“I'm not here to make ‘friends,’ I'm here to make a difference.”

I recently saw this tweet slither across my screen under the twitter #leadership list and it made me angry. Tweets don’t usually make me mad so I paid attention.

I’m all about making a difference in the world AND about honoring good friendships that help me make this happen. This quote poked me on both levels by implying that incivility is “ok” for a “good cause.” That pisses me off as a planetary citizen because I simply don’t believe that the ends justify the means. However, this wasn’t the only thing really bubbling under my frown. Going a little deeper I realized that this flippant excuse to be mean to people bothered me on another, much more subtle level, one that I’m sensitive to as a businesswoman, mom and friend.

Someone asked me today how my book tour was going, and I found myself answering, “I’m alive.” As soon as I said it, I realize how negative that sounds. When someone asks how we’re doing and we say “I’m alive,” it implies that we’re barely more than dead. But when I said it, I honestly meant that I feel super-duper alive -- in the full realm of human experience way. As in, I feel real. I feel raw. I don’t feel numb or flatlined, in any way.

What this means is that I’m good -- and bad. I’m giddy and grieving. I’m excited and disappointed and passionate and sexy and self-reflective and curious and frustrated and open. I feel vulnerable and uncomfortable. I feel called and appreciated. I am ALIVE. What more can we as humans ask for?

I have to admit, I’m pretty darn bubbly. If you meet me in person, you’re likely to think I’m a people person who loves being around loads of my peeps. And on one level, that’s true. But I’m discovering something very interesting on my book tour for What’s Up Down There? Questions You’d Only Ask Your Gynecologist If She Was Your Best Friend. Although Monistat is footing the bill (bless you Monistat!), I intentionally chose to stay with friends along the way because I DO love people. And I figured my friends would be a grounding force for me as I navigate a process that makes me very spinny.

It's that time again.. Happy Saturday Posse Party! The author of this post is someone you might of met before on the Magical Eyes Tour. In her video interview, Sheena shared the transformation Magical Eyes gave to her. Welcome back, Sheena LaShay to the Owning Pink stage as she spreads her love just a little bit further.