Since we’re beginning Healthy Thursdays here at Owning Pink, I thought I’d start with reprinting an article I co-wrote for www.bettyconfidential.com (I’m their OB/GYN on call). With Sexpert Amber Madison, we tackle the mythology of the G-spot, how to find the G-spot, and what it can do for you.
Much like the Loch Ness monster and the Bermuda Triangle, the G-Spot has a bit of an elusive existence. Technically, it’s not there. Sexually, many women can’t imagine their lives without it. So what is the G-Spot, where is it, and does it live up the hype?
Does the G-Spot really exist?
Dr. Lissa: According to the teacher in my Gross Anatomy lab, the answer is no. When we were gently dissecting the vagina, someone asked, “So where’s the G-Spot,” and my teacher, with his thick Eastern European accent, said, “Zer is no G-Spot in ze human female.” Okay, good to know. The rest of my medical training pretty much agreed with my Gross Anatomy professor. We were taught that the clitoris is the cornerstone of sexual arousal, and that those who swear they orgasm from vaginal intercourse do so by stimulating the clitoris through positioning, such that something is rubbing the clitoris directly or indirectly. But as is the case with much I learned in medical school, my patients tell me otherwise. Over the years, thousands of patients swear that there is a place on the anterior wall of the vagina that just hits the spot. So I asked an expert in the field once, and he told me that studies have been done where every part of the female vagina has been examined under the microscope, and there is nothing on the anterior wall of the vagina that looks any different than the rest of the vagina. Therefore, the G-Spot does not exist. Period. But I believe in many things I cannot see, so this rationale doesn’t completely work for me. Do I think there’s really a G-Spot? Yup. I think so. Is it the end-all be-all of sex? Nope.
Where is the G-Spot?
Dr. Lissa: Those who swear by the G-Spot say it lies 2-3 inches inside the vagina, on the anterior wall, just under the bladder. They describe this area as having a different ridgey texture than the rest of the smooth vagina (although I can tell you from examining tens of thousands of vaginas that all healthy vaginas before menopause are ridgey all over). Those who live for the G-Spot tell me that the sensations they experience from stimulation of the G-Spot are completely different than those they feel from stimulation of the clitoris. While the clitoris is much more sensitive and easily aroused, the G-Spot requires much deeper stimulation, but supposedly, results in much deeper orgasms. Is this true? It must be. Too many women say so – and I’m more inclined to believe them than the Eastern European Gross Anatomy teacher who swears it isn’t so. (For more anatomy, refer to the Pretty Pink Pussy Tour).
What sex positions are the best for stimulating the G-Spot?
Amber: Any sex position where the penis is rubbing against the front wall of the vagina is a good position to “hit the spot.” Many women find that doggy style, reverse cowgirl (girl on top turned backwards), or any other position where a guy is entering from behind works well. Whether you think you enjoy G-Spot stimulation or not, trying new sex positions can never be a bad idea. Many women will tell you that their bodies are changing with age. Positions that may not have done much for you a few years ago may feel completely different now.
Why can’t I find my G-Spot?
Dr. Lissa: If you’ve read the manuals, tried all the techniques, and can’t seem to locate your G-Spot, I’m with you, girlfriend. I am one of the MANY women who cannot personally find mine. Frankly, the clitoris works just fine for me, thank you very much, but I’m totally supportive of those women and their partners who want to go looking for their G-Spots. Happy hunting! I’m all about sexual exploration. Sure, Own Your Sexuality, see if you can experience multiple orgasms, work your way through the Kama Sutra, and hunt for that elusive G-Spot. But if you can’t find your G-Spot, don’t fret. You’re not alone. Most women can only experience orgasms through direct stimulation of the clitoris. While some of these women can orgasm through vaginal intercourse, it’s usually because they’ve mastered the art of positioning themselves and their partners into such a position that the clitoris gets some tender loving care. Remember that the ultimate goal of sex is intimacy. If you’re feeling sexually satisfied, don’t let yourself or your partner stress about achieving something beyond what you already have. You might get so caught up in G-Spot hunting that you forget to have fun.
If I find my G-Spot can I forget about my clitoris?
Amber: It’s very possible that you really enjoy vaginal stimulation or even the stimulation of one spot a few inches up your vagina. It’s also possible that as good as that feels, you can’t have an orgasm unless your clitoris is being stimulated as well. In that case, think of your G-Spot as something that adds to your orgasms, but doesn’t necessarily create them. Needing clitoral stimulation in order to have an orgasm doesn’t necessarily mean that your G-Spot doesn’t exist; it means it may act more as a booster shot. But no matter how sensitive your G-Spot, think of it as something that works with the clitoris, as opposed to instead of it.
Dr. Lissa: Recently, the G-Shot, which injects collagen into the G-spot in order to temporarily amplify the sensation of the G-spot, came to my attention. Does it work? I can’t say. It’s too early, but there are doctors performing this procedure around the country. Do I do this procedure. No. I guess I prefer not to inject foreign substances into people’s bodies if not medically necessary. But I’m not judging and have no problem with those who wish to explore. For those of you who have been hunting for your G-spot and are looking to jazz up your sex life, I thought I’d bring it to your attention. Just remember that for women, sexual arousal is largely mental. The best thing you can do to jazz up your sex life is to teach your body how to receive pleasure through self-cultivation (a fancy name for masturbation) and an active, sensual fantasy life. Not only does teaching your body how to experience pleasure help your sex life, it also has many health benefits, as described on Christiane Northrup’s website.
To find out how healthy your sex life is, take the quiz. Want to know how much sex is enough? Here are the results of our straw poll. Or check out our Pink Guide To Orgasm, for how sex can help you prevent swine flu. And for those of you who wound up here by Google-searching “pretty pussy,” here are my thoughts on that. And for more thoughts on health and gynecology, check out Questions to Ask Your Gynecologist.
What about you Pinkies? Let’s take the G-spot out from under the covers and talk about it. Have you discovered yours? Does it rock your world? Or do you agree with my Eastern European Gross Anatomy that zer is no G-spot in ze human female? Tell us! We wanna know…
With Meg Ryan-like shrieks of pleasure,
Dr. Lissa
Thanks to all of you, the Pink Posse is expanding every day in all directions – and so is our vocabulary. There are some things that just can’t be explained by words in the English lexicon, and so we’ve come up with a Pink Dictionary (a “Pinktionary”) with some language as unique as the Pink Posse itself.
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