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Mojo Monday Exercise: Connect Body and Mind Through Sign Dancing

Monday, March 15th, 2010

We’ve all heard about the mind/body connection, that thinking a certain way can affect your body. You can visualize your cancer cells getting eaten up, and it works!  But did you know it also works the other way around?  That you can move your body in a way that affects your mind?  Yoga is a great example of this, but there are other movements that can help heal your mind.  Today, we’re going to try Sign Dancing.

How I Discovered Sign Dancing

I learned this Sign Dance from Rachel Naomi Remen, MD, author of Kitchen Table Wisdom and a woman I deeply admire. In my opinion, Rachel is a living saint.  She works at Commonweal in Bolinas, CA, running retreats for people with cancer and founding The Healer’s Art, a curriculum now taught in most medical schools that teaches medical schools to connect, with their patients and themselves. She’s also single-handedly trying to heal the wounded physicians that make up our broken health care system. Amazing woman- really. Uber Pink Goddess status.

Rachel says she uses this Sign Dance whenever she needs to open her heart.  You can try this simple exercise whenever you’re feeling closed off after a challenging work experience or after a fight with a family member. When you’ve just received bad news or when are just having a really mojo-less day. Try it! You might be surprised by the power of this dance.  Rachel says she does it in public restrooms when she needs to, but she recommends against doing it in public. People might look at you funny, if you do, but come on!  Who cares?  This dance is based on American Sign Language, so theoretically, if you do it in public and someone knows sign language, they can you’re your dance.  Come on, let’s sign dance!

Step 1: Find a place you can move around and state your intention for the sign dance.  Maybe it’s “I’m going to open my heart.”  Or maybe it’s “I’d like to forgive my boss.”  Whatever it is- say it.

Step 2: Clasp your hands over her heart and say, “Love.”

Step 3: Sweep your arms out front in a semi-circle and touch your shoulders with your index fingers, and say, “Yourself.”

Step 4: Bring your crossed hands to your heart again, and say “Love” again.

Step 5: Throw your arms up in the air, flinging your arms to the side and looking to the sky, saying “All!”

Step 6: Moving your left hand into the shape of an “L,” hold the L above your heart, and then fling your arm out as if scattering seeds and say, “Let Go.”

Step 7: Sweep both outstretched arms from left to right, saying, “Move on.”

Step 8: Make a C with your left hand and hold it parallel to the ground.  Then lift your right hand through your left hand, as if it is a sprout growing out of a flower pot.  When your right hand reaches the top, extends your fingers all the way out like a beautiful blossom and say, “And Grow.”

Step 9: Moving your left hand around your face in a semi-circle to the right, say, “In Beauty.”

Step 10: Sweep your hand straight across your face and say, “And Wisdom.”

Step 11: Bending all the way over into a yoga forward bend, hold your thumbs together with your fingers outstretched and lift your hands all the way from the ground up to shoulder height and say, “Feel.”

Step 12: Flexing your biceps like Popeye, say “Strong,” shaking your fists to reinforce it.

Step 13: Step your right foot to the side and put your hands on your shoulders before saying, “Stand.”  Then fling your arms all the way out and look up to the heavens, saying “Tall.”

Step 14: Altogether, it goes like this.  “Love yourself.  Love all.  Let go and move on, in beauty and wisdom.  Feel strong.  Stand tall.”  Do it ten times, until you’ve got it down.  Now Sign Dance like you mean it!

How do you feel, Pinkies? I don’t know about you, but I’m feeling all open-hearted.  If nothing else, you probably laughed and feel a little goofy, and you gotta love that!

How was that for you? Can you think of some occasions when that might come in handy?  Post your comments and let’s chat about it. And keep Sign Dancing!

Letting go and moving on,

Lissa

My Mojo, Brought To Me By … ABBA

Sunday, November 15th, 2009

dancerDearest Pinkies, Please welcome Christine Reed, blogger, yogi, dancer, and … well … you’ll see. We’re thrilled to have her in the community, and to welcome her and her gorgeous words onto the Pink mainstage. Thank you, Christine, for giving us the opportunity to bear witness to your story. We love you!

Tiny Dancer

I have a very early memory of a small me, dancing in the kitchen of my Great Aunt. She was making us some dinner. I know it was dinner time because of the way the light was coming in the windows, making the dust motes flit like fire-lit fairies through the air.

The kitchen itself was golden and yellow and this added to the magic of the moment.

