I can’t tell you how often I’ve heard the phrase, “You’re so skinny, I hate you.”  It’s an especially difficult phrase for me to hear, since I was once so fat that I felt nothing but hugely unlovable. 

What does it mean when we utter that phrase to slender women – sometimes even total strangers?  Does it mean we hate them?  Is it supposed to be a compliment? 

How could “hate” ever be considered a compliment?