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Politics, Schmolitics

I’m about to admit something very un-American.

I hate politics.

I suck at politics.

I don’t understand politics.

Lissa Rankin's picture

A Love Letter To Childless Mommies On Mother's Day

A Note from the Editor:  As Lissa and I discussed her writing a new blog post for Mother's Day this year we realized that it felt much bigger and divinely timed to re-post this Mother's Day post from last year. It was so impactful, and we have so many new readers to Owning Pink, that we don't want anyone to miss this message and, for those who've already read it, perhaps you'll get even more out of it this time around.

Monica Wilcox's picture

Equality Or Lip Service?

Equality for our Daughters

Wow! Can we all agree that last week was a hard kick to the uterus?

I usually hate to write about “hot topics” after they’ve turned cold but the uterus doesn’t really fall into the hot topic category; it’s more of a buried topic; fuming in the coffin, clawing its way out, yet again, to eat the female population alive.  Yes, it may have slunk back into its shallow grave but trust me, it’ll be back. It just keeps creeping back.

Lissa Rankin's picture

2 Fetuses Called As Witnesses in Ohio Court. Say What?

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Yes, you heard me right. I just read that two fetuses were called as witnesses in an Ohio courtroom. It sounds laughable, doesn’t it? I mean, seriously. How can a fetus be a witness?

Lissa Rankin's picture

Should San Francisco Ban Circumcision?

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A while back, I wrote a hot post -- "A Case Against Circumcision" -- about a super controversial issue which CNN reports is showing up in the limelight now that a group seeking to ban circumcision of any male younger than 18 in San Francisco has succeeded in getting their controversial measure on the November ballot. If passed, it would be illegal for a parent to choose to have a boy circumcised, and if he wanted it done, he’d have to wait until he was 18 to make his own choice. Failing to follow the law would become a misdemeanor offense punishable by a fine of up to $1,000 or up to one year in jail. There would be no religious exemptions -- period.

I’m flatly anti-circumcision -- boys or girls. As I laid out in my other post, I don’t believe we should be imposing our own plastic surgery notions on young boys without their consent. Why? Here are some thoughts.

7 Reasons Not to Circumcise Your Baby
Lissa Rankin's picture

For All The Childless Mommies On Mother’s Day

Mother's Day Childless Mommies

Tomorrow is Mother’s Day, so let me start by sending out a great big whopping Happy Mother’s Day to those of you who are celebrating your fabulous mothers and whooping it up with your fabulous children. I’m sending you all my love and sending out three big WOOTs in hopes that you have a wonderful day.

But as much as I love you and wish you well, today’s post is not for you (no offense!).

As an OB/GYN, I know Mother’s Day can be a tough day for many women -- those who have been unable to conceive, lost pregnancies, had abortions, given their baby up for adoption, chosen not to reproduce, or wound up having that decision made by default. And if you’ve inherited children through marriage, you may feel sort of second fiddle to the biological Mommies, even if you’re the one making lunch for six kids every day while biological Mommy lives on her boyfriend’s yacht.

If you’re one of those women -- and if you are, you’re SO not alone -- Mother’s Day brunches, kids making hand-woven pot holders, and over-the-top flower displays at the local grocery store may leave you feeling…well…left out. Or maybe even teary.

But I’m here to tell you that you don’t have to bear children to be a Mommy and you don’t have to be a Mommy to make the huge difference in the life of a child.

You Don’t Have To Bear Children To Be A Mommy
Lissa Rankin's picture

Texas Bill Emotionally Blackmails Women Seeking Abortion

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Here we are almost 40 years after the Supreme Court’s historic Roe vs. Wade decision, and legislators are still threatening a woman's right to reproductive choice. Texas lawmakers just passed a bill requiring that women wishing to terminate a pregnancy must first undergo an ultrasound and then take some time to think about her decision. The state house approved the bill yesterday, and the state senate supported a similar anti-abortion measure last month. The final say will rest in the hands of Texas governor Rick Perry. Apparently, Perry praised Texas lawmakers for their vote -- which makes my stomach sink.

As an OB/GYN reading this CNN News story on International Women’s Day, my heart is breaking.

You may think it’s simple enough. A woman comes to her doctor and wants an abortion. Why not slap a scanner on her belly and take a sneak peek?

Lissa Rankin's picture

For Victims Of Molestation

Art by Tricia Walman :www.seeyourvisionart.com

I did my Ask The Girlfriend Gyno chat in front of 400 students at Sonoma State University this week, and during my talk, I spoke about how I believe talking about your vagina can be very healing. After all, not only is the vagina where we create life and experience pleasure; it’s also where many traumas happen -- sexual molestation, rape, abortion, childbirth traumas, painful experiences at the gynecologist’s office, and traumatic sex. When we don’t release these traumas, they fester and manifest in ways we might not even associate with the original trauma. They might express as depression, eating disorders, or chronic pelvic pain. But when we talk about our vaginas, when we seek solace in the company of others, we set ourselves free.

Lissa Rankin's picture

Standing For What You Believe: An OB/GYN’s Thoughts on Abortion

Okay, I’m gonna go out on a limb here and write a post that literally scares the bejesus out of me. The other day, I was doing a podcast interview with Owning Pink blogger Stacey Curnow, and she asked me how it feels to write stuff like I did in my upcoming book What’s Up Down There? Questions You’d Only Ask Your Gynecologist If She Was Your Best Friend, which is more about me and my vagina than you probably ever wanted to know. In this book, I write about the sexual dysfunction I suffered with my ex-husband, the HPV I contracted from my current husband, the porn my hubby and enjoy from time to time, the elective C-section I decided to have, and yes -- I write about the painful decision I had to make as an OB/GYN about whether or not to do abortions.

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