I was twirling and dancing to my own song, and I remember feeling utter peace and joy, and this was reflected back to me through my Great Aunt’s silent witnessing and big smiles.

I danced, and then …

Through a childhood that wrote large chapters of pain on my body, I danced.

Lost as I entered college, I danced.

Then, for a million reasons and for no reason at all, I stopped.

For the next many years, I struggled, trying to force my body into new containers of movement, experimenting with all forms of yoga until I found Kundalini and thought I was happy enough.

I danced again

Then, suddenly, in my 40th year of life, I went to a friend’s wedding, and I found myself on the dance floor, twirling to ABBA’s Dancing Queen.

“I don’t know the last time I saw you that happy,” my partner said to me later that night in our yellow living room. We talked for hours and then went to bed and got up and talked more.

Before the sobering effects of sleep, dancing felt alive and real to me, but by the next morning, I had an enthusiasm-hangover, and dance felt like a long ago dream, lost in the shadows of poor memory.

“But I am 40 years old!”

That number …

Over the next few months, that sentence would come out of my mouth a lot.

As I ordered my first pair of Capezio ballet slippers since I was about 20. (But I am 40 years old!)

As I stopped spontaneously into a dance supply store and purchased my first pair of high heeled tap shoes. (But I am 40 years old!)

As I danced every single day and started to watch my body respond to this thing that it so obviously was made to do. (But I am 40 years old!)

As I signed up for YogaDance teacher training, imagining I would be the oldest person there. (But I am 40 years old!)

At that teacher training, there were women in their 70’s and my voice of protestation began to shrink.

Validated

At that teacher training, women — dancers, yoginis, and movers of all sorts — women I respect, told me, “This is who you are.”

They witnessed me like my Great Aunt, and I felt myself becoming that little girl again.

I danced in ways I did not know I could in the light pouring in through our practice room windows.

I danced with power.

“I thought the windows might just blow out of the building!” One of those beautiful women told me as I panted, out of breath, and cried, out of my mind with joy.

And now …

Age has no power over me now. Yes, I am 40 years old, and I am a dancer and I am infinite.

lowestmainblisschickWhat have you Pinkies discovered (or rediscovered) that positively sets you on fire?

Spinning with mojo,

Christine

Owning Life and Celebrating Mojo: The Owning Pink/Nancy’s List Love Fest

Tuesday, November 3rd, 2009
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Pink Goddesses Susan Zelinski and Nancy Novack with Lissa

Hello dear Pinkies,

This weekend’s Love Fest in Sausalito was INCREDIBLE! We wish you all could have been there. We celebrated with Nancy’s List, our co-hosts and beneficiaries of the evening’s proceeds who worked so hard to put on this glorious love-filled event.

First, a bit about Nancy’s List. The organization was founded by Nancy Novack, who five years ago was diagnosed with stage 4 ovarian cancer. Aided by an undying “attitude of gratitude” and a stellar network of support, Nancy made a full and miraculous recovery. She went on to create Nancy’s List (in the same spirit as Craig’s List or Angie’s List) to provide those living with cancer and their loved ones the same kind of support she received – support that responds to the particular needs of the men, women, and children living with the disease. In short, the mission of Nancy’s list is to ensure that no one will ever go through cancer alone.

Oh, and did we mention what a total rock star Nancy is? She is a true Pink goddess who shines with energy, exuberance, and inner and outer beauty. It was she, along with her team of “angels,” who secured the venue, vendors, and auction items; provided donation boxes and volunteer signup sheets; lent their event planning expertise and experience; and attended to all the fine details that made the event so joyfully perfect.

The magnificent Studio 333

The magnificent Studio 333

The art gallery where the party was hosted – Studio 333 – couldn’t have been more perfect for a Love Fest. Everything about the space, from the size to the setup to the vibe, made for a smooth, flowing, and fun celebration of life. Special thanks and big Pink love to Christopher, the adorable, hardworking Pink God of a gallery owner, who bent over backwards to be sure that the evening was hitch-free (and then donned a hot-pink feather boa and tended bar). You rock, Christopher.

The setup included a silent auction room with hundreds of items for bid, from books to wine to private Tai Chi lessons to insanely cool (and valuable!) artwork. A volunteer room gave guests the chance to offer any services they may be able to provide (dog walking, food service, rides, child care, acupuncture, counseling, etc.) to the Nancy’s List community. Also on hand were the lovely ladies from Pinups for Purpose, an organization that creates and was selling) calendars featuring local breast cancer survivors in elegant, retro-style, pinup photographs.

