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How to Tell the Difference Between Lust and Love

Guest Author, September 14, 2011

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Adapted from Dr. Judith Orloff's Guide to Intuitive Healing: 5 Steps to Physical, Emotional, and Sexual Wellness

As a psychiatrist, I’ve seen how intense sexual attraction is notorious for obliterating common sense and intuition in the most sensible people. Why? Lust is an altered state of consciousness programmed by the primal urge to procreate. Studies suggest that the brain in this phase is much like a brain on drugs. MRI scans illustrate that the same area lights up when an addict gets a fix of cocaine as when a person is experiencing the intense lust of physical attraction. Also in the early stage of a relationship, when the sex hormones are raging, lust is fueled by idealization and projection - you see what you hope someone will be or need them to be - rather than seeing the real person, flaws and all.

Is Santa Real? What To Tell The Kids

Lissa Rankin, December 12, 2010

Is Santa Real?

Someone in the Owning Pink community recently asked:

“How do you view Santa? Am I the only one who feels odd telling my daughter who never believed in Santa to keep the truth to herself? I feel so torn on this subject. I need some great Pink advice.”

I was inspired to write about this and invite the rest of you to join in on this conversation.

Let's Talk Sex

Jessie Fano, November 29, 2010

let's talk about sex

In a previous post I said that I think we talk about talking about sex all the time -- and hardly ever ACTUALLY talk about sex. And when I do talk about it, it’s easier for me to be anonymous because it removes a whole layer of judgment most people bring to the subject – sometimes appropriately. Sex is a really personal subject and I don’t necessarily want my neighbors shoving their sex lives on me while we water our roses over morning coffee.

On the other hand, NOT talking about sex tends to lead to not thinking about it, not exploring it and not owning it. This is the whole premise of Lissa’s book (What's Up Down There?) and I’m a total believer that to be whole beings, we have to bring our sex outta the closet and into the open – even if anonymously.