thought going on in my head right now. It seems like there is way too much dis-ease and suffering going on in our communities and in the world. And with that is coming a very great strain on the health care systems around the world. The systems are broken and unsustainable at current rates. News flash! I think we can fix it. …
I really do. I actually think the solution is right in front of our eyes. But I need help. This is my call for help, an unapologetic reach out to whoever cares to listen. We often hear the phrase that “it takes a community to raise a child”, well I want to be part of a community. I want to be part of a vibrant, healthy community. Like each member in a community, I will have lots to contribute, and I will receive lots of support from others. We will all be connected in that community, all committed to helping each other in the interests of the greater good for all. We’ll all ask for help when we need it, and give help to others when they need it.
In 2008, life was grand for me. Great family, great friends, money in the bank. Couldn’t get much better. Then I woke up one morning and couldn’t walk to the bathroom. I had a dis-ease. There was no longer a “life of ease” (that’s why I always write the word dis-ease with a hyphen). I was diagnosed with rheumatoid arthritis. I didn’t realize it at the time but this was a huge wake-up call for me. And believe it or not, I often tell people that this was a blessing in disguise. But I’d like to help people “wake up” themselves before they’re given a wake up call.
Since then, I’ve been on an amazing journey. I’ve been in and out of the health care system. I’ve learned some of the trade-offs that are made when each person has to make decisions on their own quality of life. Since I have been diagnosed, I have been inspired by so many people. Dr. Lissa Rankin, Tom Shadyac (I loved the film “I Am” and mention it regularly), Louise Hay, I could go on and on. These people are making a difference. They are also creating vibrant, healthy communities. I’ve already joined their communities.
Can you see yourself as part of a vibrant, healthy community?
One of my fundamental beliefs is that our bodies are capable of healing themselves. When the body starts to become stressed, it gives us messages through aches and pains, twitches, etc. If we listen and respond in kind, the symptoms go away. If we ignore the signs, they worsen and develop further, and if we ignore them long enough, some form of dis-ease will set in. But there are hundreds of stories of spontaneous healing, “miracles” if you will. Our bodies (the mind – body – spirit connection) are truly amazing works of nature. When we set them up in an environment of healing, there is a high success rate of healing.
I also believe that a lot of our problem lies in our subconscious thinking. We have been conditioned to believe that we’re not good enough, we judge ourselves harshly, we have a habit of fearing change, we must live in competition with each other and not in co-operation, we always need more, we live our lives as we think others want to see us as opposed to how we want to live it. And in the end, many people pass over with a series of regrets, wishing they had taken time to smell the roses and attempted something that they just never got around to. A very good friend of mine has started a program based on living life as if you only had 365 days to live. “Live your best life now”. I believe that as we take steps to kick our fears and worries to the curb, we have the opportunity to live our best lives. Once these fears and worries are gone, we have to be less stressed and a lot happier and I actually believe that our bodies will respond (there’s science behind this
, it’s true).
I have been writing blogs for the past several months, encouraging people to look inside themselves and realize that they are actually quite beautiful. I encourage them to shine a light on their fears, and illuminate their own magnificence. My motto is “Enlighten . Empower . Change”.
[Enlighten] – shine a light on your limiting beliefs, illuminate your magnificence
[Empower] – find your Inner Child, don’t be afraid to think your dreams are achievable
[Change] – STEP into your greatness, be all that you can be, live your best life
I believe that the solution to the health care crisis is to have people stop getting sick. And when we do feel unwell, set up the body with an environment for healing. That’s the vibrant, healthy community I want to be part of. We are all connected, we are all in this together. Would you like to be part of that community?
I may have had health issues, abandonment issues, self-worth issues of my own, but I’ve joined a community and I no longer fear taking the next step. I also know that if only one person reads this and it makes a difference for them, then I’ll have made a difference.
Are you #MakingADifference?
“Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed, citizens can change the world. Indeed, it is the only thing that ever has.”
― Margaret Mead
Get involved. Get out of your own way. STEP into your own greatness. Live your best life now. Join a community and make a difference. Make your voice heard. Here’s the link to join ours, join now.
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Namaste, Ken
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I'd like to learn how to ask for help too, Ken!
By Allison Crow (not verified) on Saturday, 06/23/2012 at 9:42 AMKen, this post touched me. I so resonate with the "I need to do it all on my own" mentality. You inspire me to ask for help, to ask for support, to ask for community. You have already been a grand support for me...and I will soppurtive you. Thank you for encouraging me to release the mindset that isolates and separates...and encouraging me to just reach out and ask.
Love, light, and support-
Allison
In fact....I think I'll write a post
By Allison Crow (not verified) on Saturday, 06/23/2012 at 9:48 AMKen, As i sat here and thought about what needed help with, I felt fear and shame and resistance well up--- Again! And then my darling whisper said ,"sweetie, declare it...how about your own post....declaring, and asking the universe and your tribe out loud...." so I will have my own public post-- a ceremony for me, of letting go of the ego and solitude, and stepping into my community.
Thanks again for the inspiration and learning moment.
Bravo Allison
By Ken (not verified) on Saturday, 06/23/2012 at 4:35 PMBravo Allison,
I look forward to your post. And congrats on moving fear to the sidelines. You really are making a difference, and it's quite awesome to take the time to celebrate yourself. Give yourself a great big hug while you're at it. And I look forward to being part of the community with you.
Namaste, Ken
Love it Ken!
By Lissa Rankin on Saturday, 06/23/2012 at 7:44 AMThank you so much for sharing your wisdom here.
Big hugs
Lissa