Owning Creativity in the art room

Owning Creativity in the art room

Attendees had the opportunity to Own Spirituality in a sacred altar room, where they were invited to light a candle in honor of a person or intention. We also invited them to Own Surrender by writing down anything they wished to release out into the Universe, and place the slip of paper in a bowl upon the altar designated for that purpose. Upstairs, Owning Creativity was happening in the Love Fest art room, where Pinkies were cutting, drawing, picking and pasting together three fantastic group collages. Guests could even Own Sexuality by purchasing one of the many items donated by Pleasures of the Heart, an intimate apparel and accessories store in Mill Valley, CA.

Owning Sexuality - Merchandise from Pleasures of the Heart

Owning Sexuality: Merchandise from Pleasures of the Heart

Owning and Celebrating Life was at the heart of the festivities, which guests did by munching, mingling, drinking and dancing. Singer/songwriter Susan Zelinsky was the first artist to take the stage, her captivating voice providing a warm, sweet background as decked-out guests were filing in, being welcomed with pink leis, and greeting each other. As things started to swing, the acoustic stylings of the talented Jesse Brewster increased the party’s ambient level of mojo. The energy and dancing reached a whole new level when the Beat deFeet Drumming Circle with Fred and Friends began pounding out rhythms – it was irresistible not to move. Lots of Pinkies owned their bodies long into the night on that dance floor!

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Shaking my groove thang to the Fred and Friends drumming circle

The evening raised thousands of dollars for Nancy’s List- blessings to those of you who came to help us celebrate life and support Nancy’s List. For us, it was a valuable chance to reconnect with some of the Pink community and welcome a slew of new Pinkies into the Posse. As with the Posse Forum, every person came with a story, a need, an offering, and a willing and open heart. We heard stories of survival, inspiration, healing, intrigue; witnessed smiles, hugs, laughter, tears, and arms-around-each-other dancing. As one Pinkie so eloquently put it: “The ‘field’ was rich and potent with so many lovely, rich Beings. Every conversation was fertile and inspired and you could feel the pulse of transformation moving in the room and radiating-flowering through people’s Hearts.” If that doesn’t describe a Love Fest, I can’t imagine what does.

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Pinkies lovin' it up

We bow in thanks to Nancy, her Angels, Christopher, Neil, Matt, Susan, Jesse, Fred and Friends, along with all the volunteers, auction donors, and guests for co-creating such a magical, mojo-filled evening.

Still feelin’ the love,

Lissa & Joy

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Finding Your Play Mojo- Tips For Finding Balance

Sunday, July 19th, 2009

pink bear smallPinkies, please welcome back Mojo Mentor, Pink Wellness Guru & total Pink God Fred Krazeise, massage and reiki therapist, founder of the women’s wellness community Empowered and Fit, and all around kick ass guy.

In their new bestselling book, “Womenomics,” authors Claire Shipman (ABC News Correspondent) and Katty Kay (BBC World News American Newswoman) write about how highly credentialed and educated women have increased their value in the workplace. Based on a study conducted by Pepperdine University over a period of 19-years, Shipman and Kay note that companies with more women in top positions post higher profits that exceed their industry median.

What does this mean? It translates to greater leverage for women in the workplace. It means that if employers want to maintain their position, they will need to retain these highly skilled and experienced women workers. And Shipman and Kay contend, they’ll “adapt to our lifestyle demands.” Ultimately this translates to more opportunities for women to negotiate flexible work schedules that create balance between the demands of career and the needs of their families.

How Do We Keep Our Mojo By Balancing Work and Play?

Balancing work and the demands of home life have always been challenging for women, much more so than for men. According to my friend and colleague, Terrill Welch, a women’s leadership coach, “Women still usually have primary responsibility for home management, child-care and elder care.” Terrill emphatically suggests that companies establish a workplace culture that supports work/life balance for everyone in the office. “The encroachment of work into personal and family time is an issue for both women and men,” Welch says.

So that’s good news for women, right? Yes, but maybe no.

The good news is that women are in a better position than ever to negotiate “family friendly” work schedules. But, if all you are doing is substituting one form of work (your career) for another form of work (demands of home and family life), is that really contributing to your overall well-being?

What About Playtime For Parents?

Most of our adult daily life falls under one of two categories: work and play. And for adults the majority of time is usually spent on work with far too little time allowed for play. As adults, we tend to spend leisure time on escape activities, distractions from the responsibilities of work. And for working women, spending time with the family often means taking on the role of caregiver, taking the children to soccer practice, to the swim meet, planning activities and events for them.  Where’s the playtime for you?

It’s not an easy question to answer, for we are all brought up in society where we put our needs secondary to those of our children. It’s natural. Every parent wants a better life for their child, and that is only right.

But maybe there is another way. What I suggest is that we look for ways to engage in joyful, creative and spontaneous play that is vital to our well-being. It doesn’t mean that you are going to shirk your responsibilities as caregiver or chauffeur. Rather, I suggest that you look for ways to engage with your children in simple play.

The fondest memories of my childhood are the simplest memories – playing “catch” in the backyard with my father. Flying a kite with my mom and dad on a Saturday picnic. Helping my mom prepare a picnic lunch that we all enjoyed together as a family (ok, I admit there is some “work” in that!).

I turn to Vared DeLeeuw, who writes MomGrind and who is rapidly becoming one of my favorite writers on the Internet. She just published a great article titled 40+ Activities for Kids, and she lists some fabulous ideas and ways to re-introduce yourself to the idea of spontaneous play with your children.  Here are some of our thoughts on the subject.

Tips for Engaging in Play With Your Kids

1.Practice hula hoop. I actually remember doing this with my mom during the first hula hoop craze in the late 1950’s. It was a joyful moment, and is a lovely memory for me to this day.

2.Play hide and seek. I did that with my parents too- what fun.

3.Go exploring in the backyard. I remember “camping out” in our backyard with my dad and brother. What an adventure!

Here are some tips from Owning Pink’s friends on Twitter:

PaxOfMind Scrapbooking- they love photography. And it helps them with spelling, artistic/color arrangement. We also go to the zoo together and just went hot air ballooning too!

yayayarndivaRead silly stories together, make up your own stories and jokes.

sparkyourartI love to do art activities with kids. Paint, draw, clay, ect… Not only is it just fun, it also becomes a time to chat.

bhtrezevan I taught my son how to swim and ski… good mojo for all.

LarkedSing with your children. They love it when you both know all the words.

HappinessInsideBuild a wild dream vacation!

mominisraelMy mother did like a good game of Gin Rummy.

PaxOfMindWe kite.  We travel to high mountain lakes to enjoy the sport.

tamajamaPlay frisbee with them. And get your mojo by honestly trying to catch every one.

yayayarndivaBlow bubbles, jump in puddles or sprinkler, play in mud, cook together.

Some of Lissa’s faves:motherdaughter bubbles small

1. A day at the beach. Build sand castles, splash in the surf, throw tennis balls to the dogs, get wet and dirty, and do a whole lotta laughing!

2. Drawing on the sidewalk with chalk. I can get fancy, Siena can scribble all she wants, and we don’t have to get attached to the art we create. It’ll all be gone with the next dew.

3. Dancing together. I put on my best Pink Playlist and Siena, Matt & I boogie together until we’re so exhausted we feel like we’re gonna fall over!

4. Hiking. We make up stories as we go. Mommy gets her exercise and Siena gets to run around in the woods.

5. Painting- with brushes, feathers, fingers, or whatever else we feel like! Since I’m an artist, we have loads of goodies to create with. We make paintings together, both of us with brush in hand. It’s great fun!

6. Have a scavenger hunt. Remember those from your childhood? I can’t wait ’til Siena is a bit older so we can do this one. One of my favorite memories from being a kid.

These are just a few examples, but I hope you can see how “playing” with your children can help rekindle the inner child in you. And what better example to set for your children than showing them that even as an adult, it is “ok” to play, to be spontaneous, to laugh and squeal with joy!

Rather than teaching them how to live, you are living life and showing them how to live.

What a wonderful lesson that would be.

Wishing you peace and play,
Fred Krazeise

Lissa’s Note: Thank you Fred! I love this and totally agree that we can’t be Superwomen, and having fun yourself while playing with your kids is KEY to keeping you mojo. But don’t forget, Pinkies, that it’s also important to take time JUST FOR YOU- without the kids. I know it’s hard (especially when that guilty voice rings in your ear while you’re at the spa/movies/lunch with the girls/yoga).  But YOU time is just as key to keeping balance, recharging your mojo, and making sure the time you spend with your family is quality time :)  Thanks again, Fred. You rock, brother!